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first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 6:09:48 PM   
daisymae03


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Status: offline 		okay, so, if you were going to meet your master in 2 days, and it was your first play meet, and you were nervous and you ad communicated this allready, what would you do to calm your nerves?

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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 6:11:47 PM   
lusciouslips19


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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 6:14:11 PM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry. That wasnt very mature and it is a sincere question. Center your self with some deep diaphramatic breathing. Close your eyes and meditate before hand. USe visualizations of calming things like sand and water and waves. Listen to some music. pet a dog, chew some gum,


or just BE.

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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 6:21:45 PM   
hotdave1984


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Status: offline 		lay off the caffine too (if you drink it), try to get good amount of sleep (if you can) the night before

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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 6:25:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		It won't matter what you try, you are still going to be nervous.


Is this a very first meeting face to face? or first play?

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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 6:26:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		He is probably a little nervous too, and it's ok to be nervous daisy .  If you weren't nervous I'd wonder. lol
luscious has given you some great ideas here, try them out... and remember, be friends with your fear... whatever the hell that means. 

Oh, have fun and enjoy yourself! 

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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 6:26:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Everytime i ever went out with a man i was interested in i would be nervouis, but with my Owner everything fell into place and it was if we had been together our whole lives. Which had never happened to me before.

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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 6:33:31 PM   
daisymae03


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Status: offline 		i dont drink much caffeine, so thats not a problem, and ill be sure to try the visualisations

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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 6:33:42 PM   
lusciouslips19


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ORIGINAL: girlygurl

He is probably a little nervous too, and it's ok to be nervous daisy .  If you weren't nervous I'd wonder. lol
luscious has given you some great ideas here, try them out... and remember, be friends with your fear... whatever the hell that means. 

Oh, have fun and enjoy yourself! 

girly


Friends with your fear? ha ha

Yea, lets dance with the devil by the pale moonlight. Remember to just rock it sister. Remember we love the edge, thats why we are here. To experience fully, on the edge and live life to the fullest!

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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 6:58:46 PM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		Something overlooked is that the Dominant is often more nervous than the sub.  Many Doms don't like to admit this, and subs think no way, the sub's running all the risks....  But a lady recently asked me if I'd be interested in acting out a rape fantasy (where she's the victim).  Any man play-forcing, or for-real-marking a woman in this day and age is running the risk of jail.  I think that's a *good* thing, but there needs to be an awful lot of trust on both sides -- and nobody likes to be rejected.

So he'll probably be nervous too.  You're going in as equals.  Use your common sense and you both will be fine.

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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 7:04:00 PM   
brattybrandi


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Status: offline 		Don't try to stress out too much. Just try to let things flow naturaly.  If your worried about the play, make sure you have a set up safe word in effect. Those are just a few suggestions. You are going to be nervous, no getting around that im afraid.

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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 7:07:03 PM   
Bound2One


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Status: offline 		I was always nervous before meeting a prospective Dom.  Those butterflies never stopped churning... until, that is, I had looked into his eyes, smiled nervously at him, took a deep breath and allowed myself to relax.  It's just a process that I have to go through... well, *had* to go through, since I'm now happily owned!    I never was able to get rid of those darned butterflies until after we had sat down for coffee/lunch, whatever.  Remember the nerves are necessary for the path you have chosen.  While you may never embrace them, at least you can understand them and know you're not alone.  The man is just possibly as nervous as you are! 

*Edited to add ... I read your OP incorrectly.  I thought this was your first meeting with a prospective Dom, not the first play meet with your Master.  My advice stands, though... those butterflies are still going to be there.  If you're like me it's a combination of nerves, excitement and lust.     Enjoy!


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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 7:08:20 PM   
kittensmailbox


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Status: offline 		Your not going to play on the first meeting are you??

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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 7:12:11 PM   
daisymae03


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ORIGINAL: kittensmailbox

Your not going to play on the first meeting are you??

okay so one, its not the first meet, its teh first PLAY meet, and even if i choose to play on the very first meet, well thats my decisionand i wouldnt be apreciative of you judging me on it


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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 7:17:23 PM   
kittensmailbox


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Status: offline 		i wasnt judging you and i am sorry if you took it that way.... Nor did i know that you have met before.... go for it, have a blast... do whatever you want....

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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 7:20:16 PM   
daisymae03


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ORIGINAL: kittensmailbox

i wasnt judging you and i am sorry if you took it that way.... Nor did i know that you have met before.... go for it, have a blast... do whatever you want....

i didnt say you did judge me, however te way you asked your first post made it sound as if i was playing on my first meet you would.i didnt mean to sound rude or obnoxious or bitchy or anything like tat, sorry ifi did


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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 7:24:34 PM   
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This is all gem stuff.

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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 7:44:49 PM   
girlygurl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19


quote:

ORIGINAL: girlygurl

He is probably a little nervous too, and it's ok to be nervous daisy .  If you weren't nervous I'd wonder. lol
luscious has given you some great ideas here, try them out... and remember, be friends with your fear... whatever the hell that means. 

Oh, have fun and enjoy yourself! 

girly


Friends with your fear? ha ha

Yea, lets dance with the devil by the pale moonlight. Remember to just rock it sister. Remember we love the edge, thats why we are here. To experience fully, on the edge and live life to the fullest!


And speaking of the edge   Yea baby... fun stuff today weeeeeeeee

girly

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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 7:45:24 PM   
hejira92


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Status: offline 		Feel the nerves. Embrace the butterflies. Be one with the jitters.
 
What will he do? What will I say? Will I react in a way that pleases him? Will I be able to submit gracefully? I can't wait to give up control, but it's soooo scary.

It's all part of the fun.
 
Yay!

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RE: first meet nerves - 1/15/2008 7:48:46 PM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		Oh I love all that stuff, vanilla, D/s, whatever.

FEEL IT ALL. It's lovely and scary and weird, but just think, this is the only time you might feel all that with him. Enjoy it!!!

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