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ORIGINAL: Bound2One

I don't know about the 'good news' part... but I've definitely forgotten bits of my training - minor things that sometimes slip my mind due to the general business of life.  No one is perfect!

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ORIGINAL: angelslave77

I am hopless Sir will give me a task to do on the ph at night, for eg at midday tomorrow till 2pm you cant speak to anyone, just a little test to see if i can do it. But so often life gets in the way and i forget, thus i usually get a worse tasks to remind me not to forget things lol

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

HoneyMaster enjoys exhuberance on my part, so, He would easily overlook that.
If I were ill, He'd make excuses for me too.

your HoneyMaster sounds like a wonderfull Domminant, thank you for your reply
LPs_littleclip


(yeah, I know, He's pretty wonderful)

~Christina

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

That's the whole point of training- the worst thing you could do is suck yourself down into a "I'm so awful" spiral and not just take it for what it was, learn and move on.

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

Yes, it has happened to me, but luckily for me, Mistress is pretty patient and understanding.  If She gave me instructions for something and I forgot them because I saved $12 a month on my car insurance by switching to Geico, it's safe to say I'm in for an ass reaming!  On the other hand, if given the same instructions and I forgot them because I just hit the lottery for $50,000, then She'd be nice enough to forgive my little faux pas.  She'd punish my ass afterwards for forgetting Her instructions, once the excitement wore off, of course.  She wouldn't want to ruin the moment.  See how sweet and benevolent She is?

Seriously, the importance of following a dominants instructions is very simple...remember them and you won't get beaten like a pinata! 

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ORIGINAL: venusinblu

Yes this has, i have often rushed in to tell Master something exciting and have completely forgotten what it was i was supposed to be doing for him! ...  i don't actually get physically punished for it, but a well raised eyebrow and the 'I think you've forgotten something' look is enough to make me blushingly contrite remember my manners. 

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ORIGINAL: batshalom

The older I get, the more distractable I become. I've forgotten things because of good news, bad news, illness, boredom, sleepiness, busy-ness, and general malaise. Forgetting just happens, for whatever reason.

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ORIGINAL: LaMspeach

Thanks for reminding me that I forgot to do something yesterday.

Yes, I forget things all the time. I get so wrapped up in everyday life that I simple forget. I used to be beat myself up a lot and just feel awful, for me that the worse possible things to do. (As LA mentioned it starts a whole downward spiral)  Now I simple apologize for forgetting, go and do what ever I forgot, and take the consequences. When he knows I am trying my hardest he isn’t as hard on me, when he thinks I am slacking off and not putting forth my best effort ... well that is a different story.

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ORIGINAL: Justme696

may I aks if there are certain instructions you forget...or is it random and dependend on other things?

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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ORIGINAL: LPslittleclip

have you ever received news so good you forgot a previous instruction from your Dominant? this happened to me today, i wasn't trying to be disrespectful but it happened. instead of being happy with my good news M'Lady was disappointed with me for forgetting the instructions. has this happened to you? please let me know i'm not the only submissive thats done this during training.

Sure, all the time. You are, after all, only human

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ORIGINAL: BeingChewsie

Yes I have done that. I just did it yesterday..I was so excited over a commercial property in Kansas where the numbers are working out that I interruped him when he was voicing some concerns he had about it. He didn't snap at me, he just said "You might want to try listening to me when I talk"...oopsies. He considers that "excited yipping leaping terrier" behavior of mine an endearing quality but likes when I remember the appropriate time and place to express it. I apologize, lifes goes on and I remember for at least the next few days .

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

Have I ever forgotten to follow an instruction that I was given?  Yep.  Not sure if it has happened as a direct result of good news, but I know that it has happened and I know it will happen again.  It usually takes something rather simple to redirect my focus. Many times I remember before he is even aware of it and I let him know as soon as I am able to speak with him.

Being forgetful is part of not being perfect.  If I was consistently forgetting one specific thing after being reminded several times and not taking steps to remember it in the future, then it would become a bigger issue for him. 

You mentioned "instead of being happy" that she was disappointed; with the little I have seen of LadyPact on the boards, I think that she was most likely both, happy for the news and disappointed.  It is easy to feel two conflicting emotions at one time, but not as simple to demonstrate both conflicting emotions.

Happy New Year to you and your family.

Knight's Kyra

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ORIGINAL: LPslittleclip

the problem was not the breach in protocol but M'Lady wouldnt have time for me till another day due to her schedule. i only wanted to suprise her, but her disapointment in me is the worst thing for me, so i try never to cause it. i do thank you for your post it has helped me.
LPs_littleclip

As you're aware, I know you Mistress quite well having corresponded with her as friends since before you entered into her life.  She's a very warm and loving woman, right to her very core!  You should know, that you've made her very happy and have greatly enriched her life.  As her friend, I thank you from my heart for doing that!

Most of us are our own worst critics and I'm confident, knowing your Mistress as I do, that you're far more disappointed in yourself than she will ever be.  Trust in her to see the deep remorse you carry and suffer from.  Honestly share with her and accept the compassion she'll have for your disappointment in yourself which I know she'll give to you.  Graciously and thankfully accept the way(s) she chooses to help you release the remorse I can readily you have for failing to serve her as you feel that she deserves.

You're a very fortunate man to be serving Lady Pact for the time you'll be with her.  I'm very happy for the 2 of you (or should I say 3 since it's a poly relationship that includes "B"?<g>)   All I can say in closing, is continue to trust her to guide you and help you through this time of disappointment in yourself.  

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

yeah, mine gave me a notebook about a year and a half ago, to write down His directives and stuff.
I wonder what ever happened to that?...

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

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ORIGINAL: LPslittleclip

the problem was not the breach in protocol but M'Lady wouldnt have time for me till another day due to her schedule. i only wanted to suprise her, but her disapointment in me is the worst thing for me, so i try never to cause it. i do thank you for your post it has helped me.
LPs_littleclip

littleclip,
As you're aware, I know you Mistress quite well having corresponded with her as friends since before you entered into her life.  She's a very warm and loving woman, right to her very core!  You should know, that you've made her very happy and have greatly enriched her life.  As her friend, I thank you from my heart for doing that!
 
Most of us are our own worst critics and I'm confident, knowing your Mistress as I do, that you're far more disappointed in yourself than she will ever be.  Trust in her to see the deep remorse you carry and suffer from.  Honestly share with her and accept the compassion she'll have for your disappointment in yourself which I know she'll give to you.  Graciously and thankfully accept the way(s) she chooses to help you release the remorse I can readily you have for failing to serve her as you feel that she deserves.
 
You're a very fortunate man to be serving Lady Pact for the time you'll be with her.  I'm very happy for the 2 of you (or should I say 3 since it's a poly relationship that includes "B"?<g>)   All I can say in closing, is continue to trust her to guide you and help you through this time of disappointment in yourself.  
 
 - pixel