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How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 6:02:55 AM   
snapdragon9


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Status: offline 		Had two questions, so here is the second:

As a sub/slave, what do you believe you should be trained for? Do you look for someone that will teach you to be submissive entirely in all relationships, but maybe with a sense to danger or harm? Or do you look for someone to teach you to be a slave to that person, but have a will towards others? If neither of these, how do you want to be trained?

Just wondering, I'll tell how I train later on in the thread.
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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 6:41:40 AM   
Bound2One


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Status: offline 		I believe I should be trained to serve my Master however he sees fit.  When first speaking, we had a lot of discussions about expectations, desires, etc. to see whether we shared a match for one another, which we do.  No, I do not wish to be trained to be submissive entirely in all relationships.  I'm not even sure if that is possible in life, or wise (for me).  I have a strong sense of self and need to be proactive and dominant in some aspects of my life, just to get things accomplished. 

As for a sense of danger or harm - I do not wish for true danger with my Master, but he keeps me on my toes constantly within the limits we've discussed, which leads to a thrill, but I know I am always safe with him. 



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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 7:13:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: snapdragon9

Had two questions, so here is the second:

As a sub/slave, what do you believe you should be trained for? Do you look for someone that will teach you to be submissive entirely in all relationships, but maybe with a sense to danger or harm? Or do you look for someone to teach you to be a slave to that person, but have a will towards others? If neither of these, how do you want to be trained?

Just wondering, I'll tell how I train later on in the thread.


What should I be trained for?

You're kidding right?

It's not my place to tell HIM, what he should be training ME for.


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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 7:15:16 AM   
Rianne


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Status: offline 		I think my Dom wouldn't like it at all for me to be submissive to others...his training of me is up to him...it always keeps me on my toes.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 7:18:47 AM   
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At age 22 I think I will spare him the snarky humour that first came to my mind. Time is a great teacher.


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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 7:29:09 AM   
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any training that is required is the training my Lord and Mistress give me.it is not my place to tell or ask T/them how to train me and the training i recieve is for my Lord and Mistress and no one else, to do so otherwise i feel would be presumptuous and that leads to discipline which is something my Lord and Mistress never want to do unless it is ablsolutly neccessary.




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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 7:37:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		Daddy already knew i'm quite untrainable so He took a different approach to prepare me for my SO.  He helped me in regaining my self-confidence and worth after my divorce by allowing me to "discover" things about me i never knew existed.  He guided me while taking daring chances and discussing my questions about threads/posts from here.

you could say His style is very unorthodox and unconventional from other dominants however He knew how naturally submissive in certain areas of my life. i would never look for anyone to "teach" me to be something that i was already born with. 

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 7:45:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		He doesn't really "train" me. I do not want to be "trained". He does tell me the way he likes things, I endeavor to do things the way he likes them. He doesn't want me to be submissive to anyone but him

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 8:01:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: snapdragon9
As a sub/slave, what do you believe you should be trained for? Do you look for someone that will teach you to be submissive entirely in all relationships...


I want her to always go on the paper. But only for me.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 8:58:25 AM   
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As a sub/slave, what do you believe you should be trained for?
 
pleasing Master.

 
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Do you look for someone that will teach you to be submissive entirely in all relationships, but maybe with a sense to danger or harm?

 
no.  this slave got a healthy heaping dose of that from her previous/first "owners"(read: parents).

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Or do you look for someone to teach you to be a slave to that person, but have a will towards others?

 
this slave expected and has been trained in certain specific behaviors or acts that He desires, that she may or may not have had experience with before...and not to submit to those whom He chooses this slave not to submit to. this slave doesn't have a will towards others, He is well aware of that, and instructs/is training this slave accordingly as to how to act as if she does.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 9:02:50 AM   
ownedgirlie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: snapdragon9

Had two questions, so here is the second:

As a sub/slave, what do you believe you should be trained for? Do you look for someone that will teach you to be submissive entirely in all relationships, but maybe with a sense to danger or harm? Or do you look for someone to teach you to be a slave to that person, but have a will towards others? If neither of these, how do you want to be trained?

Just wondering, I'll tell how I train later on in the thread.



He trained me as he saw fit to train me - to please him best by capitalizing on my good qualities and minimizing (or obliterating) my not so good qualities.

I was trained to NOT be submissive in any relationship but with him.  I do not fear him or find him dangerous, but I am awed by him, intimidated by him, and madly in love with him.  I used to be submissive in all relationships and it was damaging to me.  He is far more pleased and proud to own someone who submits only to him.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 9:24:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: snapdragon9

Had two questions, so here is the second:

As a sub/slave, what do you believe you should be trained for?

His pleasure. That involves things from self-defense to cooking.
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Do you look for someone that will teach you to be submissive entirely in all relationships, but maybe with a sense to danger or harm? Or do you look for someone to teach you to be a slave to that person, but have a will towards others?

I have little interest in being submissive to all - it would mean I would have to give up some of the hobbies and persuits that drew him to me in the first place. I honestly didn't need to be taught to be his and still have a will towards others. That felt very natural to me, although Valyraen has helped me have more of a will with others.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 9:39:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm sorry, but i have a real dislike of the term "train" when in context to what i do for him daily.  I have a mind and can observe, therefore, i learned, without being trained, how to fix his coffee, how he likes his food cooked, what makes him laugh.  I suppose he could write down all his quirks and test me on my knowledge, but why should he bother with doing that when i figured it out by myself? 

By the way....he likes his coffee with amaretto or french vanilla Coffee-mate.  He settles for sugar and milk or cream at restaurants.  He likes his pasta soggy...so no more al dente for me.  He likes his sauerkraut cooked for 2 days.  He laughs when he makes me blush, which is daily. 

If i felt any danger or thought i might be harmed, i wouldn't be living with him. 


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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 10:18:16 AM   
Histigress


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ORIGINAL: snapdragon9

As a sub/slave, what do you believe you should be trained for?

a slave is trained in any way that the Master sees fit, regarding limits, agreements that the slave and Master have discussed at the time that the relationship starts.

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Do you look for someone that will teach you to be submissive entirely in all relationships, but maybe with a sense to danger or harm?


i believe that all slaves should be taught the "sense to danger or harm" .... 

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Or do you look for someone to teach you to be a slave to that person, but have a will towards others?


as my own Master has been teaching me, is that i treat other Master's or Mistress's with the same respect as i would Him.

that would also fall under ... "To each their own"

*smiles*






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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 10:22:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		I believe I should be trained to please my Daddy the best way, to be His polite, kind,smart and pretty little lady. I am left to be myself infront of others - a little annoying (sometimes even cursing) brat, who dominates over everybody :) The best thing Daddy taught me was respect. It was the first time in my life that I really respected someone, especially a man.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 11:34:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		Training is bullshit, the word came out of chatrooms and is an excuse for many to do things they otherwise wouldn't do with people they otherwise wouldn't get involved in.

How can someone else train you to serve anyone other than themselves?  Its like learning French so you can go live in Russia.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 11:35:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am 1000% with SimplyMichael on this one...

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 11:38:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		You should be trained for the pleasure of your Master.  That is why it is hard to train someoneelses slave/sub.  I was trained before i met my Master ,and he had to re-train me for what he wanted because it was different.  I don't believe in a one training fits all.

Matt's littleone

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 11:45:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: snapdragon9

Had two questions, so here is the second:

As a sub/slave, what do you believe you should be trained for?

 
Um - trained?  As on online?
 
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Do you look for someone that will teach you to be submissive entirely in all relationships, but maybe with a sense to danger or harm?

How do you teach a submissive to be submissive?
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Or do you look for someone to teach you to be a slave to that person, but have a will towards others?
How do you teach slavery?
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If neither of these, how do you want to be trained?
Didn't you already ask that?
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Just wondering, I'll tell how I train later on in the thread.

.whoopee.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 3:02:05 PM   
littlebitxxx


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Status: offline 		Trained for?    The potty so we can get rid of newspaper subscriptions.

Subly to everybody?  No way.  That way I can't tell telemarketers and salesman to go "**"(insert profanity here).

Slavely to him only, a "will"  to others?   Nope again.  Kinda hypocritical doncha think?

How do I want to be trained?    VIA Rail will do nicely.

All IMNSHO of course.

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