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Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/11/2008 11:32:23 PM

CuckoldSameh

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I heard from several Mistresses that they are against having sexual intercourse - penetration - with their slaves . I mean even their long term live in slaves . Why ? What's is the reason for this in your opinion ? And do you think it's a real phenomenon ???

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/11/2008 11:48:51 PM

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Yes it is, and its not so much of a phenomenon, as a choice and understanding that the lifestyle isn't always about sex of any types. Do you need to have sex of some sort to have a meaningful and great relationship with someone? Absolutely not in my opinion, is it a big step in any relationship of any type? Absolutely and thats my opinion on why some Mistress may choose to not have sexual intercourse with their slaves.

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 12:02:34 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh

I heard from several Mistresses that they are against having sexual intercourse - penetration - with their slaves . I mean even their long term live in slaves . Why ? What's is the reason for this in your opinion ? And do you think it's a real phenomenon ???

Hello and welcome CuckoldSameh,
Yes it is a fact that many Owners do not have sex with their property. For some it isn't about sexual intercourse. It is about power exchange and the use of their slave in a non sexual way. I have used boys to clean my house NSA (Of course they knew before coming that they would get no sex for it) Many slaves serve their owners just for the joy of serving. It has nothing to do with sex to them either. They get satisfaction just seeing the pleasure on their owners face as she smiles at them. It isn't a phenomenon. WIITWD is individual-It has nothing to do with what anyone else wants or needs. It all comes down to what is agreed upon in negotiations. What is one persons kink, may not be the next persons kink.

Good luck to you.

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 12:18:35 AM

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I don't, that's my choice. Some do, that's their choice. No explanation is needed.

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 1:02:05 AM

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I have what I call "friend Domming" situations. We're just freinds. We go out to the movies, hang around the house, do normal chillin' stuff, but in that context, I'm Dominating them. There's no romance or interest there, it's just out relationship.

While I haven't had a full time power exchange freindship, I can certainly see how it could be moved to a live-in situation.

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 1:55:31 AM

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Thanks all of you who replied.......What I found strange was that some Mistresses refuse to have " intercourse " with their slaves , while at the same time , they have it with other lovers . They play BDSM with their slaves and make their slaves serve them in intimate ways like oral worship or massage , but no " penetration " .....Is there a reason for this ?????

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 2:31:02 AM

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I don't "play" at BDSM. A Domme/slave relationship for me has a particular dynamic, sex not being a part of it.

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 2:49:12 AM

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Two reasons i've often heard are that, and i'm not going to give my opinion on them just yet (if at all); is that after orgasm, especially with vaginal intercourse (and be honest, it really is a different kind of orgasm than other types), a male submissive is less submissive. It has been also been said that a woman's orgasm brings her to a level of vulnerability that a certain number of women will refuse to experience with their submissive.

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 3:20:09 AM

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Mistress told me the reason She would have sex with me is because She and I are more than just Mistress and slave. We share other facets of life together and it's a dynamic that She and I both want to incorporate in our life. Does that line of thinking work for everyone? No, because everyone is different. They do what works for them. She and I want to share closeness on every level and from every angle, so that includes intercourse. The theory that once a man cums, he is less submissive may be true for some, but not me. In fact, I get very cuddly and affectionate and it brings my subby level to a different zone. It's difficult to describe, but it's just a different mindset. I'm doing things for love instead of my orgasm controlling my actions. Make sense?

I don't look at Mistress as less dominant or vulnerable if we have sex. It's two people expressing love for each other. Whips, chains, tight latex, and bondage express love, too. If She bends me over and rapes my ass with Her strap-on, She wouldn't be doing that unless She loved me. That is the way She chooses to express Her love for me, too. If we're walking through the mall, holding hands, and She leans over to give me a peck on the cheek, that's expressing Her love for me. See? Love is everywhere and in different forms.

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 4:28:16 AM

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Yes and no....Yes, I have a sex slave that I see once a week....

Diane

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 5:36:49 AM

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yes my mistress has sex with me

love our times together

we have done alot together and the chemistry we have together is awesome as far as im concerned ...strapon sex ..fisting me ...vanilla sex ..its all good

yes i do pay her which might make a difference for some ..no sex would be a deal breaker i think because after a while i think it would get old and boring ..our get togethers are far from old and boring ..she is a keeper in my book

we usually get together a couple of times a week doing different play scenes each time ..love a lady in control and she plays on that

have fun ..mal

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 6:43:15 AM

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I have had consensual intercourse with two men in my lifetime -- my husband and a former slave. I made very sure I was on birth control and they each used condoms but at that time I was also fairly sure we could handle a baby.

Then things changed financially and even though we are good now until I get a tenure track job I do personally think it is worth the risk to have intercourse. I'd known too many people (my family included) whose forms of birth control failed, even the surgical kinds that are not supposed to fail -- tying tubes in the women in my family does not work!

For me, intercourse isn't about power or authority, it's about the potential to create a life and get an STD. At this point in my world it is not worth the risk.

Besides there are a lot of very fun activities one can do that will result in fun orgasms for all over and over again.

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 9:08:30 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: darchChylde

It has been also been said that a woman's orgasm brings her to a level of vulnerability that a certain number of women will refuse to experience with their submissive.

This really nails it for me. I have sexual interaction, and orgasms, with those that I consider to be on the same "level" as myself. So, sex with a bottom male, sure! Sex with someone I own? Not so much.

I revisit this feeling often, especially when I meet a submissive male that I especially like. So far, I have not changed my mind---and my decision was reinforced by realtime experience.

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 9:35:46 AM

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i am white male who is submissive to all women but particulalrly black women

most of the mistresses i have served have alpha male lovers to whom they turn for

intercourse.and would have no need for me in that respect,to the contary they

would laugh at the absurd suggestion my pathetic skinny body and tiny penis

could excite or satisfy them

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 9:46:57 AM

darchChylde

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quote:

ORIGINAL: maggot3

i am white male who is submissive to all women but particulalrly black women

most of the mistresses i have served have alpha male lovers to whom they turn for

intercourse.and would have no need for me in that respect,to the contary they

would laugh at the absurd suggestion my pathetic skinny body and tiny penis

could excite or satisfy them

I now no longer wonder why male subs have such a bad reputation in the community. My friend, self confidence is attractive and you'll find you have a better chance to attract a dominant woman if you grow a spine and put the fantasy aside until someone gets to know you. I'd highly recommend that you sit down and rewrite your profile, telling about yourself without the entire list of sexual failures, which is so overboard that i have little faith that it is at all the truth.

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 9:58:28 AM

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I think if you share a relationship that goes deeper than just D/s (which is deep also or at least can be), having sex is probably part of the menu. However if the relationship is power exchange based then more than likely not. I notice however that this is a predicament for mainly Mistresses and not Masters. Which I think directly affects how Domme's are viewed in the lifestyle.

I am the dominant and therefore for me it shouldn't matter. If I command it or direct it- then it is about service. If I have a marital relationship with that slave- the direct command is still about service but also about love. Therefore what's the problem? If I become pregnant by the sex- does me being pregnant make me less dominant? I don't think so.

Also every woman and man needs a maintenance man/woman from time to time.

I guess it is a matter of taste and desire.

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 10:04:39 AM

darchChylde

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ORIGINAL: Kaiynasha

If I become pregnant by the sex- does me being pregnant make me less dominant? I don't think so.

MK

Hehe, you gave me a giggle there. My wife and most pregnant women i knew became dominant or more dominant while pregnant. On the flip-side, in my experiance; most dominant men become submissives when sick.

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Where the fuck do I post?

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 2:34:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh

I heard from several Mistresses that they are against having sexual intercourse - penetration - with their slaves . I mean even their long term live in slaves . Why ? What's is the reason for this in your opinion ? And do you think it's a real phenomenon ???

It's all about that needle cuck,
that click, that magic... the one for you.. and you only!

And ofcourse it matters on your clitsize..
if it's not worth to bother...
then I would prefer a real cock to fuck!

Goodluck & Warm Greetingz

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 3:15:01 PM

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I don't own slaves, if I did I might have 'intercourse' with them then again I might not.

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RE: Would you have intercourse with your slave ? - 1/12/2008 4:04:48 PM

MsWorthy

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I only have sex with my primary partner. She is submissive to me in all areas of life, but she has no interest in s/m other than what I would term *rough* sex.

I do not/have no intention of having (genital and orgasm focused) sex with my play partners.

As for why I do it this way, s/m is not about sex for me, per se. It is certainly arousing and acts as foreplay for me, however the goal of *play* for me is that intense exchange of power.

< Message edited by MsWorthy -- 1/12/2008 4:10:48 PM >

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