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lablancsecret -> RE: Whats wrong ? (1/8/2008 9:52:47 PM)
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Coming from the sub side of this, I have to agree with Stephann!
When a Dom messages me, I look for a few things:
a) initial mutual connection; Does he seem to share my interests? Does he write in a manner which makes me interested in him?
b) the hook; He says he likes xyz, and I like xyz....
c) politeness; I'm a submissive, but I appriciate being treated curteously.
and lastly
d) the appearance of honesty; If his profile picture makes him look like he is about 62, and he says he's 20... well maybe I don't trust him too much.
Anything else on top of that ie,"I love long walks, reading, and enjoy horse back riding", is just icing on the cake and helps me to see if I share a common set of interests with the Dom in question.
Honestly, I've responded to messages I wouldn't normally respond to due to these factors.
quote:
ORIGINAL: Stephann
Hi Signus,
Why are you approching this from such a heavily D/s influenced view?
I think it's too often that people are 'in search of a sub' or 'I'm looking for my Master.' As Taggard said, it's nearly futile (though I don't think for the reason and approach he suggested.)
Writing a potential slave/submissive as if they were a person you met on, say, Match.com might take a lot more effort and time, but it'll yield the kind of communication that allows intimacy to grow. If you're writing a slave from a "I am UbarLordMasterofAll and I have written to inform you that you should drop to your belly and crawl to Me, worm." you're not likely to get any sort of meaningful, long term relationship out of it. Instead, taking the "I'm a XX year old dominant, and I really liked what you said in your profile about hiking; I'm an avid hiker, and love being outdoors. I'm a musician and love playing guitar, and I play regular gigs in my area. I also love reading; mostly historical fiction, with the occasional Grisham novel tossed in." Explaining who you are, and what about yourself you think a prospective submissive/slave would find interesting will land you a much higher quality of communication.
While you're at it, stop writing submissives/slaves who only have a couple of sentences of "I'm a real no-limits slave looking for a harsh cruel Master for immediate relocation." Use some logic here; what sort of woman would actually write this? A woman with no job, family, future, or money? Someone who's greatest desire is to be kept in a box under your bed? Trust me, these profiles are about as genuine as a Rolex sold on a street corner. Don't even waste your time.
Good luck,
Stephan
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