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sultryvoice -> RE: so many Dominants (9/3/2005 6:41:27 AM)

Now, why would a single person want a married or attached person? I want a relationship, long term and monogomous. I don't want to work around someone else's scheduale. I also want to be number one not 2 or 3..Then there is the trust and honesty issue. If someone will go out on their SO, they will do it to you. Granted, there are those that want that kind of relationship. If all parties know and are in search of poly relationships, I am all for it. I am just not interested. It's not in my nature to split up the affections of my SO <if it ever comes to be>.

Respectfully,
sultry



littleone35 -> RE: so many Dominants (9/3/2005 9:34:49 AM)

Ok i have to chime in here i have the other problem both myself and my late Master were married and we were discreet. Believe it or not actually helped my marrige because i was not asking my totaly Vanalla husband to be something he was not. I was happy my late Master was happy and we did not hurt anyone.

littleone



exploringlimits -> RE: so many Dominants (9/3/2005 9:37:53 AM)

I have been fairly frustrated by Collarme. I am hoping it's not the majority's experience. I reach out to many subs but have met only 2 in person in 3 years. Neither was a match for me but so many here blow people off with out a word. It's hard to know what I might be doing wrong in my approach. I am very honest and don't play games. There are so many here doing that, it's hard to find the real ones. People try to scam for money too, it's terrible but I remain optimistic.

<------- Anyone know how to get rid of that annoying Vanilla thing over here?



ehlovindom -> RE: so many Dominants (9/5/2005 7:45:32 AM)

Since you're offering.......![:D]



Fawne -> RE: so many Dominants (9/5/2005 8:07:02 AM)

quote:

Anyone know how to get rid of that annoying Vanilla thing over here?

Keep posting, exploringlimits

Nice profile BTW... check him out girls!!!




HalloweenWhite -> RE: so many Dominants (9/5/2005 2:29:43 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Slutsub

im constantly surprised at how many wonderful Dominants there are on here that are searching for subbies/slaves

i know there are a lot of wanna bee's but mostly i have found lovely genuine Men searching for there One

im happy to say though that a few i have been chatting to have found Her......so nice..its such a waste ...to see wonderful Men like this without a girl of there own

so sisters.......if your looking..........look harder and dont go by first impressions





What a great post. But then....Im biased. [;)]

HalloweenWhite



Dracironsgirl -> RE: so many Dominants (9/5/2005 7:30:22 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: HalloweenWhite


quote:

ORIGINAL: Slutsub

im constantly surprised at how many wonderful Dominants there are on here that are searching for subbies/slaves

i know there are a lot of wanna bee's but mostly i have found lovely genuine Men searching for there One

im happy to say though that a few i have been chatting to have found Her......so nice..its such a waste ...to see wonderful Men like this without a girl of there own

so sisters.......if your looking..........look harder and dont go by first impressions





What a great post. But then....Im biased. [;)]

HalloweenWhite

oh i have to agree with you ...i met my One here at collarme.com and i couldnt be happier.



MsElle -> RE: so many Dominants (9/5/2005 8:03:13 PM)

Well, it's nice to see that some people realize that we Dom/me folk aren't all bad - in fact a few of us are not only real and sincere in our search, but we're intelligent, articulate, interesting, sexy, fun, and even personable!!!

But, of course, even those of us who are nearly perfect make the occasional mistake; don't respond to all of our email, get dissuaded by the bombardings of cheesy or thoughtless one line messages, or let potentially worthwhile exchanges fall by the wayside every now and again when our lives get in the way... sad, but true. We're human you know.

Don't fret - there are great people on here and the more willing you are to be yourself - post your thoughts - communicate openly - the more of YOU people will see and the more contacts you will make that are compatible.

~MsElle



KatyLied -> RE: so many Dominants (9/6/2005 12:25:57 AM)

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It's hard to know what I might be doing wrong in my approach. I am very honest and don't play games. There are so many here doing that, it's hard to find the real ones.


Unless you are extremely lucky, there will be a few misteps.

Keep posting in the forums. I met a great Dom in the forums whom I'd otherwise wouldn't have known existed. You never know what you may find. [:D]

And the only way to get rid of being "vanilla" is to make a ton of posts, it's an automatic subnic here.



Lordandmaster -> RE: so many Dominants (9/6/2005 12:44:17 AM)

My vote is to get rid of the sig line.

quote:

ORIGINAL: exploringlimits


<------- Anyone know how to get rid of that annoying Vanilla thing over here?

A Dominant force in today's Dominant world




Dracironsgirl -> RE: so many Dominants (9/7/2005 11:41:25 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsElle

Well, it's nice to see that some people realize that we Dom/me folk aren't all bad - in fact a few of us are not only real and sincere in our search, but we're intelligent, articulate, interesting, sexy, fun, and even personable!!!

But, of course, even those of us who are nearly perfect make the occasional mistake; don't respond to all of our email, get dissuaded by the bombardings of cheesy or thoughtless one line messages, or let potentially worthwhile exchanges fall by the wayside every now and again when our lives get in the way... sad, but true. We're human you know.

Don't fret - there are great people on here and the more willing you are to be yourself - post your thoughts - communicate openly - the more of YOU people will see and the more contacts you will make that are compatible.

~MsElle

i've met some really awesome people here on collarme.com, One being my Master who i cherish. i've made several subbie friends too which is really cool. i've found that for the most part, people here are knd and very helpful, being a newbie to the lifestyle i knew nothing till finding this site and have learned a great deal from those i've met. thank you all.



MasterLawrence -> RE: so many Dominants (9/14/2005 9:01:57 AM)

The ring is such a turn on for some.
And then if they see my wife then there really pissy
makes really bad kittens....



plantlady64 -> RE: so many Dominants (9/14/2005 1:19:52 PM)

Hello There,
Married Men are only considered as play partners of mine if they have their wives permission to play and she tells me this herself. Also if I didn't already have my Master I'd consider a Married poly Master, but never will I intentionally play with a cheeter.

I also have talked online to 1000's of Doms in my 7 month journey as a sub. I've found most are indeed nice to talk to here, but I'd say over 50% of them had issues that would block me from wanting to even play with them let alone have relationships with them.

I've found a lot know how to talk the talk, but when it comes to walking the walk in person over half can't walk at all.

I think the same goes for the subs online too. Talking in this written non-physical form eliminates your ability to hear the emotion, tone, and expressions of someone or read their body language. It's much easier to live in this online fantasy world and get along with others very well, but when it comes to physical face to face conversations lots have been very different from their online selves.

Sincerely,
sub suzanne



RainGod -> RE: so many Dominants (9/14/2005 3:45:45 PM)

I was shocked to see softysubs post so closely reflect some of My same thoughts. softy posts:


quote:

All i've had are lies lies lies....and Doms wanting a *barbiedoll* or a doormat which i am far from that. Maybe i am too demanding.......and perhaps not....i only want honesty!


There are some of Us out here who thinks barbie coulda used a few pounds, and we don't want a doormat... we already have a 'WELCOME" mat. We just want someone to notice that welcome mat and come on into Our lives. Too demanding? Not if you are searching for what you reall want and need in a Mate. Afterall, would anything less really satisfy you? Not Me... and I bet it wouldn't please you either. It's perfectly okay to choose carefully. Honesty? Amen to that one. IMO, that should be the most important thing from the very beginning. True enough, honesty is getting hard to find.


quote:

False hopes......but i know one day, i will meet *Him*.



No, your hopes are not false as long as you keep them alive. Hang in there, softysub... those of U/us who look diligently will surely be rewarded by serendipity... It might just take time. :)



softysub -> RE: so many Dominants (9/14/2005 6:18:29 PM)

Thank You Sir RainGod

I am glad i am not the only O/one thinking like that, but still, i do wonder. I will leave it for now since i am getting quite frustrated about the lifestyle.

I am sorry if i sound depressing, but i am true and wont deny or hide my feelings.

Be well

softysub



nicochan -> RE: so many Dominants (9/14/2005 7:12:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: exploringlimits

<------- Anyone know how to get rid of that annoying Vanilla thing over here?


Dammit, I'd like to know that too! LOL! Looking forward to the handcuffs. They look interesting.



Dracironsgirl -> RE: so many Dominants (9/15/2005 6:42:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Slutsub

im constantly surprised at how many wonderful Dominants there are on here that are searching for subbies/slaves

i know there are a lot of wanna bee's but mostly i have found lovely genuine Men searching for there One

im happy to say though that a few i have been chatting to have found Her......so nice..its such a waste ...to see wonderful Men like this without a girl of there own

so sisters.......if your looking..........look harder and dont go by first impressions



oh i could'nt agree with you more on that ....i have also met many wonderful Dominants here, and found my One here too.
thanks..



PennsylvaniaToy -> RE: so many Dominants (9/20/2005 10:26:02 PM)

MsElle,
With all due respect (if you really) are sincere in your search, why haven't you responded to me? I have been off and on collarme for over a year now. I am really doubting at this point whether or not ANYONE on here is sincere in their search! I have read the message boards and been in contact with several people but when it comes to real life interaction, or following through, I don't see it happening.

I witnessed Taggart's stint with MS Berlin before you came along. The way he wrote, I thought he was the real deal. I was excited to get to know you both as I only want to belong to a couple.

Are there so many attractive, educated subs that I just cannot find a situation? I have been on the brink of giving up for a long time so at least thought I'd ask why you hadn't gotten back to me, so I'd know.

Toy
quote:

ORIGINAL: MsElle

Well, it's nice to see that some people realize that we Dom/me folk aren't all bad - in fact a few of us are not only real and sincere in our search, but we're intelligent, articulate, interesting, sexy, fun, and even personable!!!

But, of course, even those of us who are nearly perfect make the occasional mistake; don't respond to all of our email, get dissuaded by the bombardings of cheesy or thoughtless one line messages, or let potentially worthwhile exchanges fall by the wayside every now and again when our lives get in the way... sad, but true. We're human you know.

Don't fret - there are great people on here and the more willing you are to be yourself - post your thoughts - communicate openly - the more of YOU people will see and the more contacts you will make that are compatible.

~MsElle




JohnWarren -> RE: so many Dominants (9/20/2005 11:45:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: PennsylvaniaToy

I am really doubting at this point whether or not ANYONE on here is sincere in their search! I have read the message boards and been in contact with several people but when it comes to real life interaction, or following through, I don't see it happening.


One thing I can suggest is that most of the people looking on Collarme aren't in your area. Libby and I aren't actively looking. We're here mostly in a support and educational role; however, anyone who might get in touch with us with contact in mind would have to be within about 50 miles of where we live. The kind of interaction we'd want wouldn't be possible with anyone further away.

Your profile really doesn't give any personal information at all and that, in itself, would be a big turn off for us and nothing in the "click" selections gives anyone any idea of what you are offering THEM. It's all about what you want for YOU.

In general, finding partners in the scene is harder than in vanilla life since we have the same general requirements as vanillas but we also need someone with a complementary kink. It isn't enough just to be "submissive" for us. To interest us, a person needs to have certain scene interests.

Instead of challenging the sincerity of everyone on the board, change your profile to give people an idea of why they should be interested in PennsylvaniaToy rather than the rather generic presentation in place now.

Failing that, try exploring the face to face scene. There are some excellent groups in the eastern Pennsylvania area. Join one and take an active role. I know of at least one major annual convention held right in the Poconos.



Lordandmaster -> RE: so many Dominants (9/21/2005 1:17:28 AM)

Yeah, as usual, it's everyone else's fault.

quote:

ORIGINAL: PennsylvaniaToy

I have been off and on collarme for over a year now. I am really doubting at this point whether or not ANYONE on here is sincere in their search! I have read the message boards and been in contact with several people but when it comes to real life interaction, or following through, I don't see it happening.




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