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TearCollector -> Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 12:44:25 PM)

I have not posted a picture in my profile for a number of reasons. One of the top reasons is that I dont want my slave to give a hoot what I look like. Maybe some would assume that means I dont have a positive look. In fact, that would be quite wrong. I dont have a problem getting women. I have a problem finding the one I need.

I dont know why I feel compelled to repeat this. But each time I post here, I feel a need to advertise that I am not lonely. Its not why I am here. I also do not assume that of others. I believe Collarme.com is a place where my unknown servant will visit so I have made my self available here. Strategically, its like a cross roads that I will sit and wait. Ok,,, now I have made myself feel better with that advertisement, Ill get on with the question.

How much value does a slave put in a profile pic. Do female slaves look equally at profiles with and with out pics? Does it matter to you? If the first thing a woman says to me when she messages me is "where is your pic", I have lost interest. Im happy to send my photo to anyone that feels its worth sending. But it just cant be the first question out of the gate. The physical attraction must be a low priority. I want her mind enslaved by mine. Her soul wrapped in my words and her body in unparalleled obedience. Im prepared to take the time to allow that to happen. I realize it wont be delivered to me like that.

Men are of coarse attracted initially by a womens looks. Shallow men stop there. But we all look first at that cute figure and the physical attraction. Its our nature. But, does a female slave pass up a profile with out a pic? In what percentages does this occur?

Before I end this post, I want to openly thank each and everyone of you who have messaged me. I am absolutely thrilled at the response I have received from the readers of this forum. Slaves and Masters alike have contacted me and offered friendship and advice. I find it odd that I expected less. I understand now why the people in this lifestyle have a unique bond. Its more than common interests. Its a mutual kindness and respect toward each other and seemingly others. You as a group could teach humanity about what they have left behind in the way of "loving thy neighbor." But I think the world confuses that phrase with "dont covet thy neighbor’s wife". ROFL! Silly Me....


TearCollector



quietkitten -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 12:47:28 PM)

So it is OK for men to be appearance oriented but it is not OK for women?



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 12:58:40 PM)

For me I will totally not pay attention to a profile unless there is also a picture.

I recognize there are many reasons, logical or illogical, which may make a person choose to not put up a picture and I respect that. But I won't be interested in getting to know them more.

Personally I don't see why people get upset over caring how people look. How we look says a LOT about ourselves, how we see ourselves in the world, how we are aware of our social surroundings, how we take care of ourselves, and somewhat of our personality.

Is it the whole shebang? No. Are any of my partners model material? Only one. Judging someones looks is far more than "hot or not." Online it's "hair style, is this a recent pic, clothes style, what's in the background, what's he trying to show here, facial expressions"

A picture is worth a thousand words- and in this day and age I just don't see a good reason not to have a recent pic up on a personals site when you're actively looking. But if you disagree, that's fine, we're just not compatible and I will skip over your profile.



justatoy2 -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 12:59:32 PM)

just as a man is interested in what someone looks like, it doesn't make it any different for a woman. I just think it depends how much emphasis someone places on looks. I do have to be attracted to a man i am involved with, but that attraction could come in many forms. He could have an awesome pair of hands, or beautiful eyes. That combined with an outstanding personality would win me over. As far as looking at someones profile, i don't really care if it has a pic or doesn't but if someone contacts me, i do prefer exchanging pictures fairly early. Mostly because i like to see whom i am speaking with. I have known some men that i didn't feel were attractive at first, but became more attractive as time went on.



TearCollector -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 1:08:25 PM)

quietkitten

I re-read my post to see where I may have led you to believe I wasnt ok with what the "general" population of women wants. To be honest, I couldnt see it. So I left the post as is. Ill clarify though.

What women want in "general" may or may not be in synch with what I desire in my "specific" slave. As an "individual" I would want her a "specific" way. But if the "main" population of females on earth made looks a priority, it would not concern me as long as my servant was not one of them.

I do not infringe on a persons rights to be who and what they chose to be. But in kind, I do not yield to anothers views imposed on me. I am an individual as well. I will die being the person I choose to be. I applaud your right to be who you choose to be as well. So no, I do not give too much thought about a persons preferances unless they are applying for my collar.

Take Care kitten

TearCollector



quietkitten -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 1:11:01 PM)

Thank you for the clarification TearCollector, I appreciate it.



perverseangelic -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 1:13:17 PM)

For me, profile pictures don't really matter so much in that I'm not looking at how hot they are. I prefer partners I connect with on a non-visual level. However I -do- think pictures are importat.

I'm looking for a couple things though.

A profile picture tells a LOT about a person. The way they pose, what they pose with, all give me an idea of who the person is. If they chose to pose with a car, a whip or a tied up girl, I know what is important to them. How they dress inthe picture, if they used a crappy webcam shot, etc.

Also, I prefer people who are able to be out about who they are, and having a pciture on the site shows me that (I know there are vry good reasons not to be out, it's just a preference).

Also, I find it frustrating when someone demands photos of me but is unwilling to provide them in return. Having a profile photo makes you so much less of a hypocrite.



luvdragonx -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 1:32:34 PM)

I'm going to venture a guess and say that, while most women may be initially attracted to physical appearance, it will in no way keep their interest, especially if the rest of the package is lacking.

Some women might prefer a picture because:

it demonstrates personal confidence. Be you hot or not, if you are willing to post your picture, you're willing to open yourself to criticism.

it seems only fair, since a lot of times women are passed over for not having a picture.

they want a face to put with the words they swoon over.

they want to make sure they don't know you from somewhere else.

Just some ideas.



FangsNfeet -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 1:39:37 PM)

The most important thing about a pic is that it helps with trust. If you don't want to provide a pic in your profile, then it's best to offer that you have a web cam and pics that you can send.

Belive it or not LOOKS do matter and just about everyone is going to care what you look like. Anyhow, I'm not going to meet someone in public without a photo as some sort of proof that they are who they say they are. I'll even check your Drivers Liscense to be on the safe side of being with a person of legal age.

I've seen my fair share of lies, scams, and deciet on the net. If you want a sub with common sense, then the sub will be smart enough to request some pics and web cam varification. Not necessarly for your looks but to gain trust.



TearCollector -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 1:58:34 PM)

All these responses were of great value. One particular sentance by FangsNFeet got my specific attention. A picture does add some value to trust. Why, I dont know but I can see that it does. We all value trust. But Ladies, dont you think you value trust a bit more then us initially?

I think on a list of primal and instinctual priorities, men would put looks as an initial impression and the ladies would put a large priority on a feeling of trust. Of coarse I am only speaking of that first moment of flash when you initially see what a person looks like and your primal instict developes an oppinion. Our long term priorities are beyond instinct and are differant for each individual.

Good on you FangsNFeet! YOu have changed my oppinion on the picture in the profile thingy. Ill post an appropriate one in a day or so.

As for the rest that replied. YOur response also motivated me to consider this issue in a differant light. Thank you.

TearCollector



lonewolf05 -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 2:01:15 PM)

problem is;

collarme is being an ass. i lost 3 pictures i put up so i quit giving a damn. i figure if my ugly mug is so important, they can ask for it, give em 1/2 hour and know the mailbox will stay empty.

wolf



littleone35 -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 4:17:59 PM)

All of the men who e maile me not one had a pic did i care not really. Sure looks help but they are not everything i would rather have a avrage guy who treats me right than a super stud who is abusive. Just my thoughts on this subject.

littleone



sub4hire -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 4:51:01 PM)

Look's do not matter to me 100%. However looks do matter to some extent. If you are butt ugly and you are to some. I would'nt want to negotiate a relationship with you.

The way I see it is if you are so ugly I cannot kiss you then you are not for me.
Looks are also in the eye of the beholder. There are a lot of people out there who all swoon over who do nothing for me.
So, you just never know.

A photo of you is not going to prove that you are more real than anyone else. It is not going to do much of anything other than give me an idea of whom I am talking to.
After all anyone can go out and get a photo. Claim it is them. It has happened too many times for any of us to count.

I guess you should ask yourself the question. If a sub did not have a pic on her profile, would you contact her? Would the photo be important to you?
Females are no different than men, the only difference is they don't talk about everything as openly as men do.
How often haveyou been walking through the mall and heard a woman say "hey look at the cock on that guy" yet you've heard a man talk about a females ass.
If you haven't you haven't been listening.



felineone -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 5:20:12 PM)

hmmm mens pics...
how does everyone feel about all those dick pics???? jeeze. I absolutly do not speak to anyone with just that. in fact, i'd rather not see one of those at all. that's one of the reasons i'm not big on ALT.
as for a face shot, i do have certain preferences, as we all do, but i will speak to people who don't have a pic, at least for a while. there is usually some info in the profile, and you can get a general idea from height, weight, age, if they are honest.
When i first met my Master,(online) I didn't see a pic for quite a while. by then I was already liking the person i knew, and his looks wouldn't have mattered much, but thank god he turned out to be just my type!
As for my pic, I just didn't want to show my face to the world at a sight like this, because of my profession.



Euryanx -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 5:37:10 PM)

TearCollector, what if we turn your question back around and throw it at you. Do you reply to women who don't post a pix? Would you meet a woman who didn't post a pix?

In my experience, i've seen numerous reasons why people don't post pix...

They are insecure about their appearance
They are fanatics about their privacy
They are afraid a stalker will track them down
They are married and don't want their spouse to catch them cheating
They are shaped like a bowling ball
They are a man pretending to be a woman

Although looks are not everything, they certainly are one of the ingredients that brings two people together. You're just kidding yourself if you think you're going to find someone who is going to love you based solely on who you are on the inside. In an idealistic world, that could work. In the real world... doubtful. I've communicated with pictureless people on the net in the past, where we made a nice connection through emails or on the phone... then when you meet... suddenly it becomes ho-hum. Physical attraction is just one of many components when it comes to finding real chemistry.



krys -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 5:48:08 PM)

Nope, dont care.



JohnWarren -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 5:52:57 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: felineone

hmmm mens pics...
how does everyone feel about all those dick pics???? jeeze. I absolutly do not speak to anyone with just that. in fact, i'd rather not see one of those at all. that's one of the reasons i'm not big on ALT.


I'll admit I'm amazed at the genitalia pictures on ALT by both men and women. Of course, it does serve as a litmus test of sorts. Were I looking, that certainly would be a profile I'd skip.



lonewolf05 -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 6:18:38 PM)

forgot also collarme removes pix too..so i quit putting one in



wetsub000 -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 6:37:59 PM)

I really don't care if a profile has a pic or not. However if it does have a pic I can be put off by some of them (and not always because they're genitalia pics).



ModeratorEleven -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/26/2005 6:40:08 PM)

We remove photos that violate the rules, lonewolf. Give it a rest.

XI



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