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Ever feel like you've had enough? - 8/25/2005 10:28:04 PM

LittleMissSub

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I'm sure I'm not the only one who's ever felt like this, but would like to confirm that lol.

Sometimes during long scenes, 3 hours or so, I get to a point where I've just had enough. All that screams through my head is "I just want to stop". It's not that the action that's going on at that particular moment is what I want to stop, I just want to stop period. Stop interaction, stop playing, stop everything and just take a break. Not be alone neccesarily, although that's acceptable too.

Everyonce in awhile, even in prolonged discussion I just want to get up and stop everything. Of couse I don't do this in any situation, but usually it's picked up on and after a short length of time whatever is going on comes to a natural ending.

I know some Dom's incorporate breaks into their times with subs, I think that this may be what I need. Time to think, reflect, time to feel.......something different than under a microscope maybe? not that i feel that way all the time. but to steal a line from old school, "look, always watching, judging, 'hi honey'" lol.

My question is, does or has anyone else ever felt like this, and what could be possible reasonings behind this? I've thought it through over and over, it happens with different partners and under different circumstances, and I can't come up with reasoning for it. Usually I can figure these things out. I'd really like to know so that I can deal with it and have it not happen any longer.

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RE: Ever feel like you've had enough? - 8/26/2005 6:13:37 AM

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Definitely when I'm having to endure pain I'd love for it to stop and have breaks.

I think it's perfectly normal to have this happen, and I think you should communicate it to the person you're playing with at the time.

Possible reasons for this are numerous- moods, hormones, connectivity, stress, your body is just DONE, and a gazillion others. Everyone scenes differently.

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RE: Ever feel like you've had enough? - 8/26/2005 7:06:16 AM

lonewolf05

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3 hours?> holy shit. i have never had a date that long......

wow.

i am speechless.

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RE: Ever feel like you've had enough? - 8/26/2005 9:50:54 AM

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~sigh~ Yeah, I get it during sex. Partially because my sex drive is so low (stupid chemicals) but if sex gets longer than a half hour or so I start just wanting it to be over.

Best thing that I've learned to do is just throw myself back into it. Work hard to work myself back up.

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RE: Ever feel like you've had enough? - 8/26/2005 6:25:35 PM

pandoravampire

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I certainly experience this from time to time. Usually, its when im feeling 'inside myself' at the beginning. A odd sort of feeling, where im not quite sure whats wrong, but something is. Im then called upon to submit. At these times, i do of course. This will either go brilliantly, where because ive been reluctant, it has a paradoxical effect, and ill go into subspace, or, i cant throw myself into it, and the connection doesnt work. And similar as you describe, because the power is not flowing correctly, it comes to a natural end.

For me, the connection is usually there with my Sir, so this isnt necessarily a problem for us, as next session will be fine. But with a previous partner, i experienced this almost dissassociative state, where im watching what we were doing, rather than being in the moment. Wanting a scene to end, as i could no longer submit naturally, i was forcing it. Faking it, going through the motions of submission and not really feeling it. This turned out to be that the connection was wrong between us, despite having many shared levels to play on - the power exchange just didnt flow often and intensely enough to maintain long sessions. But the short ones were good. I decided for me, i wanted more connection more of the time, so ended it.

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RE: Ever feel like you've had enough? - 8/27/2005 8:33:45 AM

Fawne

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Sure, I have felt that I have had enough and would like a break.

Sometimes the mental and/or physical aspects are more than I want. More than I want, but not more than I can take. If I truly can't take it.. yes, I'll ask for a break.

Taking(enduring) more than what you want to take is part of giving up control. That's one of the hard things about submission. It's giving that up for the pleasure of another.

Submitting. It's not always easy. Sometimes ya just gotta hang in there.. and hold on to dear life

. Takes disapline..

Have fun and thanks for asking a good question!

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