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OmegaG -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 7:21:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 order your dinner for you when you go out. They don't pick out what you eat, you tell them what you want and they order it for you? My Owner does. It's kind of nice. My father always ussed to order for me. I think the most amusing conversation I had with him was when I called him (as an adult) and asked him how I liked my steak cooked. I generally take so long to make up my mind that I think that the impulse to order for me comes naturally for almost anyone I go out to eat with. It's the one area of my life where I'm the most indecisive.

chiaThePet -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 7:34:41 AM)
Eh, who knows. I'm generally under the table serving the appetizer. chia* (the pet)

LadyRope -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 7:37:51 AM)
It depends on my mood ,I enjoy ordering for my partner,when I am in a relationship,infact way before the food decision,I let the waiter/waitress know that the person with me will not need a menue as I will be ordering for him,it gets some looks,some smiles and gives me a little giggle..There are times where I have only ordered for myself and given my partern the scraps from my plate,after all it is a priviledge just for him sitting at the table with me,lol it all fun....

BeingChewsie -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 8:06:26 AM)
Quick reply: R orders for me and generally chooses the entree or gives me a couple choices to pick from.

takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 8:30:45 AM)
That's exactly how it is for us. He's southern and his manners are so gentlemanly (most of the time) :) We have fun swapping too. He always orders different from me, so i get to nibble on the fattening stuff a little and he gets to nibble on what's good for him. We both win.

DesFIP -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 8:41:10 AM)
Nope, probably because I'm always still staring at the menu when the waitstaff is ready for the order. He does order drinks because he knows what I want.

Evility -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 8:46:54 AM)
Vanilla folks have been doing this for about a bajillion years.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 9:17:25 AM)
never had a man order for me however i'll be one picking up the bill Wednesday when taking the SO out for dinner.

kyraofMists -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 9:29:08 AM)
Depends on what he wants. If he wants to order for us he will. If he wants us to order for him then we do. We take our direction from him in the moment to know what we are supposed to do. Knight's Kyra

Padriag -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 9:36:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 order your dinner for you when you go out. They don't pick out what you eat, you tell them what you want and they order it for you? My Owner does. It's kind of nice. Generally I do. If I'm out with a date I usually order. If we're somewhere new to her, I'm get an idea of what she likes. I may push her to try something new if I think it would be fun or an interesting experience. I'm notorious for requiring a submissive to learn to eat with chopsticks, fortunately for them I'm a good teacher.

goLEATHER -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 9:50:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NorthernGent quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 order your dinner for you when you go out. They don't pick out what you eat, you tell them what you want and they order it for you? My Owner does. It's kind of nice. I like to amuse myself by having her read the menu in advance and pick out 2 main courses she'd like, and two she wouldn't - at the restaurant, I order for her, a sort of eating Russian roullette. Hmm...did you ever think she might just pick out 4 things she likes and tell you she doesn't like 2 of them? Seems a pretty easy way around that one. Or what if she doesn't think she would like something based on the menu description but then when she eats it she really loves it? Does that defeat the purpose for you? edited - I saw you're 2nd post and it makes me feel better knowing you wouldn't really torture her with food. Though who am I to judge what people find hot. Being made to octopus might be a kink for someone.

NorthernGent -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 10:00:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goLEATHER Hmm...did you ever think she might just pick out 4 things she likes and tell you she doesn't like 2 of them? No, my brain capacity doesn't extend to such a level.

moonvine -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 10:14:18 AM)
I haven't ever had anyone do that for me but my dad that I can recall.

sirguym -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 10:23:02 AM)
The general, commonsense, rule of good manners as I understand them, in the vanilla world, is that whoever will pay the bill, orders the food, which seems eminently sensible to me. After all, if you're paying the bill, you ought to have the right to eg discourage a guest ordering some outrageously expensive option. Most waiters or waitresses will generally presume that's the man; because it usually is in this wifde world. But if I am eating with a lady and she's paying, whether she's Domme, sub or vanilla, and regardless of the fact that I am Dom, and a man, I will encourage her to 'do the honours', unless she's too tongue-tied or nervous, that's just that way it is. I have played the game of not consulting a sub lady I'm dining with, simply just ordering for her; but I have had it go very badly wrong; you have to know her likes, dislikes, medical conditions, aversions and allergies very well! Incidentally on the subject of table manners, in the spirit of recommending care; I was once sharing a meal with a Chinese girl, on Chinese New Year's Eve, with many other Chinese friends. I picked up some particularly tasty morsel and recommended it. Then went to put it in her plate. She waved it away -and I got my shins kicked-in under the table. Afterwards I asked why and she said, "You do realise that all these people think you have just proposed marriage to me? I knew you didn't mean it, but it was very embarrassing because they think I asked you and I said no!

ownedgirlie -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 10:53:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 order your dinner for you when you go out. They don't pick out what you eat, you tell them what you want and they order it for you? My Owner does. It's kind of nice. He will let me look at the menu and then ask what looks good to me. I tell him an item or two - "My first choice would be...(whatever it is), and my next choice would be...(whatever it is). He places the order. If I want wine or another alcoholic drink, I ask him permission and if granted, he orders it. If I wish for coffee after dinner, I ask permission and he orders it. He approves refills as well. The wait staff always appears confused by this, taking the woman's order first and having Mr. Wonderful interject. When the waiter asks what I want, I always smile over to my Master just before he orders. If I'm picking up take out, Master doesn't want to think about it, so I decide what to get, knowing what he likes.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 11:16:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 order your dinner for you when you go out. They don't pick out what you eat, you tell them what you want and they order it for you? My Owner does. It's kind of nice. Not unless we're being really formal and want to. My first owner did this and I hated it- only because, without fail, he'd forget that he had this rule and only remember when the waiter came around to ask for orders. So then he'd have to ask us what we wanted, we'd have to tell him in front of the waiter, and then he'd have to tell the waiter. He never changed what we wanted or deliberated, he just wanted the ego rush of being the one to order. When you've been with someone for three years and they still don't remember their own rules until the person is there and waiting, it became more of an annoyance than anything.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 11:36:51 PM)
LOL hell no he doesn't get to pick what I eat just cause he pays. And I feel that if someone offers to take someone out they should be able to afford their meal and yours, and as a guest I wouldn't go for the 40 dollar plate anyway, unless we negotiated it. quote: ORIGINAL: sirguym The general, commonsense, rule of good manners as I understand them, in the vanilla world, is that whoever will pay the bill, orders the food, which seems eminently sensible to me. After all, if you're paying the bill, you ought to have the right to eg discourage a guest ordering some outrageously expensive option.

MaamJay -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/13/2008 11:59:21 PM)
I've done this both ways. As a Domme, I thoroughly enjoyed placing the order (after consultation with them) for 2 sub boys when on a visit to Melbourne some years back. The main reason for the enjoyment was the waiter's response ... he kept trying so hard to get the boys to say something! What really did it was when he asked them how they were enjoying their cakes ... and I answered that the mudcake was good but the honeycake was too rich LOL! (I was eating cheesecake Myself!). It was a good stir, culminating in the fact that I went to the pay the bill (prearranged that it was My treat) and when the waiter looked up from the till and I said, "I'm paying for all 3 of U/us" he said "You would!" On the other hand, Master prefers me to do the ordering, He doesn't overly enjoy talking with waiters and figures that's a useful service i can perform. He tells me what He wants, it's my job to get it right and to remember to tell them about O/our food allergies (Him - fish, seafood, pumpkin, me - capsicum). However, He listens carefully and prompts me if necessary, though for me, it's a matter of pride to remember it all and get it right! Now W/we live together and finances are shared it doesn't really matter who pays ... more often that not I do as My purse is usually more readily available. With a sub, it depends a bit ... if it's a first meet and they've gone out of their way to be there, I will pay, especially if it's just for a coffee meet. For dinner, I would expect them to pay for theirs but not for Mine or Master's. If they come to stay here, I expect them to chip in something towards their expenses (Master and I aren't made of $) but I don't worry about every last cent. And the more active work they do for Us, the less I am going to worry about $$ as they will be saving Us some! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

manbuttsub -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/14/2008 4:31:49 AM)
As a diffferent slant, i had the experience of being owned for nearly 10 years by a couple who would take me out to dinner at least once a week, order for me without consultation, but more often than not (approx 2 out of 3) not order at all and i just had to sit in silence watching them eat and was forbidden to speak to the waiting staff.

MsPleasure -> RE: Does your Dominant/Domme (1/14/2008 4:56:05 AM)
I have done it both ways. Ive interrupted a sub in the middle of his order and told the waitress what he would be having. It shocked and amused him. I also have subs bring me what I like.

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