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RE: Help Help Help - 1/15/2008 1:43:11 PM

Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

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ORIGINAL: Kirren

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

Why are you asking me questions about how she feels kirren? Ask her.

By the way, as fascinating as you apparently think you are kirren, I was addressing the post to the forum posters, not just you.

And no, it is not OUR job to make her feel any worse than she already does, or make her feel how he felt.. She isn't YOUR sub is she? Is he YOUR Dom?

Perhaps I came off as being ....catty, and that wasnt MY intention. But your reply was uncalled for. And indeed catty.

But thats okay. I know how some peoples kids can be. So...I was, as you were generalizing that I had offered what I had to say about this.

Take it or leave it. Makes no difference to Me...

Oh...and I dont think Im -that- "fascinating", Nor did I ever state such. So, really, no need to make this a personal attack.

I dont see that she does feel bad. I feel that she wants help making her life easier. She needs to be punished. Im not trying to make her feel bad...Im trying to make her THINK...

But think of Me what you will..Im okay with that.

;)

Again, drop the idea that you are fascinating.

I don't think of you at all.

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RE: Help Help Help - 1/15/2008 1:51:59 PM

vampiresscammy

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Satine
first off, this guy is a sadist, your nto a masochist, that should answer that right there

hard limits should not be negotiable, not to mention way at the beginning of a new relationship

D/s, nilla, whatever you got going, there was no excise to leave you intoxicated on your own in an unfamiliar place, if were any sort of a decent man he wouldve at least found you a cab himself from goddess sake

telling you to choose your punishment, don't sound to bad to me, but if you immediately offer to give things you initially said no to, I'm thinking somehting very wrong is going on here, coersion, obsession, soemthing that will only get worse

whatever is going on, sounds like you two have soem serious talking you need to do to get a clear set of boundaries clarified and agreed upon, good luck to you, and whatever you do may it be safe, sane and consenual

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RE: Help Help Help - 1/15/2008 1:56:38 PM

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I wonder if you think he is worth the caning. If no...then it is easy

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RE: Help Help Help - 1/15/2008 2:00:06 PM

magicone

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sorry to say..
but put a banana in the video - there will be a mess, doesn't matter how much it seems it will fit in.. and probably it will ( hey my son tried it once lol) - result was - the banana as the video as well were beat up..
sounds like a real good basic for a relation??

i rather would much more advice in thinking why you wanna that Dom so much that you willing to go over your hard limits...
what kind of desire.. need.. or want is it...

may that give you an answer??

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RE: Help Help Help - 1/15/2008 2:03:00 PM

Rushemery

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I havent read everything yet but would like to say--- A well known Dom brought a new sub to a place where everyone knows and likes him he must have been busy not paying attention to what was going on around him in order for his sub to wander off and get played with by his friends who respect him, first off you were let on your own to go and drink, he wasnt paying attention to how much you drank, you got drunk your falt, he told you not to embarress him so he knew you would. I would have to say he set you up so he could punish you. I would say, find someone your compatable with, lots of red flags in my opinion but I am only on page one

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RE: Help Help Help - 1/15/2008 2:19:29 PM

angelikaJ

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ORIGINAL: FemmeSatine

Thank you to all who have posted. I have now decided what actions to take.

And no I dont have a drink problem lol - in fact I rarely drink (which could be why I got so bad). Im just a 22 yr old going out and (stupidly) drinking too much.

Thanks again to all

Satine x

IF you don't drink much but you often get drunk when you do...you may have a problem with alcohol...

Something to think about...

Blackouts are a pretty big red flag.

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RE: Help Help Help - 1/15/2008 2:37:31 PM

thesis

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I would like to know if the young woman has resolved this..my first solution would be to stop drinking because this seems like a pattern and her statement that she promised not to go drinking with HIM again suggests that she will do it again but not with him with the same end results..I think she should stop drinking period and access her sobriety issues headon. I also think thst she need to have a long talk with him and establish whether or not they are to remain Dom/Sub..sounds too casual as it stands...she is young and need guidance and confidence in herself more than before either from him or another Dom and take her slow and easy..these are mental issues not physical and they can be more damaging to the physche over the long term..

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