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blackmail - 1/7/2008 9:29:57 AM

Prinsexx

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A person desribing himself as a slave owner contacted me by email here shortly before Christmas.
We mailed a number of times. We exchanged telephome numbers. We spoke: he always was the one to call me.
he was insistant that we met and I would not do to his home and I have resisted a relationship with him.
Laste week he emailed my place of work. He has told them that I falsely representy myself and that I am unfit and a danger to work with minors (I work with 16 plus tears of age as one of my professions).
The 'slabder' is in email format and I have had open discussions with my employers today. It has meant 'coming out' for me as a member of this site. They are fine with this and do not feel that my private life impinges upon my work.
But the Dom is persistent and I do not feel it will stop at this.
I have no way of knowing if he is doing this to anyone else he has contacted on this site but I fear he might.
Tomorrow I have made my mind up I will go to the Police as I feel it is slander.
What else can be fone to protect others from him?
I do not know if this is a question for a Moderator or what next step to take.
I do not weant to remove myself from this site or to feel forced to cjange my profile.
Prin

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 9:36:42 AM

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That sucks so bad!
I've had my profile from other sites dragged into court to make me look bad. It's pathetic when people stoop so low. I'm sorry you had to go through this.

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 9:40:10 AM

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how did he know where you worked?

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 9:42:19 AM

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Man, what a raw deal there. I think you are absolutely right in going to the police. If you could get a restraining order that would be great. I can tell you I have personally had someone arrested for telephonic harassment (non lifestyle related, the guy was just a cock). So maybe that is an option for you if he continues to call. Of course the other answer might be to just arrange a meeting and have the everliving shit kicked out of him, but I digress. I'm unsure what a profile change or removal would do, as this guy already seems to be a lot closer to you than CM.
-R
Ps- carry a personal defense weapon if you don't already. You never know about someone like this.

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 9:42:49 AM

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it is harrassment...and yes illegal

essentially he is stalking you.

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 9:56:45 AM

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I told him I was a lecturer and he knew the area. All he has to do is google each institution and ask for staff directory.
We had got to first names by then.

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 9:57:36 AM

BossyShoeBitch

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There are also lots of ways to turn the tables on this person in question as well... I am assuming he reads your posts?

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 10:23:49 AM

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Going to the police is a wise choice as well as filing a restraining order against him. It is illegal for what he is doing to you.

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 10:43:02 AM

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Over the years I have been harassed by husbands, boyfriends. Hell I even got one on here recently although I suspect that was from a post as I not talked to anyone on here. The girls I was with would "come clean" and give them my phone number email address that kind of thing. The men would call and threaten me. My reply was typically this is my address I will be home all night bring your "bad self" over and let's wrestle. I never heard from any of them again. The point is to deal with it head on don't allow the bully to bully you.

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 10:46:30 AM

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Sweetie, you do need to go to the police, he is only going to get worse. Drop me a line and I will help in any way I can.

Gwyn

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 11:46:01 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

There are also lots of ways to turn the tables on this person in question as well... I am assuming he reads your posts?

yes he does read my posts (well I am assuming he does) but I am now feeling inerved as to what to do or say even here,

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 11:47:13 AM

Owner4SexSlave

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I have to say, this is complete bullshit on his part. Chances are he's done this before in the past, and it worked. So he's doing it again and again, and he'll probally do it yet again. Doms like this will just troll for another victim.

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 11:47:55 AM

Prinsexx

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Gwynvyd

Sweetie, you do need to go to the police, he is only going to get worse. Drop me a line and I will help in any way I can.

Gwyn

Dear Gwyn
I have been talking this through with my sister and she has also said I should go to the Police.
This will be the second time I have had to do this (different individual).
I'll mail yu.
Thanks hon

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 11:58:22 AM

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I had someone threaten to out me with my work. We had already been seeing each other and playing. I wont go into the details. I did mail him and let him know what type of felony it was. This person was already going to court to get his drivers liscence back. I know noe how to stupid it was. It sound s like you were way more cautious than me. Anyway, red flag because he was already entangled in that. He also had lost his job and was living on a severance package. This meant he had nothing to lose.

Seems like whenever things dont go the way they want, certain unbalanced people in the lifestyle threaten this. Unfortunately, I have heard of it before and you wont be the last. We need to protect ourselves. Not just subs. Doms too.

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 12:05:50 PM

hisannabelle

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greetings prinsexx,

no words of wisdom, only agreeing with what others have said - go to the police. i would recommend also cmailing one of the mods - they probably will not be able to do anything here, but they might be able to. you are one of my favorite people to read here, and i really feel for you...especially because i have worried extensively in the past about something similar happening to me or to my academic career. i hope that this all gets worked out and will be thinking of you and sending warm fuzzy thoughts your way.

respectfully,
annabelle.

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 12:13:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

I had someone threaten to out me with my work. We had already been seeing each other and playing. I wont go into the details. I did mail him and let him know what type of felony it was. This person was already going to court to get his drivers liscence back. I know noe how to stupid it was. It sound s like you were way more cautious than me. Anyway, red flag because he was already entangled in that. He also had lost his job and was living on a severance package. This meant he had nothing to lose.

Seems like whenever things dont go the way they want, certain unbalanced people in the lifestyle threaten this. Unfortunately, I have heard of it before and you wont be the last. We need to protect ourselves. Not just subs. Doms too.

It was at the point at which I told him on the phone I had taken a Master. He said: I am going to keep tabs on you' in a way which sounded like he honestly felt he owned me. He even said; you went to see P because you missed me.
Police tomorrow with ALL his details.
At least I talked it through completely with my employers.
How do we protect ourselves?
become recluses?

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 12:13:50 PM

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Prin, I found this info......http://www.bullyonline.org/related/stalking.htm
it has a bunch of links and information
The slime ball has taken it beyond "simple" stalking, use his email address, his emails, phone, pics, etc and anything else you have on him, take it to the police as the other posts say.
Dont let him get away with it, dont give him that power (great considering we are on a power exchange site but this isnt consentual)
wot a wanker
one thing I noticed from the site I mentioned above and that is a stalker profile....

Internet stalker profile (and any stalker, especially a male)

If you've been wooed by a cyberstalker, this profile will bring you back to reality:

lives in a 1-room apartment which hasn't been cleaned for months - if ever
has stacks of pornographic magazines in his bedroom area
has poor personal hygiene
has poor table manners
has poor social etiquette
hasn't changed the sheets on his bed for months, which are now best described as crusty
has a bathroom, the state of which doesn't bear thinking about
lives on pizza and beer/coke, the remnants of which litter his apartment
may have an unusual pet (eg ferret) which has free run of the apartment
is either significantly over- or under-weight
has a small moustache or other facial hair
has not held down any job for more than a couple of years, probably less
has no friends
has no life outside the Internet

Good luck Prin...and if I can do anything let me know, Ive had a couple over the years, and they make me soooooo angry I wanna staple their sacs to their ankles
Lucy

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 12:15:46 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

quote:

ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

There are also lots of ways to turn the tables on this person in question as well... I am assuming he reads your posts?

yes he does read my posts (well I am assuming he does) but I am now feeling inerved as to what to do or say even here,

Hey, outter, this is ugly, abusive, small-minded and accomplishes nothing. Stop. Fix it. Or wait for your karma to bitch-slap you.

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 12:20:36 PM

Prinsexx

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This one's name stacks up. he gave his real name to my emplyer.
He has sent me details of his 17 acre garden, the fact that he owns a Hotel, is a property developer etc etc.
On the phone he sounds like a 'proper' English gentleman.
I am going to print everything off and give to the Police.
You know, this is not the first time I have done this. It dragged me down to hell with the previous 'stalker' but I think the threat of cuffing him, a helicopter or some tracker dogs might be just what he needs to give him a reality check.
I might be a sub but that's NOT synonymous with stupid.

Thank you for the support here and by email and from all my buddies.

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RE: blackmail - 1/7/2008 12:22:25 PM

Prinsexx

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subtee

Hey, outter, this is ugly, abusive, small-minded and accomplishes nothing. Stop. Fix it. Or wait for your karma to bitch-slap you.

I think his karma just did.
Subtee.......(no words just hugs)

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