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JBristol -> Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 5:17:56 AM)
Hi Everyone, ive been a member here for a while but only recently started to become more active, and started to message a few Dommes. i read the profiles/journal and forum posts from the people i would like to know better, then send a polite, respectful message to introduce myself, and always include a photo, i dont even get upset when i get no acknowledgement whatsoever back, thats anyones perogative, and i fully understand that many of the Dommes here will be inundated with replies. Today i did get a reply which i would like to share with you all................... " Cut your hair off to normal length first, slave" (my italics) Thats it!! Sum total!! Now where do i start? Apart from the fact that i always struggle when someone trys to tell me what is normal. In a cpl of messages ive sent (though not to this person) i have stated that if we did click, and they instructed me to do so i would have no problem whatsoever in cutting my hair, indeed sometime in the future if i ever do enter into a Dom/sub relationship (and the chances are looking slim judging from the responses (or lack of ) from this site) im expecting the command. Now i know that im a sub and Do enjoy being controlled/told what to do, but am i being slightly touchy to think that, as an opening gambit, this is a little presumptious? i would love to know what other more experienced people think. Thank you for listening. j xx

mnottertail -> RE: Presumptious?? (1/8/2008 5:21:36 AM)
ever walked up to anyone and said you wanna suck my dick and get your face slapped? oh well. try again. I don't think what you might imagine about people from their picture is always true. Here seemingly, you have found someone who has a dislike of long hair, and isn't really good with the first impression thingie, and I wouldn't read another goddamn thing in this world into that exchange. Have a happy day, and let's be careful out there. Ron

laurell3 -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 5:22:34 AM)
Yes it is. Ignore people that bark out commands and assume a role when they don't know you. Fantasy is never translated into a stable relationship.

NakedGirlScout -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 5:28:01 AM)
If they can order you to cut your hair then you can order them to get off their high-horse. Or even better, block them from replying at all.

Lashra -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 6:21:01 AM)
You have beautiful hair why would you want to cut it? If they want a sub with short hair they are out there all they have to do is look for them. Besides who is this person to tell you what to do when they don't even own you? To me that would be a red flag and I'd just forget about them and move on. ~Lashra

LaTigresse -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 7:01:32 AM)
So, you've managed to cull at least one from the herd of possibilities. What is there to complain about? Seriously, just hit delete and move on.

undergroundsea -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 7:07:04 AM)
You could have some fun with it. You could take the very same profile photo and photoshop in a way to make it obvious that it has been photoshopped. Then you could send that photo to her and say, "What now, my Grand Magnificent Mistress?" ;-) Cheers, Sea

Lucylastic -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 7:07:07 AM)
Agrees with Lashra Lucy

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 7:10:15 AM)
Also agreeing with Lashra. And I don't even like long hair on men.

SweetDommes -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 7:15:40 AM)
Oh goodness ... what is wrong with that moron that she wants you to cut off that lovely hair. It looks wonderful and long hair always makes a good handle/leash ... Forget her and move to the US [;)]

ShaktiSama -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 7:18:31 AM)
Ditto Lashra. Men who can grow a mane of long beautiful hair are such a pleasure to see that I would hate to see one vandalized pointlessly. I think you're better off finding a mistress who appreciates your good points rather than one who tries to ruin them. Telling you to cut your hair would be the equivalent of telling a bodybuilder to gain 60 pounds of flab to cover his "ugly" muscles, in my opinion. It takes year of care to grow out your hair healthy and long, just as it takes years of work and care to develope a sculptured physique--if I don't like that sort of thing, why spoil it for others?

pixelslave -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 7:20:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JBristol In a cpl of messages ive sent (though not to this person) i have stated that if we did click, and they instructed me to do so i would have no problem whatsoever in cutting my hair Perhaps the part of your OP that I've quoted above may lay at the root of the problem you're having. IMO, this is not the kind of thing to tell someone on initial contact. It's the kind of thing to tell someone you've gotten to know very well and are considering entering into a power exchange with to give them some idea to what extent you'd be willing to turn over control to them. On initial contact, I believe it should be about telling something of yourself, demonstrating your personality, and inquiring about the person's interests that you may have in common or may wish to know more about. A first post is *not* about telling them all the parts of your life you'd like to relinquish to them or your fantasies of what a D/s relationship with them would be like! Remember, you're a person with a personality that makes you unique and interesting. That's the person you want them to be attracted to, not some blank slate for them to turn into a faceless sub with no personality where you'll lose all that makes you what you are today. Sure, as time passes you're going to grow and change, but at the core there's still going to be a YOU. You're going to want to preserve that and be with a dominant who appreciates what that is! - pixel

thetammyjo -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 7:33:03 AM)
Please consider such an email a sign that that person is not a potential partner for you then ignore them. I can totally understand waiting a slave to have short hair -- I prefer that too myself on both men and women in fact -- but I'd not bring that up until there were other things happening that suggested there was compatibility on other levels. If there were enough mutual interests, hell, I've trained and owned long haired folks and even men with facial hair too.

darchChylde -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 12:00:50 PM)
don't let it get to you, it was one person only believe me, in my experience; there are many more women here on collarme who like long hair on a guy than those who don't keep your hair as long as you want until you find someone who you are willing to give that much power over you

littlesarbonn -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 12:14:11 PM)
You should cut your hair immediately as a response. That's what I would do, which is why I can now fill in my profile with the following information: Male submissive, although switchable and sometimes dominant, age 42, although sometimes 21 and ranging to 58, over six feet tall, yet shorter than five feet, very long, short hair, wears all sorts of different styles, ranging from early 20s jazz to 22nd century retro sci fi, able to assume all ranges of ethnicity, race and sometimes even gender.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 12:19:20 PM)
My hair doesn't It just grows quickly and with no effort from me. Sure I have to comb it and wash it but that's about the extent of "hard work" it takes. It's just naturally thick long and wavey ish. when I cut it short it curls all by itself, but long it pulls all the curl out to form kind of a wavey look. quote: ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama It takes year of care to grow out your hair healthy and long,

darchChylde -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 12:19:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn You should cut your hair immediately as a response. That's what I would do, which is why I can now fill in my profile with the following information: Male submissive, although switchable and sometimes dominant, age 42, although sometimes 21 and ranging to 58, over six feet tall, yet shorter than five feet, very long, short hair, wears all sorts of different styles, ranging from early 20s jazz to 22nd century retro sci fi, able to assume all ranges of ethnicity, race and sometimes even gender. he laughs aloud then sighs merrily oh, littlesarbonn; great post... life must be so much easier as a stick figure winks

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 12:52:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: darchChylde quote: ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn You should cut your hair immediately as a response. That's what I would do, which is why I can now fill in my profile with the following information: Male submissive, although switchable and sometimes dominant, age 42, although sometimes 21 and ranging to 58, over six feet tall, yet shorter than five feet, very long, short hair, wears all sorts of different styles, ranging from early 20s jazz to 22nd century retro sci fi, able to assume all ranges of ethnicity, race and sometimes even gender. he laughs aloud then sighs merrily oh, littlesarbonn; great post... life must be so much easier as a *stick figure* winks I love that you would take the time to write that wonderful description, littlesarbonn, but, ya know, darlin', I can already tell all that from your picture! laffing I am one who absolutely loves your av! To the OP: This is no different from any reply that imemdiately begins addressing a boy as slave and making any other silly demands. And this sort of garbage happens more often than I would like to think. Sigh Move on...things *should* get better. No guarantees, but if you hang in there, and participate on these boards, especially, it *should* get better. Although I might have you cut your hair, since I prefer a crisp look, I have to say you do have Fabio written all over you! Quite lovely and I am very jealous! [8D]

ShaktiSama -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 3:20:50 PM)
agrees also that JBristol has a sex-ay profile, after shamelessly perving it! [:D]

Najakcharmer -> RE: Presumptuous?? (1/8/2008 3:37:19 PM)
Sure. While you're at it, you're going to have to brand my initials in your forehead immediately, since I just posted in your thread. Because Twue Subs obey every domme who talks to them. Right? [:D] Seriously though, you are majorly hot just as you are, especially with that amazing head of hair, and it would be a tragedy to cut it. If you didn't live on the other side of a rather big puddle I'd consider going after you with a rope and a net. [;)] Pretty, long-haired submissive men who also have a brain are a rare treasure.

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