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taintedgypsy -> Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 4:53:32 AM)
lmao ... told on first real convo that if I was his sub I would not be driving a truck, I would be having pedicures, manicures, my hair done regularly and religiously kept to an exercise program ... My first thought ... "no I am sure my name is not Barbie" No interest in my mind, my ideals or ideas, philosphy of life ... just that I look imaculate and behave like an automaton Well obviously I am not meant to be His sub ... but what outlandish things have you been told by a Dom would be reality "were you to be owned by Him/Her"?

TreasureKY -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 4:57:08 AM)
There is nothing outlandish about his desires. You two were simply not compatible.

eyesopened -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 4:58:38 AM)
i was told i would have to dye my hair, wear a size whatever, enjoy this and that and some other criteria... when in the end what this guy wanted was to transform me to become a submissive he'd once had and lost.... sad really.

sunshinemiss -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 5:16:17 AM)
First - my favorite (which I wouldn't be opposed to ) - make out like two vanilla high schoolers.... That made me smile and think about all that groping in a car, steaming up the windows, accidentally hitting the horn, cops knocking on the window.... and then there were the, shall we call them, not quite ready for prime time ones - be gangbanged at the first meeting, xxxxxxxxxxx, forced bisexuality, public exposure while being videotaped, locked in his house while he worked, shave my hair off, have plastic surgery, and wear a gps chip under my skin.... right... i'm gonna do that stuff ... It was a busy email day. sigh. [Mod Note: TOS violation removed]

mislead -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 5:27:03 AM)
please help,anyone who has some input...i am fairly new to this lifestyle and have a question.i have a D who is interested in meeting me,but demands that the first meeting will take place in my home.he wont tell me his first name{real name}and he calls me from a private#,he states he will reveal all information necessary when i meet him.i told him i wanted to meet in a public place for the 1st timewhen requesting this he says he is a very private person.i said,hey you may not like me,nor me you.that didnt matter to him i guess.he has already mad his demands of what i will do to him and him me upon the first meeting..thanks, mislead and very confused

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 5:28:42 AM)
I have actually gotten "when I realize I am not really a dominant and become his sub" email Where I would learn to cook (which I already do extremely well), get used to being in heels all the time, even if completely naked otherwise, wear a posture collar 24/7, happily sexually entertain he and all his friends whenever he wished, wear a gps tag so he could track me assuming he ever let me out of the house, give up my right to an independant bank account and depend completely on him and (my favorite) accept the idea of being bound and chained in his home, to make sure I never get the urge to try and escape. I told him not to hold his breath.... but thanks for the ideas chuckle DV

cherrypez -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 5:31:14 AM)
I would either tell him I lived in a box outside McDonalds and we could meet there or block his stupid ass and never speak to him again.

TreasureKY -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 5:36:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mislead please help,anyone who has some input...i am fairly new to this lifestyle and have a question.i have a D who is interested in meeting me,but demands that the first meeting will take place in my home.he wont tell me his first name{real name}and he calls me from a private#,he states he will reveal all information necessary when i meet him.i told him i wanted to meet in a public place for the 1st timewhen requesting this he says he is a very private person.i said,hey you may not like me,nor me you.that didnt matter to him i guess.he has already mad his demands of what i will do to him and him me upon the first meeting..thanks, mislead and very confused What are you confused about? This man is a stranger to you... and not even one who is forthcoming with honest information. Why would you even consider letting him know where you live or allowing him to dictate what you would do or have done to you?

eyesopened -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 5:36:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cherrypez I would either tell him I lived in a box outside McDonalds and we could meet there or block his stupid ass and never speak to him again. good advice! You could give him the address to your nearest police station...that would be fun.

sunshinemiss -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 5:51:58 AM)
And then there was the man who told me he would beat me until my bones were broken and / or I passed out, he would throat fuck me until I vomited, I would have to sit in my own piss for hours.... god, I can't believe I forgot about him. lol

fluffyswitch -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 5:54:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TreasureKY There is nothing outlandish about his desires. You two were simply not compatible. it's a truly personal reaction but to me those desires are outlandish. if he or she feels they need to make that many changes to a sub to make them appropriate, then those dominants would be better off just finding someone else in the first place. it makes me laugh when i get these emails. 'i would love to have you, if you were blond, thin, and everything that you're not currently.' but then i've been really lucky. my domme thinks i'm gorgeous already and my dom only makes statements like 'if you were my sub' because we're stilling feeling out the boundaries. he says it less and less though as he gets more comfortable seeing me a sub and not as a one or two time play partner.

TreasureKY -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 6:29:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fluffyswitch quote: ORIGINAL: TreasureKY There is nothing outlandish about his desires. You two were simply not compatible. it's a truly personal reaction but to me those desires are outlandish. if he or she feels they need to make that many changes to a sub to make them appropriate, then those dominants would be better off just finding someone else in the first place. it makes me laugh when i get these emails. 'i would love to have you, if you were blond, thin, and everything that you're not currently.' but then i've been really lucky. my domme thinks i'm gorgeous already and my dom only makes statements like 'if you were my sub' because we're stilling feeling out the boundaries. he says it less and less though as he gets more comfortable seeing me a sub and not as a one or two time play partner. I can see how his desires might not be compatible with you... and I agree that it's usually wisest to find someone who already closely meets your needs or shares your desires. However, I find it distasteful to mock someone else's desires and call them outlandish simply because they aren't agreeable to me. Don't get me wrong... I do think there are some outlandish desires out there, it's just that from both a societal and lifestyle perspective there isn't really anything unusual about a woman having a regular exercise and grooming regime.

fluffyswitch -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 6:38:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TreasureKY quote: ORIGINAL: fluffyswitch quote: ORIGINAL: TreasureKY There is nothing outlandish about his desires. You two were simply not compatible. it's a truly personal reaction but to me those desires are outlandish. if he or she feels they need to make that many changes to a sub to make them appropriate, then those dominants would be better off just finding someone else in the first place. it makes me laugh when i get these emails. 'i would love to have you, if you were blond, thin, and everything that you're not currently.' but then i've been really lucky. my domme thinks i'm gorgeous already and my dom only makes statements like 'if you were my sub' because we're stilling feeling out the boundaries. he says it less and less though as he gets more comfortable seeing me a sub and not as a one or two time play partner. I can see how his desires might not be compatible with you... and I agree that it's usually wisest to find someone who already closely meets your needs or shares your desires. However, I find it distasteful to mock someone else's desires and call them outlandish simply because they aren't agreeable to me. Don't get me wrong... I do think there are some outlandish desires out there, it's just that from both a societal and lifestyle perspective there isn't really anything unusual about a woman having a regular exercise and grooming regime. i think it's best just to agree to disagree on this, especially if the societal imperative is brought into this.

venusinblu -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 6:53:26 AM)
not wishing to speak out of turn, but this man is not a Dom, he's a bully - and possibly a bully with something to hide. At best he's married, at worst he's in total ignorance about how any sensible woman would wish to ensure their personal safety regarding meeting strange men.

Maya2001 -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 7:22:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mislead please help,anyone who has some input...i am fairly new to this lifestyle and have a question.i have a D who is interested in meeting me,but demands that the first meeting will take place in my home.he wont tell me his first name{real name}and he calls me from a private#,he states he will reveal all information necessary when i meet him.i told him i wanted to meet in a public place for the 1st timewhen requesting this he says he is a very private person.i said,hey you may not like me,nor me you.that didnt matter to him i guess.he has already mad his demands of what i will do to him and him me upon the first meeting..thanks, mislead and very confused Tell him where he can shove his dom scepter... nobody comes to my home or gets my home address until I am very comfortable with them and know I am safe with them, and if they are from the US, I want a full name first with some sort of proof to confirm that they are who they claim to be, as I do check the US Department of Justice sex offender registry first. Anyone who has to hide their identity from me, .....raises huge red flags. If they want to pull the "you don't trust me and your being disrespectful" let them and walk away..... trust is earned not ordered. Any sane/safe dom would never even think of putting you in an unsafe postion and would insist on meeting only in public places until you are totally comfortable with them. Do not be stupid to agree to his terms, your life may count on it. Your submission is supposed to be something you want to give over because you totally trust , not something to be forced from you.....this man no respect for you as a person , if he can not respect you as a person how do you think he will truly treat you as a sub????

KatyLied -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 7:36:44 AM)
I'm with Treasure on this. I don't see it being a bad thing that he is communicating what he likes and how he wants it to be. Perhaps he is also testing the waters to see if she is amenable to these sorts of authority within a relationship. Simply, if you don't want to do that girly stuff, find a dominant more in tune with the things you like.

juliaoceania -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 7:50:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: taintedgypsy lmao ... told on first real convo that if I was his sub I would not be driving a truck, I would be having pedicures, manicures, my hair done regularly and religiously kept to an exercise program ... My first thought ... "no I am sure my name is not Barbie" No interest in my mind, my ideals or ideas, philosphy of life ... just that I look imaculate and behave like an automaton Well obviously I am not meant to be His sub ... but what outlandish things have you been told by a Dom would be reality "were you to be owned by Him/Her"? I do not consider those things that the dom told you to be "outlandish". I am expected to go to the gym, eat right, he is now insisting that he buy me the wardrobe he wants me to be in. If he demanded I get manicures I would. My hair is kept by me to his liking, if he wanted to he would be within his rights to take me to "get it done". I am not a "Barbie". I am educated, multi-faceted, and he respects my mind greatly. In fact he has told me repeatedly that he has conversations with me that he has never had with any other woman. I wanted to point out that just because a dominant wants their submissive to appear a certain way does not mean they view them as a "doll", that they lack respect for that submissive's intellect, because in my case there can be nothing further from the truth.... Anyone that has read my Daddy's posts in off topic can very well tell that he has nothing but admiration for my mind... and his interest in my appearance is greatly appreciated by me. I want him to be proud of not only my mind, but my appearance too.

liminalRapture -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 7:55:08 AM)
Most outlandish one I had was that I would agree that global warming was a myth and Paul Krugman didn't know what he was talking about. It wasn't even if I was 'his' sub--he said "if you were really submissive you would agree." I guess if I were 'really submissive' I'd have a lobotomy. (This was almost 3 years ago--maybe he's changed his view on global warming.) I used to have a much more political ad and I'd get these neo-cons trying to convince the 'little lady' of the way the world 'really worked.'

IrishMist -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 8:09:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TreasureKY There is nothing outlandish about his desires. You two were simply not compatible. Bingo [:)]

takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Hve you ever been told ... If you are my sub you would.... (1/13/2008 8:18:10 AM)
No, one should come to your house that you do not know, especially someone who hasn't given you their real name. Please be careful.

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