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cherrypez -> RE: Is this disrespectful? (1/15/2008 4:08:16 AM)
Could Your Dom just write an email explaining that sometimes you do the corrosponding and it is okay for her to reply to your emails?

DesFIP -> RE: Is this disrespectful? (1/15/2008 5:20:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissAidan As the other person in question here, I believe I should put in my two cents. In my experience, when someone identifies themselves as a slave, it is more appropriate for a Dom/me to speak with their Dom/me in the begening. Especially when the Dom/me outside the relationship has been approached about working with said slave. Should one or more parties in the relationship have issue with this, they should simply communicate the problem as they see it to the person outside their relationship, as the person outside of it may not know that they operate differently. For initial contact this works. But once the other s type has written you directly after the initial communication, it must be obvious that their relationship allows her outside friendships. You could have made sure this was not improper simply by ccing him. However since this is a frequent disconnect between people of different protocols, if the op had simply mentioned that she was writing with the full knowledge of her D there would not have been any confusion either.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Is this disrespectful? (1/15/2008 10:54:37 PM)
Whomever is the dominant should set up the rules here. If I'm reading it right, HoneyMaster is the Dominant. Have him explain the rules of engagement in an email address to you both, openly. If she doesn't comply for the small stuff... Master Fire

ExSteelAgain -> RE: Is this disrespectful? (1/16/2008 3:14:59 AM)
It sounds like the same old thing that has been around forever. It happens more often than not. If you all want, your Master can tell her to contact you to talk about a discreet threesome that her Dom will never know about since it appears she is talking to your Master without her's knowing. That puts it on the level that your guy will not play with her alone. If you don't want to go behind her Master's back, you can make small talk with her a while when she contacts you and say no thanks.

Muttling -> RE: Is this disrespectful? (1/16/2008 5:20:33 AM)
The entire situation sounds bizarre and dishonest to me. IMO, communications should be open for all 4 of you to see, to know about, and to respect. I don't see any of that happening on her side and that strikes me as extremely disrespectful.

wh1speringw1nds -> RE: Is this disrespectful? (1/16/2008 6:43:04 AM)
Hello. i am kind of new to these forums. But have a question about respect that i would like opinions on. First off, just to set things straight before the questions are asked; Sir(meaning the One i am in communication and decision time with) asked me to restart my profile; so that He could stay in contact easier with me. Since it is in "decision stage", He said for me to leave the profile as it was with no changes yet. So i did so. Ok, that explains the start. Yesterday, i received a message from a Dom in Ky; asking me of my likes and dislikes, etc. i very politely told Him the situation as explained above. This morning, i get a message in return from the same Ky Dom; very rude and nasty. Saying that since i already had a Master, why hadnt i stated that in my profile? And then He proceeded to say, "And you consider THAT respect for a Dom?" End of message. So i proceeded to TRY to politely inform Him that it was because Sir and i are still in "decision stage", and that it was by Sirs request that the profile stay as is, temporarily. And that is why i call Him Sir, and not Master. i went to send the message, and the Dom in Ky has blocked me; without hearing any explanation whatsoever. So am i being disrespectful to Doms, or was He to me? ps...i have always tried to be polite and honest to all that i speak with.

Justme696 -> RE: Is this disrespectful? (1/16/2008 6:49:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wh1speringw1nds Hello. i am kind of new to these forums. But have a question about respect that i would like opinions on. First off, just to set things straight before the questions are asked; Sir(meaning the One i am in communication and decision time with) asked me to restart my profile; so that He could stay in contact easier with me. Since it is in "decision stage", He said for me to leave the profile as it was with no changes yet. So i did so. Ok, that explains the start. Yesterday, i received a message from a Dom in Ky; asking me of my likes and dislikes, etc. i very politely told Him the situation as explained above. This morning, i get a message in return from the same Ky Dom; very rude and nasty. Saying that since i already had a Master, why hadnt i stated that in my profile? And then He proceeded to say, "And you consider THAT respect for a Dom?" End of message. So i proceeded to TRY to politely inform Him that it was because Sir and i are still in "decision stage", and that it was by Sirs request that the profile stay as is, temporarily. And that is why i call Him Sir, and not Master. i went to send the message, and the Dom in Ky has blocked me; without hearing any explanation whatsoever. So am i being disrespectful to Doms, or was He to me? ps...i have always tried to be polite and honest to all that i speak with. Put in your profile..As start - Under Consideration- That will do

wh1speringw1nds -> RE: Is this disrespectful? (1/16/2008 7:14:52 AM)
Sir had said to leave the profile as is, so until He says different; i feel it would be disrespectful to Sir to change anything. i have messaged Sir asking about this, but until He gets home from work; i don't know if that would be suitable.

breatheasone -> RE: Is this disrespectful? (1/16/2008 8:01:13 AM)
wh1speringw1nds Hello and welcome.... I'd like to tell you that just because you are an "s" type does NOT mean you are EVERYBODIES "s" type....not until you talk with and you decide to submit to that special someone....You seriously don't owe anyone anything. Of course theres common courtesy and politeness... but as far as having to treat every "D" type that contacts you as if they were already in authority over you...NO...no way....

Justme696 -> RE: Is this disrespectful? (1/16/2008 9:17:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: breatheasone wh1speringw1nds Hello and welcome.... I'd like to tell you that just because you are an "s" type does NOT mean you are EVERYBODIES "s" type....not until you talk with and you decide to submit to that special someone....You seriously don't owe anyone anything. Of course theres common courtesy and politeness... but as far as having to treat every "D" type that contacts you as if they were already in authority over you...NO...no way.... agree, nice to point her on that

xxblushesxx -> RE: Is this disrespectful? (1/16/2008 9:44:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain It sounds like the same old thing that has been around forever. It happens more often than not. If you all want, your Master can tell her to contact you to talk about a discreet threesome that her Dom will never know about since it appears she is talking to your Master without her's knowing. That puts it on the level that your guy will not play with her alone. If you don't want to go behind her Master's back, you can make small talk with her a while when she contacts you and say no thanks. I really do not understand this answer. There is no going behind anyone's back, and a threesome is not even on the table. Her Dom absolutely knows that we are talking. I'm very confused about this. I think, maybe, you just misunderstood my question. I have apologized for not going straight to her with this, and we have discussed the fact that yes, as some have said, we just live by a different protocol. I suppose I should have told her that I am allowed to talk to whomever I want, but, I've never had to explain that before. Just call me inexperienced, but learning. ~Christina

SweetDommes -> RE: Is this disrespectful? (1/16/2008 3:51:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar If she is in a Domme mode why should she reply to you. You belong to another person. The correspondence should be between your Master and her. that's bull ... if they were already communicating, and especially if they have already met, it doesn't matter if she's in Domme mode or sub mode - it seems to me that she's in rude dumbass mode if she can't be bothered to be polite. I would talk to both HM and the woman in question about it. Find out why - perhaps she feels the same way that Dnomyar does ... but I think that mindset is ridiculous and the chick is just being a bitch.

Bamslilgirl -> RE: Is this disrespectful? (1/22/2008 2:01:54 PM)
It's just flat out RUDE!!!!! If she can't reply to any of your emails, but replies to all of His, there's an ulterior motive on her mind. Drop her-she sounds like trouble!!!

CalifChick -> RE: Is this disrespectful? (1/22/2008 2:06:34 PM)
Does [sm=banghead.gif] anybody [sm=banghead.gif] actually [sm=banghead.gif] ever [sm=banghead.gif] read [sm=banghead.gif] a [sm=banghead.gif] thread [sm=banghead.gif] ? Cali

SassySarijane -> RE: Is this disrespectful? (1/22/2008 2:47:51 PM)
hands Cali medicine of her choice for the nasty headache As evidenced over and over in countless threads, nope, apparently not. Some do, some skim, some misread, and some just read, skim, or blink at the op and fast reply.

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