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RE: Dealing with others opinions/actions - 1/10/2008 4:19:10 AM

AtlantaMistress

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Lady Pact,

Yes you are correct - the scene did take place right after your in the whips room. I plan on saying something, very politely of course, in such a way that I will actually open the invitation for her to play with my sub (in a scene with me) as opposed to trying to get in the scene on her own

I will definitely mention it to Master Dave though, and thank you for weighing in!

I did want you to know that we actually watched your scene, and he had made the mistake of a comment - don't remember the exact words, but something to the effect of "good thing I'm not that mean", so I after giving him a few lashes that left quite a mark (to him a badge of honor) I pulled his hair back and whispered "I'm not that mean?" to which he replied of course "yes Mistress"! Muah ha ha

It was a PLEASURE to watch you play, and I hope that if I get the single tail I want for my birthday, I will have the honor of a few pointers from you!

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RE: Dealing with others opinions/actions - 1/10/2008 1:39:29 PM

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Ok, now I do know for certain who you are. It was lovely meeting you and I hope you enjoyed saying hello to the entire *Pact* family. I do wish now that I had lingered a bit longer after using the room. Perhaps the whole situation could have been avoided. I have a habit of adjourning to the patio to enjoy My space after a scene. Oddly enough, I came back to the room after your scene (and the issue) was over, and did a bit more playing. One loud "crack" in the air, and the Master himself who taught Me, came in to watch. THAT, is who you really want to teach you. He taught Me right there in that very room some time ago, and I've been in love with two-handed florentine ever since. I'd be happy to show you what I might be able to pass along.

Thank you very much for the compliment. It is always wonderful to have a scene appreciated.

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RE: Dealing with others opinions/actions - 1/10/2008 5:29:45 PM

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Morgan is a great whip teacher and will let you use his to practice with in the whip room.

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RE: Dealing with others opinions/actions - 1/11/2008 9:58:40 AM

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Morgan is very skilled, however, I haven't had the pleasure of learning from him. The florentine that I am so often complimented on, was taught to Me by Master Dave.

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RE: Dealing with others opinions/actions - 1/11/2008 12:27:59 PM

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ahhhhh Master Dave. drops to knees and bows hands over head. lolo. I've never seen Master Dave in action buuut the more dommes in the community I become friends with the more of them tell me of great skills etc that they've learned from Master Dave. He is kinda mythic in the community.

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RE: Dealing with others opinions/actions - 1/18/2008 12:47:12 AM

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He is. Master Dave has become not only a Mentor, but a good friend to Me. Those who have not taken the opportunity to know Him have missed a calling.. He is one of the few that I have no reservation in calling "Master" in the lifestyle. On certain nights, His book on old guard can be found available at the club.

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RE: Dealing with others opinions/actions - 1/18/2008 1:39:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

She would have gotten my best backhand with something that smarts.

"Oh, I'm terribly sorry.....I didn't expect someone other than my bottom to be in my scene!"

And follow up by telling her you'll be glad to beat her when you're done with him.

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RE: Dealing with others opinions/actions - 1/22/2010 9:33:08 AM

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I was going back through VERY OLD messages, finding this from over 2 years ago.

Just thought I would give everyone the update! How ironic it is now to read it, with me so certain that my boy and I would not be "dating" since I wasn't interested in a relationship. Here it is now 2 years later, and we have been living together for almost 18months, and engaged! We were fairly active in the community for the first year, but LIFE has gotten in the way, and we don't get a chance to play as much anymore. We did open Studio Eris, a small dungeon in Atlanta, and do videos together, so our "business interests" keep us still very much into BDSM, although our relationship has gotten to be much more vanilla than I ever would have expected.

The reality is that he is much more of a bottom than a submissive, but since we started this relationship with such open communication, it has allowed us to certainly build and grow into places that we are comfortable. I love him more than I EVER would have imagined, and still to this day think it is SO FUNNY all the hub bub our getting together caused. I am sure there are quite a few that lost money betting we wouldn't last 2 months, much less 2 years!

Something I never included in the initial post...we did meet on CM...so for those of you looking - you just never know! Stay postive, stay true to yourselves, and the next message you send or receive just may wind up being from your soul mate

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RE: Dealing with others opinions/actions - 1/22/2010 9:44:18 AM

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It's good to see you and the 'pretty boy' doing well. LOL. I was thinking of you and yours just the other day.

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RE: Dealing with others opinions/actions - 1/22/2010 12:50:28 PM

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He does not yet have a collar, and we have talked about him getting one - for the symbol if nothing else to answer those questions, but in fact, it would be a play collar, simply because there is no commitment to a personal relationship right now beyond playing.

Without reading any other responses...the above is where my thought is, even w/ you telling him to "change" his profile. Do you feel just being "committed play partners" will keep him from fielding request when he is out in the "community" without you? I ask only because, for me (my personal opinion) I don't see true devotion from a sub/slave to a Mistress/Domme when they are JUST play partners. I have seen many other discussion on this same issue where a Mistress/Domme is upset b/c her unowned committed play partner has been out playing.

Now, to the woman walking up to you during a scene between you and him, I would have definitely took that up with the dungeon Master/Mistress (or whomever was in charge)...most have the rule of "no talking" or interrupting scenes. Second, after she was spoken to, you should have spoke to her...period. NOT unladylike, but respectfully informing her that she violated protocol. BUT, with all that said, you might want to ask what your sub/slave has said to her b/c obviously, she wasn't taking either of you (or your dynamic) seriously.

Bottom line, you may need to own him to truly claim him.

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RE: Dealing with others opinions/actions - 1/22/2010 12:52:37 PM

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