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ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

ItalianSMistress,

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NEVER for any reason, ever look Me directly in the eye, or face for that matter.  (I had a girl for over five years that told Me that if we ever got separated in a crowd, unless she could see My feet, she would be fucked, as she would never be able to pick Me out from My face, LOL.)

Don't make any sudden movements, don't assume because I stand up or sit down, for example, that you can too, and always ask permission to even change position say, from kneeling to sitting.

Don't ever come or go, without showing Me the respect of kissing My feet, that is the best way to show appreciation, I expect this at the beginning and end of every session.

Make sure you always answer everything I say, right away, now matter what else may be going on around you, and pay close attention, as for what to call Me, its always been Mistress for My collared slaves, Ma'am for anyone else.

I not only do not allow any kind of climax without permission, with or without Me, unless otherwise stated, most times, you will have to have something to "trade" with Me, to make it interesting enough for Me to want to allow it.

When you bring Me something, like a drink, present it in front of Me, over your head, on your knees, and don't move until I take it.

In the context of a fantasy play scene, these are quite hot.  However, if we're talking about real-life, day-to-day relationships, many of these seem impractical.  And besides, do you really want the job of micromanaging every movement of your partner?  That sounds like a lot of work.  When I tried some of these protocols in one of my day-to-day relationships, they made communicating and getting things done very difficult.  Simultaneously, these led to infractions (ultimately, difficulties between my domme and I) that didn't really exist.  For example, eye contact and body movement restrictions were particularly problematic.  As in other circumstances, I think it quite important to identify protocols appropriate for given situations.  One doesn't fret about not spell checking a post-it reminder for grocery shopping, but such an omission for a resume probably renders the document useless.  As much as the protocols themselves are important, so are context, time, and place.

Elan.

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ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

In the context of a fantasy play scene, these are quite hot.  However, if we're talking about real-life, day-to-day relationships, many of these seem impractical. 

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But I have one peculiarity: he must ALWAYS answer the mobile (cell phone) if it is me calling. 

I absolutely hate my subs being "uncontactable" for any reason.  Nothing and no-one should come before me in terms of his priorities (excluding genuine emergencies of course).

Yes, I know I am an ego-maniac and a control freak.  But hearing "leave a message" on his phone just enrages me!  So does "Sorry, I am just with So-and-So....can I call you back?" 

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ORIGINAL: MsIncontrol

I agree with the second nature.  I've been in the lifestyle for a long time and with my submissive for nine years...as I interview and consider a new submissive it is always a challenge to train someone who is new either to the lifestyle or even just new to me.  As I prefer things in a particular way and it may be different than someone else's preference.  For example, in public I prefer my submissive to have a more formal approach...and not address other Dominants unless directed by me, not to offer their help or service without asking my permission.  Others don't seem to care if their submissive's approach me or to ask my submissives to do things without approaching me first. 

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ORIGINAL: slaveboyforyou

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But I have one peculiarity: he must ALWAYS answer the mobile (cell phone) if it is me calling.

I absolutely hate my subs being "uncontactable" for any reason. Nothing and no-one should come before me in terms of his priorities (excluding genuine emergencies of course).

Yes, I know I am an ego-maniac and a control freak. But hearing "leave a message" on his phone just enrages me! So does "Sorry, I am just with So-and-So....can I call you back?"

I think that's sort of unreasonable honestly. I don't know your sub, but answering the phone can be a problem in certain situations. I understand getting frustrated if you call someone and they never return the call. People that do that irritate the hell out of me. My own situation, I make it a point to tell everyone (especially dommes) not to try calling me during work. I am not allowed to bring cell phones into work for security reasons (mostly because phones usually have cameras on them now). I can't even take them at lunch, because no one leaves the facility for breaks. Even if it weren't that, it usually irritates the hell out of me to get personal calls at work. I just find it completely inconsiderate. It doesn't look good to your boss to be taking calls while you're working.

Of course, there are also those other situations that I won't take calls. I have not and will not ever talk on the phone while I am driving a car. People blowing my phone up, insisting I call back when I am preoccupied will lose contact with me very quickly.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

Drawing the bath and rinsing you with a silver pitcher

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not to offer their help or service without asking my permission. 

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ORIGINAL: Kitte9

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not to offer their help or service without asking my permission. 

Does opening a door or lighting another's cigarette fall within this catagory? Honest question, very new to protocols.

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

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ORIGINAL: slaveboyforyou

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But I have one peculiarity: he must ALWAYS answer the mobile (cell phone) if it is me calling.

I absolutely hate my subs being "uncontactable" for any reason. Nothing and no-one should come before me in terms of his priorities (excluding genuine emergencies of course).

Yes, I know I am an ego-maniac and a control freak. But hearing "leave a message" on his phone just enrages me! So does "Sorry, I am just with So-and-So....can I call you back?"

I think that's sort of unreasonable honestly. I don't know your sub, but answering the phone can be a problem in certain situations. I understand getting frustrated if you call someone and they never return the call. People that do that irritate the hell out of me. My own situation, I make it a point to tell everyone (especially dommes) not to try calling me during work. I am not allowed to bring cell phones into work for security reasons (mostly because phones usually have cameras on them now). I can't even take them at lunch, because no one leaves the facility for breaks. Even if it weren't that, it usually irritates the hell out of me to get personal calls at work. I just find it completely inconsiderate. It doesn't look good to your boss to be taking calls while you're working.

Of course, there are also those other situations that I won't take calls. I have not and will not ever talk on the phone while I am driving a car. People blowing my phone up, insisting I call back when I am preoccupied will lose contact with me very quickly.

This is one of those meatlife things we all of to deal with.

I personally dislike cellphones but had to get one for my job search and Tom needed one for his job. Fox does not have one at this time though he borrowed Tom's when he came to get me at the Indy airport.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHugs

Dear LadyPact, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
I have many protocol practices to which I prefer personally.  That said, I would also say that some protocols are formal, semi-formal and or informal.

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These will not be in any particular order/priority.  These protocols I prefer are:
 
1.  Introductions will be done by the Masters.  Always.
 
2.  Slaves will acknowledge a Master by a distinct 'nod' in acknowledgment.  Two flicks of the finger, the slave will go into 'Honor' Position and know the Master I am with is aware of Leather protocol.  This one isn't practiced often, because of the rarity of high protocol events locally.
 
3.  Slave will always be to the side of the sidewalk's curb, as to protect me from harm and or my leathers becoming soiled due to traffic debris.  Good handle on this.
 
4.  Slaves will not use any furniture, unless they have permission and or using the computer at their desk and or office.  Absolutely. 
 
5.  Slave will follow an arm's length behind and off set.  Not always, as I need him closer to hear him if he is speaking.
 
6.  Slaves will not use the 'toilet's seat but, sit on the rim as to not soil the seat of the Master's.  Covered, since he is not permitted to use the *Master* bathroom at all.
 
7.  Slave kneels--all slaves of mine will kneel at the same time.  Those unable to kneel will present themselves standing at attention with bowed head slightly until greeted and or commanded 'at ease.'  Kneeling's big with Me.
 
8.  Slaves will stop and be as out of the way as possible when a Master is passing them.  Exceptions will be those slaves who are doing cooking duties and in service to another Master.  Can't say much on this off of the top of My head.
 
9.  Cover code (hat code) protocol will be followed, with the exception of female Masters.  Honestly, this one depends on whether he's in uniform or not.
 
10. Slave will enter a premise as to look about and see if it is secure and suitable and then return to the automobile and accompany the Master in and wait to be seated until I have been seated and settled.  Then will the slave be given a non-verbal command to sit.  First half no, but certainly the second half.

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 Just some thoughts.
 
Respectfully submitted,
Lady Hugs
 

Thank you for your time in sharing with Me.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Where do you make your beginnings with those who are just starting in the lifestyle? What has become such a "given" for you, that you are surprised when your submissive doesn't know it?