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Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 4:15:10 PM

AAkasha

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What's more attractive:

When you know your actions/submission makes your partner wet (or, hard, if you are female)?
or, When you know your actions/submission makes your partner happy/content?

Which is the better satisfaction for your submission?

If you could only have one, exclusively, forever, which would you choose?

Edit to add: Let me clarify that while "wet" might also equal happy, I do mean happy as in content, fulfilled in a manner that a dominant enjoys devotion from a submission. Call it contentment, pride, joy, etc. While wet = happy, I am talking about the other kind of happy.

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 4:16:30 PM

Aileen1968

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Usually when he's hard he's happy.

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 4:19:25 PM

bipolarber

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It seems to me, that if I were to chose one or the other, I'd take "wet." Mostly because "wet" will almost always lead to "happy/content."

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 4:37:34 PM

batshalom

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Hmmmmmmm.

I prefer older men. As men (and women) age, their sexuality can become quieter, so I guess I'm going to choose happy / content.

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 4:41:45 PM

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I want both.

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 5:12:40 PM

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Happy. The wet/hard part can come and go, but happiness and contentment linger on. You can walk down the street, cast a glance, lick your lips, etc...and get a person wet/hard, but to actually be able to make them feel happy and content? That's on a different level to me.

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 5:37:35 PM

Littlepita

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Happy and content.

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 5:39:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: NaiveTempest
Happy. The wet/hard part can come and go, but happiness and contentment linger on. You can walk down the street, cast a glance, lick your lips, etc...and get a person wet/hard, but to actually be able to make them feel happy and content? That's on a different level to me.

Wonderfully stated! There's so much more depth to Master being content and truly pleased with me. Whether or not His cock is hard at the moment is irrelevant (although it's great when it is

). As you stated, that comes and goes (no pun intended) but genuine happiness and contentment are much more longlasting and satisfying. One of these days, He will be much older and perhaps He won't be able to physically respond with erections. However, He can always be happy and content and pleased with His property. I'll take that over "hard" anyday

. You can purchase a fake penis. You can't purchase contentment...............luci

P.S. Now aren't those last two sentences words to live by? Worthy of a sig line, I'd say

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 6:47:44 PM

Elorin

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Happy and content. When he wants to be hard he'll order me to make him so. Not the same for when he wants to be happy. I'd much rather do something that brought him peace and contentment.

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 7:11:12 PM

catize

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quote:

You can purchase a fake penis.

But you shouldn't TELL him he's a fake penis 'cuz then he'll write a post wondering why he was called a fake and asking how to be considered real!

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 7:20:53 PM

needDomme

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For me, this one isn't even close. Happy and content, regardless of whether it involves being wet or not. That's why doing no strings housework is important to me.

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 7:48:55 PM

fluffyswitch

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happy and content, hands down

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 8:14:10 PM

tinoketsheli

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I would actually say wet because for me it usually does lead to happy and content, and it makes me proud of myself and pleased with myself. My personality can make him happy and content but I want my submission to make him aroused.

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 8:19:17 PM

solvr70

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I would very much prefer both. i mean if such actions she has me perform, or ways She would have me service Her of Others sexually makes her excited and wet, wouldn't that make Her happy as well?

*sure if would vary from Woman to Woman. But thinking generally if She is extreemly aroused, that would make Her happy*

But then again, my end-goal is for "things" to bring B/both parties to new levels of pleasure and excitement. Hopefully not an impossible to achieve thing.

mark

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 8:27:38 PM

vampiresscammy

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hard and or wet, depending on my partner, if I'm doing it all right to Master/Mistress' wishes, then happy will be following, and theres something oh so empowering and wonderful about making him/her hard/wet just by submitting to their wish/desire/will

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 8:32:44 PM

junecleaver

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Both would be nice, but if I had to choose one...it would involve his cock. He can fufill himself. He was content and fufilled before I met him. However, I find satisfaction in knowing that I'm excellent wank material.

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 8:43:09 PM

Suzykeu

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Wet for my Mistress, when i arouse Her, it means i'm doing my duty.

And happy for my girlfriend, for the same reasons :)

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 9:04:20 PM

slaveluci

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quote:

ORIGINAL: catize

quote:

You can purchase a fake penis.

But you shouldn't TELL him he's a fake penis 'cuz then he'll write a post wondering why he was called a fake and asking how to be considered real!

Oh geez, catize. You are soooo right. I'll keep that in mind

.............luci

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 9:09:55 PM

CdnExplorer

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While I hate to say it, I'd prefer that my submission makes my Domme wet. Having my pain or suffering enjoyed on such a primal level makes it exciting, and reaches through my walls in a way that simply pleasing doesn't. There's also no mistaking when you've done well this way heh.

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RE: Subs: Your partner's sexual arousal - 1/9/2008 9:55:32 PM

breatheasone

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

What's more attractive:

When you know your actions/submission makes your partner wet (or, hard, if you are female)?
or, When you know your actions/submission makes your partner happy/content?

Which is the better satisfaction for your submission?

If you could only have one, exclusively, forever, which would you choose?

Edit to add: Let me clarify that while "wet" might also equal happy, I do mean happy as in content, fulfilled in a manner that a dominant enjoys devotion from a submission. Call it contentment, pride, joy, etc. While wet = happy, I am talking about the other kind of happy.

Akasha

I'll go with happy and content....Daddy has GREAT hands...LOL WEG

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