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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/13/2008 9:05:34 PM

SimplyMichael

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Hey, some people insist on riding Harleys, so people make all kinds of crazy decisions the rest of us can't comprehend.

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/13/2008 9:39:55 PM

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Nahhh.. What the heck. - - you live withthis guy and let him help support you so it doesn't cost Me anything, ok? Don't tell Mmy wife so she doesnt get mad at me and I will have all My fun on the side with no committment on My part. you answer to Me at all times and when My wife and I come over to your house we will pretend that we are just friends there. By the way, I want to install software on your computer so I know everything you do and I will be able to turn on the cam and mic anytime I want, even when your live in b/f is there. - -
Wow! Who wouldn't go for that? (sic)

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I'd have to take a pass on that one.
He doesn't want much, does he?
*lol*

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/13/2008 9:52:09 PM

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What's wrong with Harleys? LOL

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Hey, some people insist on riding Harleys, so people make all kinds of crazy decisions the rest of us can't comprehend.

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/13/2008 10:19:08 PM

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Don't you hate it when some hot chick doesn't put out for you but instead for some asshole like me?

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/13/2008 10:31:16 PM

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Actually, I have never had that problem, asshole.

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Don't you hate it when some hot chick doesn't put out for you but instead for some asshole like me?

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/13/2008 10:32:43 PM

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I wouldn't hav a problem with them turning my mike on and my cam on whenever they wished, but they'd be terminally board I don't do anything all that terribly interesting. I am laying in bed, looking at my computer screen. In fact one guy kept pestering me to get on cam and so I did then he's like hey are you awake you're not doing nothing just looking at the screen. I said yup told you watching me on cams not that interesting.

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/13/2008 11:19:13 PM

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For me, I am not interested in the least in being involved with someone already in a relationship or married.

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/13/2008 11:23:08 PM

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quote:

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Nahhh.. What the heck. - - you live withthis guy and let him help support you so it doesn't cost Me anything, ok? Don't tell Mmy wife so she doesnt get mad at me and I will have all My fun on the side with no committment on My part. you answer to Me at all times and when My wife and I come over to your house we will pretend that we are just friends there. By the way, I want to install software on your computer so I know everything you do and I will be able to turn on the cam and mic anytime I want, even when your live in b/f is there. - -
Wow! Who wouldn't go for that? (sic)

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I'd have to take a pass on that one.
He doesn't want much, does he?
*lol*

I don't even think videotaping/camming the bf without his consent is legal let alone a violation of his privacy and tacky as hell. This isn't an authority dynamic it's very poor judgement and your friend needs to wake up.

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/13/2008 11:53:09 PM

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How would you feel about a Dom who was married wanting a relationship on the side with you and wanting to install software on your computer so that your activities online could be remotely monitored, your files examined, and accessories such as webcam and microphone turned on. To complete the scenario, you are living in a vanilla relationship and are not to let on about the affair.

I am asking because someone I know is in this situation and although she has made her decisions, I am still curious about the responses of others.

complete bullshit. not happening

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/14/2008 7:49:50 AM

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not bloody likely

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/14/2008 5:00:39 PM

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i am a married submissive and my wife lets me play with my M'Lady and M'Ladys husband is fine with it as well. i feel that if the relationship is based on lies and cheating then its not a relationship at all. i am compleatly honest with M'Lady and my wife in all things and she with me. i trust M'Lady compleatly as i do my wife if you dont have trust and honesty you have nothing to build upon and just sink deeper into the abyss.

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/14/2008 5:04:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterRoad

How would you feel about a Dom who was married wanting a relationship on the side with you and wanting to install software on your computer so that your activities online could be remotely monitored, your files examined, and accessories such as webcam and microphone turned on. To complete the scenario, you are living in a vanilla relationship and are not to let on about the affair.

I am asking because someone I know is in this situation and although she has made her decisions, I am still curious about the responses of others.

Personally, I'd probably pop a rib out from laughing so hard.

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/14/2008 7:01:30 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterRoad

How would you feel about a Dom who was married wanting a relationship on the side with you and wanting to install software on your computer so that your activities online could be remotely monitored, your files examined, and accessories such as webcam and microphone turned on. To complete the scenario, you are living in a vanilla relationship and are not to let on about the affair.

I am asking because someone I know is in this situation and although she has made her decisions, I am still curious about the responses of others.

Lol, probably NOT something i should comment on

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/15/2008 9:03:02 AM

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I am just gonna answer the computer part not gonna judge anyone else. I would not let my Master install anything in my computer. For 2 reasons one it means he does niot trust me 2 my computer is messed up already don't need more things on it to mess it up more.

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/24/2008 11:24:22 PM

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Well, it would appear from the responses that My feelings were correct. I always believed that trust and honesty were important, I am glad that I am not alone on this issue.

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/25/2008 5:24:43 AM

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I wouldn't do this even if we were both committed to each other and planning to move in together in the near future. That's because it isn't just an invasion of my privacy but of my friends and family's. If my sister writes to me with a concern and asks me not to tell anyone yet, then I will comply. Part of our relationship is that I can trust her not to blab my secrets and vice versa. Someone else reading this doesn't have her trust and shouldn't be reading it.

It's even worse if you share the computer with other family members. I may have chosen to submit to him but my ums haven't. He doesn't have the right to dictate what music they listen to or what movies they watch. Nor to read their chats and emails to their friends. I give my ums their privacy and they've learned appropriate boundaries. No way would I then show them that their trust in me is mistaken.

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/25/2008 5:45:52 AM

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I liked the part about installing software on her computer to control it. Everyone's concerned about the bf and his rights - maybe mention to your friend that it's probably not a good idea to allow someone who is cheating on his own wife (therefore - a liar and untrustworthy, rather than in a poly relationship) to have access to her computer? If he has enough control to turn on the webcam and check her files, it's not difficult to install, say, a key logger. Identity theft and several thousand dollars later.....

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/25/2008 6:03:20 AM

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I liked the part about installing software on her computer to control it. Everyone's concerned about the bf and his rights - maybe mention to your friend that it's probably not a good idea to allow someone who is cheating on his own wife (therefore - a liar and untrustworthy, rather than in a poly relationship) to have access to her computer? If he has enough control to turn on the webcam and check her files, it's not difficult to install, say, a key logger. Identity theft and several thousand dollars later.....

little offtopic; Is the use of keyloggers for "private"use legal in the USA? Can it be used later in a divorce case or is it against privacy laws?

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/26/2008 6:10:55 AM

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I believe a D/s relationship must be developed on trust, truth, and honesty. I wouldnt want a slave that was cheating on their spouse because I wouldnt be able to trust them. I must trust My slave and she must be able to trust Me and I trust no cheaters

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RE: Trust and honesty - 1/26/2008 6:29:43 AM

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I liked the part about installing software on her computer to control it. Everyone's concerned about the bf and his rights - maybe mention to your friend that it's probably not a good idea to allow someone who is cheating on his own wife (therefore - a liar and untrustworthy, rather than in a poly relationship) to have access to her computer? If he has enough control to turn on the webcam and check her files, it's not difficult to install, say, a key logger. Identity theft and several thousand dollars later.....

little offtopic; Is the use of keyloggers for "private"use legal in the USA? Can it be used later in a divorce case or is it against privacy laws?

It's legal to install on a computer you own. Not sure how that works in a marriage with community property. It is illegal to install on unowned computers. Some of these programs can be sent hidden in atatchments, and can moniter a remote computer. (without the owner knowing they are being monitered)

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