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RE: Government attacks a family - 1/10/2008 4:21:46 PM   
Gwynvyd


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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

I hear your argument Gwyn. Child abuse is a crime and should be punished. It's the reliance on the government as the first line of child welfare determination where we disagree. 

No... the govt shouldnt be the first line of defence on anything.. they fuck up everything they get thier hands on. The families, the Neighbors.. the people in the childs day to day life should be the first line. Basicaly you and me.. ordinary citizens who can reach out to the child, and parents and get them help. Also the ones who can get DCF involved before that child is dead. We all read the headlines of these young women who go off to work and leave thier children in the care of thier boyfriends who kill them. Where the hell is the family? The Neighbors?

Would you support requiring a government issued 'license' before being allowed to have a child with ongoing periodic child counseling and home environmental review?

I think life skills and parenting should be taught in the schools. Aparently parents arent rasing thier damn kids. I also think counciling for those who were abused should be easier to access since 1 in 3 go on to commit child abuse themselves.
 
Look around in society. You can Not rely on folks to do the right thing by thier kids... most folks do not talk to thier kids about smoking, drugs, sex, teenage preganacy, or how to be a decent person little alone parent. They are simply too busy to raise thier kids. It has to happen somewhere. We as a society are going down the great swirly. We need to get some basic values put back in some how. Parents need to be parents, not thier kids "best bud"


That's not a facetious or baiting question. It represents an ultimate logical solution and would provide the protection you and I agree that, in theory, should be in place.

It is my position that every exceptional disastrous situation can not be solved by government intervention. I don't believe a government should attempt to be preemptive protector. After the fact enforcement is their responsibility. Granted, that doesn't take away the pain or bring any child back to life. However writing laws abdicating responsibility and putting faith in a government to judge what is and isn't appropriate concerning child rearing isn't a solution. Storm trooper DCF tactics shouldn't be given carte blanche approval. The examples you cite seem to be indicative of a broken system, not a working one. But is it representative of the majority and a reason that all should be painted with a guilty until proved innocent, and then still a suspect, brush?

They shouldnt go in storm trooper, however they should go in if abuse is alledged or suspected. That is what this is all about. Not just to scrape the dead kid up off the floor and possibly make an arrest. Why even fucking bother then.
 Human beings are intrensicaly stupid, and will find ways to harm themselves and others.. so yes I feel we must have guidelines and laws in place. Work in an abused womens and childrens shealter or go on a few domestic calls and see if you dont want laws in place to protect women and children. Your hope for common sense is just a hope. Common sense is not so common. Laws in these cases are to protect people.. not subdue the masses. Unless you see beating the crap out of a todler or woman as a right.
 
In society there comes a place where individual rights end to protect anothers right. Such as personal safety. I have no right to kick the shit out of someone who did not harm me. Plain and simple. To me.. that makes sense.


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A lot not a few children are abused each and every day..
I defer to your first hand experience. You would say child abuse occurs routinely and the numbers are larger than cited in my reference?

Much much larger. Having seen many cases ( too many cases) both in foster care, on the force, and in being a councilor at a shealter I can tell you at least 60-75% of cases go un reported. They usualy go on for years before a victim speaks up. Sometimes on a daily basis for years.
 
I myself am an abuse survivor. Both my sister and brother tried thier damnedest to be rid of me. My mother didnt know until she was on her death bed and I was an adult. Mind you when I got old and big enough to fight back they stopped after I did enough damage.
 If the Dr's had been smarter my abuse would have ended years before I ended it. Being posioned multiple times should have set off some alarms, and dozens of broken bones and UTIs now adays would have triggered a response.


Maybe licensing and review IS a good idea.


I am not a fan of licensing.. because by who's standards do we allow people to have children? Will it develop into an IQ level that has to be met? A salary range? Only the upper class? That is a slippery slope.
 
However with most things education is key I believe.
 
Sadly education in the home just isnt happening. Hell As a classroom and PTA mom I can not get parents to check thier kids homework, or read with thier children.
 
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RE: Government attacks a family - 1/10/2008 4:50:08 PM   
Mercnbeth


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Gwyn,
I don't disagree with any of your points. We are it perfect agreement that the US education system is a failure. If anything I would use it as a reference in the major problem I have with involving the government more directly in our lives. Focusing on this:
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however they should go in if abuse is alleged or suspected.

Defining "abuse" is a bit like defining pornography isn't it? A moving target at best, a matter of perspective at worse. Who decides what is good parenting discipline and what is abuse? The arbitrary nature of human interpretation make the possibility of enforcement impossible.

Using your example, not doing homework would generate a spanking for me growing up; today a parent doing similar would run the risk of arrest if their child used their cell phone and reported that spanking to the police. From first hand experience, that's one lesson taught in the CA school systems that the children seem to have no problem learning. The consequence is that more kids are being turned over to the State because parents discipline is challenged not reinforced by the school. Its the inverse of the school's discipline not being reinforced by the parents. Both situations got us to where we are today.

I don't think education is key. If it were, what child raising handbook then becomes the parenting version of the "one true way"? Do you believe it exists, or can exist, accounting for the majority of instances when disciplining a child is required, spanning the issues of child's mental and emotional development through the years?

I agree with your position that it is a problem. I agree that it requires action. I can't agree that the government is the solution; regarding anything. Has the state of education gotten better since it was raised to a cabinet level bureaucracy?

Thank you for sharing your first hand knowledge and experience.

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RE: Government attacks a family - 1/10/2008 6:51:04 PM   
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This is ridicoulous....it all comes down to nosy people who don't mind their business and who call the cops over nothing....yet when you are being robbed, no neighbor sees anything....and cops? they are there to give you tickets and bad-mouth you as if they were morally superior in some way...people need to relax, understand not every little thing is abuse, that kids get into accidents (what kid is not accident prone?) and the state needs to regulate what it should regulate: not the private lives of its citizens, but public order, civility, good governance and life as usual.

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RE: Government attacks a family - 1/10/2008 7:51:22 PM   
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Maybe people should be licensed to care for their elderly parents or their feeble elderly spouses. Granny and spousal abuse is as serious as child abuse is. What about pets... or even bug collections. You can never have too much government I suppose, and Gawd knows - bureaucrats are always so much smarter than parents etc. are, aren't they.

Hell, let's just cut out all the middle steps here, and go straight to assigning everyone a government nanny so that no one ever gets hurt, and no one ever makes a mistake, ever again.

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RE: Government attacks a family - 1/10/2008 10:19:35 PM   
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Being a cop's daughter, I can tell you the twue statistics of government and law enforcement.

98% are corrupt, idiots, on some sort of power trip, ineffectual, useless, AND/OR some combination of all of these.
2% are honest, hardworking, community oriented, decent human beings.

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RE: Government attacks a family - 1/10/2008 10:34:10 PM   
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oreo that may be true where you are, it isn't everywhere, in fact, I would argue that the statistics are the reverse here.  A few lunatics do not mean all law enforcement is bad.

The unfortunate thing about this story is that we used to turn a blind eye to domestic abuse and child abuse.  Then a generation rallied against that based on the number of serious problems it caused and OJ happened.  Now at times we seem to be hyper-vigilent.  As a country we seem to never find the comfortable middle of the road approach on some issues, however, I am glad we don't act like it's not happening at all now.

Screening to have children wouldn't work.  I've seen quite a few mobile and otherwise healthy people lose it and injure children severely.  Teatotalers become adicts, people with no mental illness develop them, people have children that are difficult and can't handle it where they could when they had children that weren't.  The need for CPS type services would still exist.  However, the law says we have to keep children safe from harm, not we have to make parents perfect people.  Unfortunately there are those in the system that miss this point and until we provide more funding, we are always going to have those in the system that aren't all that qualified to be there.

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