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OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 8:53:12 AM   
masomale70


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Status: offline 		        Sorry about the over the top thread title.  I tried a different approach and got nothing.

       My girlfriend is a sadist.  I love the things she likes doing, but I'm nervous about something.  Did any third-grader not wrap a bit of string around a finger until the tip turned purple?  That's how she starts at the base on me, with a length of parachute cord.  Then she continues tightly wrapping up to the head.  She has left it like that for over an hour.  We have a safeword, but I'm out of my head from the moment she tightens the first slipknot.  I wonder if I would even notice something going wrong before we needed an ER trip.

      How many others practice this kind of CBT on their males, and what should we be aware of?
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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 9:05:58 AM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		I suggest that you talk about this with your girlfriend. ask if she has had any training, what knowledge in general she has on the subject.  Also check out your local community!

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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 9:30:23 AM   
masomale70


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Status: offline 		      She's not a pro, she didn't study under Misstress Olga in Prague for six years.  She just said she was going to try something one night, and we've worked up.  The "local community" is three hours in the car to spend an hour with people who only want to talk about power exchange, and the importance of "role."

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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 9:41:39 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		There's a fine book called THE FAMILY JEWELS by Hardy Haberman.  I am reasonably sure you can get it from Amazon, or the Stockroom. 

Male genitalia are way sturdier than the nerve endings might let you know, but there are many structures in the penis that can be damaged by excessive pressure or lack of blood flow for an extended period.    It's YOUR unit, use your veto power to refuse things that you think might hurt you permanently! 

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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 9:56:10 AM   
masomale70


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Status: offline 		      "Go to a munch."  "Read this book."  How about asking in a large online group where one would hope to find people with actual experience?

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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 10:03:25 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I HAVE many years of actual experience.  How can I give you lessons online?  In order to find someone to teach you, you have to READ, do research (medical websites?)  and meet LIVE PEOPLE.  I can tell you how to sew up an open wound over the phone, but how good a job would you do? 

Sorry that we didn't fit whatever you were looking for.

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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 11:11:22 AM   
Maynard


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ORIGINAL: masomale70

     "Go to a munch."  "Read this book."  How about asking in a large online group where one would hope to find people with actual experience?



Dizzz-Am!!! That's kind of rude. especially coming from someone one who wants something.

Thank you Lady Hibiscus and Lady Lynx for giving some good advice to someone who doesn't seem to deserve any.  If masomale was my sub I'd be a sadist too :-p

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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 11:20:16 AM   
masomale70


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ORIGINAL: Maynard


If masomale was my sub I'd be a sadist too :-p



      I'm nobody's sub and not the least bit interested in the Dumme attitude anyway.  What good are the many years of experience if you can't provide practical information?

      Stupid fucking clique bullshit, just like those waste of time munches. 

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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 12:09:46 PM   
pixelslave


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ORIGINAL: masomale70

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ORIGINAL: Maynard


If masomale was my sub I'd be a sadist too :-p



     I'm nobody's sub and not the least bit interested in the Dumme attitude anyway.  What good are the many years of experience if you can't provide practical information?

     Stupid fucking clique bullshit, just like those waste of time munches. 


For one who wants help and guidance, I think you do yourself a great disservice in approaching these very experienced women who've given you excellent advice on where to find the information you seek.  Not only have you been impolite to them, you've been downright rude!  
 
But as what you've described is truly dangerous, I'll say something more specific.  Restricting blood flow to any area of the body, including the penis is generally not recommended for more than 20 minutes at a time.  Periods extending beyond that can cause permanent nerve damage.  I doubt your Mistress would want her subs's penis to be damaged such that she couldn't play with it.  This is something you shoud talk about with her immediately!  Another book I'd suggest you read is Jay Wiseman's "SM-101".  I believe there are references to the subject of restricting blood flow in that book as well, but due to your attitude, I have no interest in taking the time right now to verify it by looking in my copy for your convenience.
 
Good luck to you in playing with your Mistress before she does permanent damage to you.  I strongly suggest that both of you educate yourselves before trying any kind of play, even if it's something you already engage in.  There's nothing to lose in researching that which interests and excites you and there aren't always easy answers to questions.  In part it depends on whether you wish to play SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) or RACK away (Risk with Acceptable Consequences Knowledgeable).  It's your responsibility to make the effort to take care of yourself, not ours!  You seem to be a prime example of the old addage "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink!"  I suggest you "drink" what's been offered you and learn from it, rather than go thirsty for the knowledge contained therein.
 
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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 12:28:50 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		Why not take responcibility for your own dick by learning what's safe and what's not rather than rely on strangers to tell you what you should be doing.

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ORIGINAL: masomale70

     "Go to a munch."  "Read this book."  How about asking in a large online group where one would hope to find people with actual experience?

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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 12:33:37 PM   
masomale70


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Status: offline 		        I tried a simple question.  I tried polite.  Being told to look it up, or ask a question in a much smaller venue of people just as snotty, is not excellent advice.  I've read Heberman's book.  Not mentioned.  I've googled.
      So thanks pixelslave.  Here I am in a room full of experts and the best answer comes from another guy, and he has to phrase it up to kiss their asses.  Please don't hang your lifestyle choices on my kink.  She is my girlfriend, not my misstress.  If she wants to embrace all that superiority crap I'll wish her the best of luck in that, and in finding another roof to live under.  What we have works fine.

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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 12:54:46 PM   
pixelslave


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ORIGINAL: masomale70

       I tried a simple question.  I tried polite.  Being told to look it up, or ask a question in a much smaller venue of people just as snotty, is not excellent advice.  I've read Heberman's book.  Not mentioned.  I've googled.
     So thanks pixelslave.  Here I am in a room full of experts and the best answer comes from another guy, and he has to phrase it up to kiss their asses.  Please don't hang your lifestyle choices on my kink.  She is my girlfriend, not my misstress.  If she wants to embrace all that superiority crap I'll wish her the best of luck in that, and in finding another roof to live under.  What we have works fine.


Please don't put words in my mouth masomale70!  I didn't phrase my reply to imply in any way that you should "kiss ass", only that it works best around here to be respectful, polite, and to take some responsibility for the extra effort that might be required to find the answers to your questions using all the resources available to you.  After all, its is your dick we're talking about, not one belonging to any of the rest of us!  You presumably have the most invested in putting out the effort to find the answers to your questions, not us.
 
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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 12:57:21 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: masomale70

   "Go to a munch."  "Read this book."  How about asking in a large online group where one would hope to find people with actual experience?


Well if you want to trust strangers (since we are all experts, as you said) on the internet without doing any research on your part....


Yes this is a horrible to do. Your dick is going to fall off in ten days and there is nothing you can do about it. The damage is already done.

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 1/13/2008 12:58:50 PM >

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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 12:59:14 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		Nobody here ever claimed to be experts either, that's your wording not any of ours. Do not make the mistake of thinking a huge group of people online will be experts at anything simply cause its a large group online.

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ORIGINAL: masomale70
Here I am in a room full of experts

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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 1:09:26 PM   
MrKite


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Status: offline 		Potential complications include ischemia, clotting of the blood retained in the penis (thrombosis), and damage to the blood vessels of the penis which may result in an impaired erectile function or impotence. In serious cases, the ischemia may result in gangrene, which could necessitate penis removal. 

They have warnings on Viagra for a reason.

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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 1:25:46 PM   
phunchurchgirl


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Status: offline 		I think he did come off as rude toward the middle but he did kinda have a point (which was hard to see amidst the sarcasm).

If someone suggests he read a book then chances are they've read it and know a bit about what is said on the subject. It could have helped to say "it will pop; check such and such a book for reference". If we read instructions in a book then, to me, it's the same as reading instructions in a post.

He also asked for feedback from others who do it. I had similar concerns about breast play because it hurt like the dickens but felt really good. I learned about the concerns from others and then I did research based on what they suggested. A good example of this is Mr. Kite's post


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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 1:36:34 PM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		The point I attempted to make is that unless the OP does some research on his own, he doesn't know if the advice he is given by anyone here is sound or not. Just because someone posts it on a message board doesn't mean it's accurate or safe.

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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 1:38:59 PM   
MsSaskia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: masomale70
     I'm nobody's sub and not the least bit interested in the Dumme attitude anyway.  What good are the many years of experience if you can't provide practical information?

     Stupid fucking clique bullshit, just like those waste of time munches. 


Using manners and civility is not submission, it's maturity.  It has nothing to do with the scene per se and everything to do with character.  Your  impatience and frustration is not a justification for incivility.  Neither are your projected expectations an obligation for others to perform up to your standards.

If it hurts enough to cause you concern, ask her to take it off earlier.  Yes, you can burst blood vessels.  It's possible you can work up to longer periods of being bound that way and your body will adapt.  If it starts to hurt in a bad way, stop.  Or don't.  Evolution is a beautiful thing.

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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 1:51:45 PM   
Zaraseeks


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ORIGINAL: MsSaskia

If it hurts enough to cause you concern, ask her to take it off earlier.  Yes, you can burst blood vessels.  It's possible you can work up to longer periods of being bound that way and your body will adapt.  If it starts to hurt in a bad way, stop.  Or don't.  Evolution is a beautiful thing.


HAHA!!!  Yes evolution is a beautiful thing!!!  Thanks MsSaskia!!!!

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RE: OMG! She's going to pop it! - 1/13/2008 3:46:42 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Thank you, pixelslave, for the fine ass-kissing.  Or was that politeness?  Whatever!



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