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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/10/2008 9:24:56 PM   
Owner4SexSlave


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Status: offline 		I have gave up the worry about letting something slip.  If it happens, it happens.

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/10/2008 11:51:41 PM   
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It is what it is - a casual place for a group of friends to meet up for a chat, drink, something to eat.

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 12:27:23 AM   
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When i first started going to the Munches, my mother asked me where i was going that night.


You are not really 47, are you?  You can't be...  At 47, you are worried about your mother finding out you went to a munch?  What is she going to do, ground you?  Send you to bed without ice cream? 

Taggard



Hmmm, I am surprised at this. I am 49, and I dont think that means now I spill to my parents everything I am into, or not into, because now my mom cannot send me to bed withholding dessert from me. (Although if I were visiting my parents and for some reason my mom sent me to my room, I would probably go, she is my mom afterall.) I can think of plenty of reasons why I would choose to selectively share my personal life with my folks. I cannot understand your line of reasoning here, Taggard.

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 12:36:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		Most of my slips are in tone with my slave.  I'm used to simply giving her orders, which isn't exactly normal in public.  Sometimes, when I'm not thinking, I plainly order her to do something in such a manner that would strike most as rather rude.

Normally just try to play it down and move on.

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 12:43:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		As someone who still lives with her parents (im 22 and still working my life out LOL) i don't want to tell them, my parents whilst amazing and wonderful are of the kind that want me to be happy so long as im not getting hurt, they wouldn't be able to understand my decision to be a part of this lifestyle and it would lead to them being worried about me 24/7 im not ashamed of my choices, but my desire to not hurt my parents means i have to be aware of what im saying all the time. That being said i have managed to slip up, an email which was supposed to be sent to my then Master got sent to Him as well as my mums cousin, so that was fun trying to explain why something like that had been sent from my email addy, (i think she bought tht it was a friend not sure lol) and my mum was putting somethin in my diary the other day and id written bbb in every month so of course she wanted to know wot the bbb was......a pub where all my mates go for a drink on a sunday once a month, technically the truth i dont know that she bought it totally but she did kinda and thats the main thing, shes passed comment on pictures of me looking like bondage pics before and made the odd comment but so far touch wood ive not slipped up enough to get the parents worrying and thats enough for me.

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 3:14:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: fullofgrace69

(im 22 and still working my life out LOL)


but so far touch wood ive not slipped up enough to get the parents worrying and thats enough for me.


*grin* Hon.. I have a son who is 23, so I feel I can justifiably set your thinking to right here...

Just so you know... your parents are already worrying...they're just not telling you this. In fact, they've been worrying since the day you made friends with someone and they didn't meet their mother first.

So.. um.. on that whole "worrying" thing?  Well... we'll never say so, but we're already worrying - and have been doing so since you were about... oh...well... certainly not old enough to date.

An example: My g/f has a niece who has made the news around here - and not in a good way. She is a peace corps member who was involved in a horrendous automobile accident while out of country. My son will be graduating from college this summer and then, he's off to the Peace Corps as well. He lives with his father while attending school. I heard about my friend's niece and immediately called my son adding "and you're not allowed to ride in cars in a foreign country!!" to my list of things I'm gonna "ground" him for. We laughed and laughed and laughed.

Except... on the inside, where I'm honest only with myself - I desperately wish he'd either choose to stay safe and stay home or that his age was once again in the single digits so that I could continue to keep him safe. The truth is, he's not going to stay safe and stay home and I'm never going to have his age register in the single digits again, so I do what mothers the world over have been doing for eons. I smile with pride as to the way he's grown into a man and spend every waking moment with some part of me being worried.

It's what mothers do. You can't stop us. And a lack of information is what we fear the most. We're good at it. We've had your whole lifetime to perfect this talent of ours and if you think that at 22, you're going to miraculously stop your mother from worrying...

hahahahahahaha....

I'm 48 and I can't seem to stop MY mother from worrying.. just HOW do you think you're going to do that at 22?

(by the way... in case you didn't realize it...all of this is in jest...but it's also all true.)

juliet

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 5:02:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		lol thanks for the reply juliet, and yeah i know you are right i moved away for six months and hooked up with a 35 yr old they didnt know he was my Dom he was jst a bf and they freaked out enough as it was. i know they are gonna worry about me but i guess so long as i can shield em from the stuff that really wuld give them sleepless nights thats enough for me at the moment :D

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 7:04:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: fullofgrace69

As someone who still lives with her parents (im 22 and still working my life out LOL) i don't want to tell them, my parents whilst amazing and wonderful are of the kind that want me to be happy so long as im not getting hurt, they wouldn't be able to understand my decision to be a part of this lifestyle and it would lead to them being worried about me 24/7 im not ashamed of my choices, but my desire to not hurt my parents means i have to be aware of what im saying all the time. That being said i have managed to slip up, an email which was supposed to be sent to my then Master got sent to Him as well as my mums cousin, so that was fun trying to explain why something like that had been sent from my email addy, (i think she bought tht it was a friend not sure lol) and my mum was putting somethin in my diary the other day and id written bbb in every month so of course she wanted to know wot the bbb was......a pub where all my mates go for a drink on a sunday once a month, technically the truth i dont know that she bought it totally but she did kinda and thats the main thing, shes passed comment on pictures of me looking like bondage pics before and made the odd comment but so far touch wood ive not slipped up enough to get the parents worrying and thats enough for me.


been there done that. i'm out to my mom, and my dad figured it out on his own so even though i'm not out he knows anway. and i think she has suspicions that the guy i'm somewhat involved with is my technical dom for the time being. when i slip up i just look at them all innocent and go what did i say? it's not so much that i'm hiding it's just easier not to have to talk about being bound on my living room rug or not being able to wear a bra the next day. though my mom peridocally comes out with stuff like i'm glad you dumped her she wasn't a nice person. so they might know and worry but are letting you have your own space.

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 7:27:51 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: fullofgrace69

shes passed comment on pictures of me looking like bondage pics before and made the odd comment but so far touch wood ive not slipped up enough to get the parents worrying and thats enough for me.


I hate to be the one to tell you this, but they already know.  I remember what I thought I was "getting away" with at 22...turns out, they knew.  Or, they knew as much as they wanted to know.

I mean, come on, if you were to switch roles with your mother, wouldn't you think she is into BDSM if you saw the things she saw?  I am sure you think your parents are naive, but you don't get to raise a child to 22 and still be naive.

Now, don't take this as a suggestion to "come out" to your parents.  The status-quo seems to be working fine for everyone.  But don't kid yourself that they don't know some of the things you are up to.  They probably know more than they want to.

Taggard


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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 7:50:17 AM   
fullofgrace69


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Status: offline 		lol thanks taggard ............. they prob know more than i want them to know but quite frankly i dont wanna consider it i culdnt deal with the conversation was bad enough informing them that im bi lol

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 7:59:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: fullofgrace69

lol thanks taggard ............. they prob know more than i want them to know but quite frankly i dont wanna consider it i culdnt deal with the conversation was bad enough informing them that im bi lol


They are probably feeling the exact same way.  They want to think of you as their little girl.  So don't be dishonest with them (it doesn't sound like you have been), but don't share more than you would with your boss.  At 22, you are an adult, and an adult doesn't go sharing intimate details of their sexual activities with everyone.  Not even their parents.

There is a difference in "being out" (which, honestly is pretty much what you are) and being an "evangalist for the lifestyle".  I am about as out as you get, but I have never told anyone outside of the lifestyle all the details of my lifestyle without them asking.  My parents know what they know...if they want to know more, I would tell them.  I don't bring slaves over for Christmas dinner, but I do use their home about an hour outside of NYC as a staging area for my trips to Paddles.  The have seen me leave the house in full leathers...and they lived in NYC for 40 years...my dad is an actor...they know.  But I won't have that conversation with them unless they start it.  I doubt it will happen...

Taggard


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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 8:06:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		Have I ever slipped?

Ask ol' three fingers MacGinty, that I used to fuck.

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 8:07:24 AM   
fullofgrace69


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Status: offline 		i love my parents, but thats not going to be a converstation we ever have and a few nilla friends know, but they have all come out to me in some way and i was just returning the favour lol

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 8:11:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Nope, never slipped-its one of the joys of waiting to live on your own before you explore BDSM. It took Me nine years of fighting with people who thought I was incapable of living on My own to do it though lol. Worth it now though-I've got all the privacy I want.....just wish I had more space for a dungeon.

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 8:20:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		It wouldn't matter if I did slip.  My parents would ignore it, as they don't want to know about my sex life any more than I want to know theirs.  We have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy.  I'm pretty sure they still think I am a virgin.

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 8:25:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		lmao, same here, I think mine think I dont even know what sex is!. If they only knew...... w.e.g

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 8:28:09 AM   
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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 8:45:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		The question naturally arises, how often did she see them doing the other?

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 8:56:45 AM   
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It wouldn't matter if I did slip.  My parents would ignore it, as they don't want to know about my sex life any more than I want to know theirs.  We have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy.  I'm pretty sure they still think I am a virgin.

Hehe I had to laugh at this because I am pretty sure at least one of my parents tries to think the same thing, and I have 3 children.  There are just some things my parents don't care to know or think about...everyone else pretty much already knows to some degree.

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RE: Have you ever slipped? - 1/11/2008 9:06:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have only one person in my life who knows about my attraction to BDSM - my niece, who is convinced she corrupted her almost-maiden aunt. My roommate, a friend of over 35 years' standing, doesn't even know - or if she does, or suspects, she doesn't say anything.

The other day I had a playdate while my roommate was at work. While the Dom was flogging me, the flogger caught the pull-chain on my overhead light/fan. I didn't think any more about it until I went to turn on the light after the Dom had left.

I'm in a wheelchair; I can't reach up to the fan to get the chain unwound. I had to think up a really plausible excuse for its being there when I asked my roommate to get out the step-stool and untangle the chain.

I have to watch my tongue pretty closely; it helps to date Doms who are also desiring some level of discretion.

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