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RE: blackmail - 1/8/2008 3:39:00 AM   
ExciteableDom


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Status: offline 		"I have to say, this is complete bullshit on his part.   Chances are he's done this before in the past, and it worked.   So he's doing it again and again, and he'll probally do it yet again.    Doms like this will just troll for another victim. "

Its NOT a Dom! I'd say it was a cunt but I love cunt, I'd call it a nigger but no-one would understand that in my world that's a state of mind NOT a colour. Whatever. it must be stopped. D'ya know the local Bikers perchance?

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RE: blackmail - 1/8/2008 6:04:20 AM   
givemyall


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Well suprise, suprise, his profile has gone, I guess we should all be careful if we see any new profiles of very tall, late 50's, very posh sounding men that live near Preston (UK) that also like gardening.  It would appear Prinsexx that he is the one with something to hide.... love the new journal by the way LOL

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RE: blackmail - 1/8/2008 10:02:36 AM   
Prinsexx


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Status: offline 		darlin: but he still hasn't stopped.
emailing me privately to say he will stop at nothing.
telling me i am to take drugs to him. it's really pathological stuff.
all of it is getting printed and taking to the police.
thank you for all your heavenly support.
will PM you


< Message edited by Prinsexx -- 1/8/2008 10:05:16 AM >

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RE: blackmail - 1/8/2008 10:19:41 AM   
Prinsexx


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Status: offline 		I have had a very supportive email from the CM support team, stating what they would agvise a US citizen. I shall take their advice within the confines of what I know I can do in the UK.
His profile has disappeared but he will be back using yet another user name. Very distinguished though by his very 'proper' English accent, and property developer personna. Very scary and unremitting but then I can hardly 'out' a person whom I am accusing of outing me.
It isn't my bdsm predilections which I am ashamed of, or indeed ny sexuality. But being accused of being a threat to minors is a vile way of manipulating me.
I guess he really does have more to hide than me though.
I just wanted to say a huge and heartfelt thankyou for all the support, points of view, advice and indeed new friends thatthis experience has brought to me.
Together we stand, divided we fall.

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RE: blackmail - 1/8/2008 3:00:38 PM   
camille65


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Status: offline 		I'm glad that you are not backing down but instead going to the police about this situation. You say that this is the second time this has happened to you, and that you want to know what can be done to prevent this type of thing. Prinsexx I'm going to be blunt.  Take control of yourself, stop handing out information about your life to strangers on the internet. Stop responding to his email, delete it unread. Possibly ask your new master to step in and take charge of your email account for you temporarily. Most importantly please take a look at what you are doing that is making this possible. I truly feel that you are too open about your personal life, that makes it easy to locate and harass you. Don't tell someone you've only spoken with a few times where you work or exactly what it is that you do for work. Leave that for when you get to know each other more. If need be then lie. Lie about what you do, obscure the facts. You can say what you do for a living without revealing pertinant details. Public speaking would be sufficient. When I say lie, I mean lie by omission. Do not leave yourself open to this type of crap please. You are showing strength by going to the police, please continue that strength in the manner in which you converse with people online. Keep yourself safe.

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RE: blackmail - 1/8/2008 3:13:29 PM   
lronitulstahp


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I might be a sub but that's NOT synonymous with stupid
you've proven that, and much more...submissives aren't weaklings, easy targets, or arbitrary playthings for emotional cripples who get off on using the generally kind and trusting nature of most submissives against them.

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RE: blackmail - 1/8/2008 3:36:17 PM   
Prinsexx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: camille65

I'm glad that you are not backing down but instead going to the police about this situation. You say that this is the second time this has happened to you, and that you want to know what can be done to prevent this type of thing. Prinsexx I'm going to be blunt.  Take control of yourself, stop handing out information about your life to strangers on the internet. Stop responding to his email, delete it unread. Possibly ask your new master to step in and take charge of your email account for you temporarily. Most importantly please take a look at what you are doing that is making this possible. I truly feel that you are too open about your personal life, that makes it easy to locate and harass you. Don't tell someone you've only spoken with a few times where you work or exactly what it is that you do for work. Leave that for when you get to know each other more. If need be then lie. Lie about what you do, obscure the facts. You can say what you do for a living without revealing pertinant details. Public speaking would be sufficient. When I say lie, I mean lie by omission. Do not leave yourself open to this type of crap please. You are showing strength by going to the police, please continue that strength in the manner in which you converse with people online. Keep yourself safe.


I'm not defending myself here. Well I am trying not to sound defensive. The problem with the UK is that it is really a very very small place and if we take just England well I can drive from one end of it to another in three hours.
We have data disks go missing in the postal system, we have public electoral registers. Anyone can identity fraud anyone. I am traceable by my first name alome on a google search of the best fyess of where I might work.
My problem is I suppose that I am too trusting. And my problem is that I try so hard not to lie.....but he was so pathological to control me that he even uncovered those omissiioms I had made to try to protect ,y identity.
If I were a dom and got the slightest hint of rejection I would feel insulted at most but definitely just walk away and let goWithout malics. Afterall if he were that confident in his abilities he would have taken the atitude oh well plenty more fish(ettes) in the sea.

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RE: blackmail - 1/8/2008 3:43:12 PM   
camille65


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Status: offline 		That is why I say that I think you really need to hold back on your personal information. You say you are too trusting, so you are aware of it. You just need to actualize that awareness into your online communication. I do hope things work out, that he is stopped from his freaky stalking. I hope too that you are being extra aware in your RL. Making sure that he isn't physically watching or following you. Please be careful. I tried not to sound harsh but I felt it important that you understand, yes you are too trusting. Trusting is a good thing IMO but blindly trusting a stranger online is not so much a good thing.... Apologies if I came across harshly when I was striving for bluntness, I'm not often blunt or aggressive in my words.

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RE: blackmail - 1/8/2008 3:54:31 PM   
trappedinamuseum


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Status: offline 		Before you go to the police, my suggestion is to familiarize yourself with the slander/libel laws in the UK.  I don't know anything about the laws in the UK, but what you are outlining would be considered libel in the US (because it was a fixed medium like writing) and not speech, which would then make it slander. 

Good Luck.  You have my empathy.


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RE: blackmail - 1/8/2008 3:57:39 PM   
Prinsexx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: camille65

That is why I say that I think you really need to hold back on your personal information. You say you are too trusting, so you are aware of it. You just need to actualize that awareness into your online communication. I do hope things work out, that he is stopped from his freaky stalking. I hope too that you are being extra aware in your RL. Making sure that he isn't physically watching or following you. Please be careful. I tried not to sound harsh but I felt it important that you understand, yes you are too trusting. Trusting is a good thing IMO but blindly trusting a stranger online is not so much a good thing.... Apologies if I came across harshly when I was striving for bluntness, I'm not often blunt or aggressive in my words.

No it's ok really. A little harshness at a time like this is good for me.
The fact that he can trace where I live is freaking me somewhat. You know I do what I can and went through this in my vanilla marriage (got tracked across Europe).
Just let go of me is my message.
Submission has to be consensual no matter what freakin way it is otherwise justified.


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RE: blackmail - 1/8/2008 4:33:56 PM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		Use another name, a middle name, or the name of a friend.  I usually do til I get to know someone. a few people didn't care for that, but that is their problem, not mine.  I also don't give out my phone #'s easily. I talk for a while on messenger til I feel safe enough to meet in person. 

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RE: blackmail - 1/8/2008 10:20:52 PM   
sammiebabygirl


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Status: offline 		Just curious, but what is Master Paul doing about all this. Being your Master, he has an obligation to protect you, doesn't he?
 
jen

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RE: blackmail - 1/9/2008 12:29:04 PM   
Prinsexx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

Just curious, but what is Master Paul doing about all this. Being your Master, he has an obligation to protect you, doesn't he?
 
jen

There was an aspect to this that I hadn't experienced before.about Master P.:  lengthy phone calls and talking each fear of mine through with me rationaly and carefully.
Staying with me, being there for me and actually being a true friend within the dynamic.
I am a tough old bird and this is not the first time I have had Doms who get viscious when I walk away or when I don't comply. The blakmailer in question isn;t a Dom he's a control freak. I checked out his details today and he is a landowner, and hotelier and simply used to getting what he wants by destroying and controlling others. But he was here on CM and I have all his mails, face pic and private emails and his accusations and slander. It still hasn;t stopped....someone (and of course they cannot tell me as it's 'data' protection......someone has gone to the trading standards authrority.
Look; is rejection so hard to take/ Did he think I would acvtually want him after he had destroyed me, even if that were possible? I submit because I am a submissive bot a prostitute who needs to be spanked or fisted to get money off a man who believes himself to be wealthier, and better than any other Dom.
As for Master P? I 'chose' him because I adore him.

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RE: blackmail - 1/9/2008 12:48:29 PM   
MistressNoName


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Status: offline 		Prin,

Surely you understand, when you allow yourself a moment of calm, that none of this is happening because some Dom got rejected and now his feelings are hurt and he's lashing out. Surely you know that those of us who are stable psychiatrically and emotionally realize the difference between a consensual exchange of power and an abusive situation. And so surely you must also understand that it was nothing you did that is causing this man to behave the way he is. If you made any mistake here, it might've been in revealing information about yourself that made it a little easier for him to track your whereabouts. But that could happen in any situation. He, unfortunately is the unstable one who has chosen to use your personal information to hurt you in some way. And he will continue as long as he sees that he is frightening you. He will continue to threaten, etc. I'm almost positive that he is reading this board and knows how this is affecting you. My suggestion to you is to seek good legal advice in this matter, cover all corners, make sure you have adequate supports in place, which I think you have done or are doing. Next, continue on with your life. Learn from your mistakes. But I think you should stop putting your worry out on this board. If there are people on this board who are part of your support system, may I suggest you remain in contact with them via email on the other side. I mean you no disrespect, but I think you have got to start seriously taking better care of yourself in this matter. Let the legal authorities deal with this matter.

Best,

MNN

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RE: blackmail - 1/9/2008 3:39:32 PM   
Prinsexx


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Status: offline 		I have all Avenues covered.

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