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RE: Submissive wife/Nondominant husband... - 1/21/2008 9:36:23 AM

Sadisticforslave

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You have to decide if you really want to have this life. If you do then explain to him that you have this need. NOT a want but a need. That it will not go away and it has to be taken care of. If he does not want to take care of it himself then you will have to find someone who will. Explain to him that this means that you will be seeing other people to have this NEED taken care of. So he can either take care of your needs or not. This can mean that you stay married to him and live with him as normal but with trips to your Master to take care of your needs or if he can't handle that you will have to leave to live with a Master that will take care of your needs. HOWEVER, when you have this talk do not let others hear or do not put anything in writting as if he will not take care of your need to submit and will not allow you to go to others to take care of this need, then during the separation it will come out. thats the reason for no writting or anything that he can prove.

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I have been married for some years now and realized something was always missing until I realized it was my great desire to be dominated. My husband says he likes the idea of me being submissive, but doesnt really want to put any of the work into it as a dominant such as guidelines/rules/punishments/corrective behavior - leaves me doing all the work with no reward or someone to push me to greater accomplishments - I feel such a loneliness and need for such a relationship! Ive tried talking humbly with my husband, sending emails, but he just might give me a swat on the butt and say he wants to continue the relationship, but then...nothing...What can I do? Is there some way to definitely see if he is really interested or just wants the rewards? What about my needs? Again, talking hasnt helped - is there anything else i can try or is there something i am doing wrong or out of order?

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RE: Submissive wife/Nondominant husband... - 1/24/2008 1:34:26 AM

saliang2003

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I have just joined and was fasinated by this discussion, I too am in a similar position.( 49 married, kids have left etc) However I did not want a 24/7 relationship just the occasional release and was lucky enough to eventually find a Master, (after several 'disasters') a lot younger I might add, that understood this. I go to him every 2 - 4 weeks, when he calls! sometimes he will keep me waiting tho. At first it was 1-2-1 but recently he has introduced, ocassionally and seperately, another dom man and a sub younger girl to my times with him. This has taken me to heights that I never thought existed. The outcome of this is that my husband, who is ignorant of all of this, has commented that I seem a lot calmer nowadays!! If you can separate the two lives it works

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RE: Submissive wife/Nondominant husband... - 1/24/2008 3:07:04 PM

LPslittleclip

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i have the opposite in my relationship with my wife. I'm submissive and she is not a dominant. for us it has worked out that she allows me to have a dominant no coitus. all involved have agreed to the rules and are honest with each other. this is a poly family dynamic. this works for Me,U/us/us talk to your partner and listen. this way you can explore options.
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