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ORIGINAL: Justme696

I remember how i once felt my kajira became melting wax in my hands, when I whispered in her ear I could do as I pleased with her.
When i saw her getting weak, I got a rush. It was the mutual trust...the electricty between people.

So I wonder if slaves/subs get the relieve from the tools (chains,cuffs) or from beeing helpless to Master/Dom/Domme..or something else perhaps?

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ORIGINAL: geishagurl

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ORIGINAL: Justme696

I remember how i once felt my kajira became melting wax in my hands, when I whispered in her ear I could do as I pleased with her.
When i saw her getting weak, I got a rush. It was the mutual trust...the electricty between people.

So I wonder if slaves/subs get the relieve from the tools (chains,cuffs) or from beeing helpless to Master/Dom/Domme..or something else perhaps?

I'm not sure really.  I'd love to know myself, what it is and where it comes from.  All I know is that it just is.  You're discription is exactly what I'm talking about.... the weakness, the rush, the electricity, the euphoria....  I'm not saying all vanilla sex/life is bad or boring... far from it, but it just doesn't compare (for me personally). 

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ORIGINAL: Justme696

thank you :)

Those are the best moments I think, better then sex even.

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ORIGINAL: Tigrita

I think an interesting aspect of the OP, which Justme emphasized, is that the question is about inanimate objects (restraints) bringing release, independent of who might be implimenting them.  This is something I've thought about before, because I don't find sexual or BDSM chemistry very easily with people, it is only very rare individuals who can excite me that way.  But one particular thing I'm a total slut about.  I'll let just about anyone (as long as they are a responsible person) tie me up.  I absolutely love the feeling of being bound in rope.  Peace and euphoria just wash over me.  But it doesen't have to have anything to do with the tier.  It is almost like masturbation, because it is a totally internal type of feeling, not a connection flowing between me and someone else (if it isn't someone I have chemistry with).  I've always thought that was very strange for me, because all other BDSM stuff, the connection and chemistry is vital for me to be fulfilled by the experience.  And of course I enjoy rope bondage at a different level when I do have a connection with my partner, but I don't require that to enjoy it.  I just love the feel of the rope, the warmth, the friction, the way it melds all around the flesh, the earthy smell of natural fiber rope, the way the body and the rope take shape together and are more together than they can be apart... Mmmmmmmmm.  

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ORIGINAL: Justme696

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ORIGINAL: Tigrita

I think an interesting aspect of the OP, which Justme emphasized, is that the question is about inanimate objects (restraints) bringing release, independent of who might be implimenting them.  This is something I've thought about before, because I don't find sexual or BDSM chemistry very easily with people, it is only very rare individuals who can excite me that way.  But one particular thing I'm a total slut about.  I'll let just about anyone (as long as they are a responsible person) tie me up.  I absolutely love the feeling of being bound in rope.  Peace and euphoria just wash over me.  But it doesen't have to have anything to do with the tier.  It is almost like masturbation, because it is a totally internal type of feeling, not a connection flowing between me and someone else (if it isn't someone I have chemistry with).  I've always thought that was very strange for me, because all other BDSM stuff, the connection and chemistry is vital for me to be fulfilled by the experience.  And of course I enjoy rope bondage at a different level when I do have a connection with my partner, but I don't require that to enjoy it.  I just love the feel of the rope, the warmth, the friction, the way it melds all around the flesh, the earthy smell of natural fiber rope, the way the body and the rope take shape together and are more together than they can be apart... Mmmmmmmmm.  

Nice view, Justme.... thank you.  :)
 
 

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ORIGINAL: SCExecutiveSub

Bondage equals freedom to trust for me - with the right Dom of course, not just anyone.

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ORIGINAL: KindLadyGrey

Being in bondage is the most relaxing feeling ever. It's as good as a massage.

I often ask to be cuffed or tied up when I am caught in an anxiety loop and need to calm down.

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ORIGINAL: adoracat

me... Daddy laughs because the same thing happens every time he puts my restraints on.  i give this really hard full body shudder and its like there is a huge reset of me, throwing me into "oh boy its playtime" mode.

yep, i understand that exactly.

kitten, who hasnt been tied in far too long

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ORIGINAL: geishagurl

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ORIGINAL: SCExecutiveSub

Bondage equals freedom to trust for me - with the right Dom of course, not just anyone.

Freedom to trust.  freedom....
 
Interesting.... thank you, SCE.
 

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ORIGINAL: Tigrita

It is just kind of like aromatherapy or something, it just triggers happy things in me, I can't really explain it. 

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ORIGINAL: geishagurl

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ORIGINAL: Tigrita

It is just kind of like aromatherapy or something, it just triggers happy things in me, I can't really explain it. 

This is what I seek to understand. Some say... why even try to understand, just enjoy.  But I do want to understand it. I want to know what's behind this trigger. What makes us be the way we are? Lol... I know I'm fighting a losing battle in even trying. And I'm sure it must be a different reason for each of us, but then again, I would think we all have something in common too, in these feelings. Would it take an expensive shrink to take away the question of, "why"? I would think it would have to have something to do with our childhood, but what? I'm like the little kid saying.... why, why, why why...  LOL.