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RE: Our Master is cheating - 1/18/2008 2:23:52 AM

julietsierra

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subcolumbus,
I'd also like to point out that in heterosexual, vanilla, marital relationships in which there are offspring, Dads cheat there too and the people who look up to them are devastated as well. At that point, it becomes the responsibility of the other adult person in that relationship to help them hold their world together - even as they're hurting themselves.

You get to be that person that will help your partner hold his world together.

The other thing I'd like to point out is that all of us, along the way, have looked to our fathers as if they were akin to gods. Then, as we grew up, we discovered that they were less than perfect. We discovered that they were often significantly less than the gods we'd thought they were. And for many of us, that was a rude awakening. Some of us didn't like our fathers for a while when we discovered that. Then, slowly, as we grew, we discovered that we didn't love them only when things were going right. We loved them even during the times we didn't respect them. We loved them when they were downright weak. And ultimately, we loved them knowing they weren't gods. We loved our fathers - perhaps even more - for being men, full of foibles and frailities and all the other things that come with being human.

In the end, it's nice loving someone we think is perfect. It's much better loving someone we've endured the crises of living life with. If you can get through this, if your partner can work past the inevietable pain this is going to cause him; if your Master has any desire to move past this coming storm, there is much more waiting for you all.

If either you, your partner or your Master can't move past this, then I'd say that the crises and your support of your partner will create a much deeper connection between the two of you.

In the end, no matter which way it goes, it's going to hurt. And no matter which way it goes, things WILL be better on the other side.

juliet

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RE: Our Master is cheating - 1/18/2008 3:15:51 AM

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All good advice here, however I do question Your definition of monogamy. How can 3 people be in a monogamous relationship?

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RE: Our Master is cheating - 1/18/2008 6:25:36 AM

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All good advice here, however I do question Your definition of monogamy. How can 3 people be in a monogamous relationship?

The two subs are a couple, and the Master Dominates them, and to be monogamus means that the Dom just plays with the couple, and No one else, outside of that relationship.

Is that clear enough?

Warm Greetingz

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RE: Our Master is cheating - 1/19/2008 12:33:55 PM

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subcolumbus .. you have gotten some very good advice here.. All i can say is that the truth always comes out in one way or another. It's always better to be honest, you can rest much easier. Many healing thoughts for you and your partner during this difficult time.. At least you two have each other to lean on,

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RE: Our Master is cheating - 1/19/2008 12:55:41 PM

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ditch him ....

he breaks your trust on something this basic ... and lets face it not cheating its pretty black and white, he cant make a mistake and think you meant something else ...then you cant trust him on anything
If you are worried about your partners feelings in this ... imagine his feelings when your "Master" promises not to endanger his health or wellbeing and them breaks that promise too .... easy decision huh?

I dont do second chances with trust ... once burned, forever scarred ... always wary ....

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