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SeeksElvenSlave -> Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 8:58:58 AM)
A lifestyle acquaintance of mine suggested a while ago I should sit down and describe who and what I’m seeking, being as specific and detailed as I could get, right down to their hair color. Basically, this was an exercise in the “Law of Attraction”. In the process of this, I realized I have a bit of thing for Elven looking women. I have always known this; I just have not allowed myself to be focused or in touch with it on a higher level. Many people are into playing roles such as; Kitty Cats, Puppies, Vampires, Goreans and you name it. However, I have this deep fascination and attraction towards things Elven and a little Celtic in nature. Over the last year, I have been surfing the Internet, drawn to various pieces of slave jewelry. I was very surprised to discover Elven slave bracelets and other things for sale online. I just created a new account today and wrote a profile. Yes, I am being very specific, but I question my own sanity if I am being too specific. I feel a bit like I’m heading into uncharted waters here. Now here are my questions for you guys. Would you take my current profile as being serious, or just find it outright humorous? Do you feel I’m being too specific for this to be realistic? I have always expressed in any previous profiles, things I am not looking for in a partner, and that I’m sincere and experienced in the lifestyle. Basically, I’m looking feedback on the subject of being too specific, and how other people perceive my profile in general.

KaylinSilverfurr -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 9:10:50 AM)
Having read your profile (I've been called Elven many a times), no, I don't think you're looking for anything as unreasonable as the next person. You're open enough that hair colour, eyes, body size within reason is not that big of an issue, but specific enough that you are looking for specific physical qualities. Keeping in mind that there are many people from many walks of life that are into aspects of BDSM, I am sure that eventually you'll find someone who is suited to you. It may take a while, but like all things, patience is key. ~Kaylin

juliaoceania -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 9:13:30 AM)
I never ridicule anyone's profile, but I did find this to be quite humorous.... do you have to put down people in my age bracket in such a way? I am tempted to fire back a saucy retort about maturity and not being able to handle women your own age, but I believe in the Law of Attraction too. I think people should seek that which they think will make them happy. I wrote a list of things out that I wanted in a prospective partner before I met my Daddy, and then he showed up. I spent no time concentrating on that which was not wanted, only that which I wanted. I wrote it out, saved it to word, and then went on with my life. I did not list it in my profile. I discovered this list months and months after we met and I read it to him... he was everything I listed and more. Part of the LoA in my experience with it is allowing things to be just as they are without resisting them. Trust that the Universe responds to your thoughts, and just "let it go".... then it shows up. As long as you are seeking you will never find quote: Most people in my age group are sticks in the mud living life as if they are in the waiting room of the funeral home.

Bound2One -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 9:24:53 AM)
I don't think it's too specific. You've clearly got a thing for elves. That will attract submissives who understand you. I think it's best to be open about your desires, if they are as set as yours are.

OmegaG -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 9:30:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania I never ridicule anyone's profile, but I did find this to be quite humorous.... do you have to put down people in my age bracket in such a way? I am tempted to fire back a saucy retort about maturity and not being able to handle women your own age, but I believe in the Law of Attraction too. I think people should seek that which they think will make them happy. I wrote a list of things out that I wanted in a prospective partner before I met my Daddy, and then he showed up. I spent no time concentrating on that which was not wanted, only that which I wanted. I wrote it out, saved it to word, and then went on with my life. I did not list it in my profile. I discovered this list months and months after we met and I read it to him... he was everything I listed and more. Part of the LoA in my experience with it is allowing things to be just as they are without resisting them. Trust that the Universe responds to your thoughts, and just "let it go".... then it shows up. As long as you are seeking you will never find quote: Most people in my age group are sticks in the mud living life as if they are in the waiting room of the funeral home. That's OK, I look for a youthful quality too. Ironically I found my best fit with someone my own age-- guess I'm not the only one with a Peter Pan syndrom. Even after reading the profile I'm still fuzzy on what an Elven slave is. And I'm half Celtic hangs her head in shame

pixelslave -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 9:32:39 AM)
I'd say that it's what's on the inside that counts. The exterior changes with time as we all age and there's nothing we can do about that. In that sense I find your profile somewhat superficial with it's emphasis on physical attributes. Instead, I suggest you focus on the personality of the woman you seek and if she also has the physical attributes you desire, then I'd consider that a bonus and you've found more than you expected. In my experience, the more I've gotten to know a woman on the inside, the more attractive they've also become on the outside; sometimes to the exclusion of all others. [&:] Showing that you're flexible has it's advantages. I'd hate to see you miss a chance to meet a wonderful woman who'd be perfect for you but feared she didn't meet one of your criteria. Just another point of view to consider. [;)] Good luck in your search and welcome to CollarMe. [:D] - pixel

juliaoceania -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 9:34:50 AM)
quote: That's OK, I look for a youthful quality too. It's ok to desire whatever one wants, it just seems humorous to me to talk about the LoA and be so negative about people who are around 40... I have never heard anyone state people around my age were ready for the nursing home unless they were under the age of 20.

camille65 -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 9:36:10 AM)
I think it's great.[:)]

juliaoceania -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 9:39:28 AM)
quote: Even after reading the profile I'm still fuzzy on what an Elven slave is. I believe Tolkien came up with the word "Elven" to describe a race of human-like beings that were magical and practically immortal in their lifespan. The avatar I use in the forum is an Elven Queen from Lord of the Rings, Galadriel. I resemble her, ironically...lol. Edited to add, I do not know what an Elven slave would be, other than someone that looks Elven

SeeksElvenSlave -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 9:42:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania I never ridicule anyone's profile, but I did find this to be quite humorous.... do you have to put down people in my age bracket in such a way? I am tempted to fire back a saucy retort about maturity and not being able to handle women your own age, but I believe in the Law of Attraction too. I think people should seek that which they think will make them happy. I wrote a list of things out that I wanted in a prospective partner before I met my Daddy, and then he showed up. I spent no time concentrating on that which was not wanted, only that which I wanted. I wrote it out, saved it to word, and then went on with my life. I did not list it in my profile. I discovered this list months and months after we met and I read it to him... he was everything I listed and more. Part of the LoA in my experience with it is allowing things to be just as they are without resisting them. Trust that the Universe responds to your thoughts, and just "let it go".... then it shows up. As long as you are seeking you will never find quote: Most people in my age group are sticks in the mud living life as if they are in the waiting room of the funeral home. I removed that comment from my profile now, thank you for your remarks. Yes, I have had issues with women in our age bracket. That would rather hang out around the house, and not get out go swimming, camping, hiking, biking or enjoy a simple moment of laying in a field looking up at the clouds. I have had problems with women hung up on the classic rock stations, all the hit's of the 60's, 70's and 80's. I still enjoy many activities, that many younger people appear to be more involved with. I have found a number of people in our age group still stuck in the 80's in terms of music and etc. To be honest with you I have been handled women my age and older for half my life. I don't know if my own physical appearence has anything to do with it, but I look like I'm between 28-34 years old. I know I am older, but my mindset matches more to that of my appearence. Anyways, I removed that insulting comment from my profile. Though mind you, it's how I have come to honestly feel at times about many people in our age group. I'm just not talking about women either. Many of the guys in our age group have become overweight, out of shape couch potatoes, not wanting to do much of anything save perhaps go out to the bar for a few drinks. Yes, I did make a negative comment on my profile.

OmegaG -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 9:45:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: Even after reading the profile I'm still fuzzy on what an Elven slave is. I believe Tolkien came up with the word "Elven" to describe a race of human-like beings that were magical and practically immortal in their lifespan. The avatar I use in the forum is an Elven Queen from Lord of the Rings, Galadriel. I resemble her, ironically...lol. Edited to add, I do not know what an Elven slave would be, other than someone that looks Elven the LOtR was what first popped into my head yet I couldn't quite pull any "slave" qualities out of the personalities descripted in the books. I recognized your image, I am such a geek. soo-- with more processing, he wants a person with good genetics, one that physically ages slower then average and one that will be healthy and active in later years? That's a craps shoot. My sister had eternal youth when we were younger, now I (the older sister) look far younger then she.

juliaoceania -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 9:46:47 AM)
I wasn't trying to put you down for your opinions... seriously. I live in a different part of the country than you, so perhaps that accounts for many people my age that work out, take care of themselves, and so on. I am glad you took my comment the way I meant it, as a constructive criticism.

OmegaG -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 9:49:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SeeksElvenSlave quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania I never ridicule anyone's profile, but I did find this to be quite humorous.... do you have to put down people in my age bracket in such a way? I am tempted to fire back a saucy retort about maturity and not being able to handle women your own age, but I believe in the Law of Attraction too. I think people should seek that which they think will make them happy. I wrote a list of things out that I wanted in a prospective partner before I met my Daddy, and then he showed up. I spent no time concentrating on that which was not wanted, only that which I wanted. I wrote it out, saved it to word, and then went on with my life. I did not list it in my profile. I discovered this list months and months after we met and I read it to him... he was everything I listed and more. Part of the LoA in my experience with it is allowing things to be just as they are without resisting them. Trust that the Universe responds to your thoughts, and just "let it go".... then it shows up. As long as you are seeking you will never find quote: Most people in my age group are sticks in the mud living life as if they are in the waiting room of the funeral home. I removed that comment from my profile now, thank you for your remarks. Yes, I have had issues with women in our age bracket. That would rather hang out around the house, and not get out go swimming, camping, hiking, biking or enjoy a simple moment of laying in a field looking up at the clouds. I have had problems with women hung up on the classic rock stations, all the hit's of the 60's, 70's and 80's. I still enjoy many activities, that many younger people appear to be more involved with. I have found a number of people in our age group still stuck in the 80's in terms of music and etc. To be honest with you I have been handled women my age and older for half my life. I don't know if my own physical appearence has anything to do with it, but I look like I'm between 28-34 years old. I know I am older, but my mindset matches more to that of my appearence. Anyways, I removed that insulting comment from my profile. Though mind you, it's how I have come to honestly feel at times about many people in our age group. I'm just not talking about women either. Many of the guys in our age group have become overweight, out of shape couch potatoes, not wanting to do much of anything save perhaps go out to the bar for a few drinks. Yes, I did make a negative comment on my profile. This 41 year old will grudgingly agree with you, there is a huge dicotomy in our generation with some holding on the our parents 40 and others who are still active and youthful. And as one that dated her share of younger men, it's exhilirating for a time but it grows wearisome to have to explain to them some of the events that I happened to live through. I'm not stuck in the 80s but it is a part of what made me me. And do you really want to date a girl who thinks leg warmers are the cool new trend?

juliaoceania -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 10:01:41 AM)
quote: And as one that dated her share of younger men, it's exhilirating for a time but it grows wearisome to have to explain to them some of the events that I happened to live through. I'm not stuck in the 80s but it is a part of what made me me. And do you really want to date a girl who thinks leg warmers are the cool new trend? Ditto! Or were those Dittos?... He He

KaylinSilverfurr -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 10:02:24 AM)
Given that fact that in physical interactions, it is a person's physical looks that we are attracted to initially. This is a fact of life. With that said, I do seriously hope that you, Original Poster, do not feel shame in what you are looking for. There is no need to be. I (personally) do not feel it is something one should be ashamed about when they do have certian physical criteria that they are attracted to. You feel a certian way because of the experiences you have had, and no one else can tell you how or what you should feel from those experiences. Only you can figure that out for yourself and accept it. Other's mileage may vary, of course. ~Kaylin

pixelslave -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 10:03:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SeeksElvenSlave Anyways, I removed that insulting comment from my profile. Though mind you, it's how I have come to honestly feel at times about many people in our age group. I'm just not talking about women either. Many of the guys in our age group have become overweight, out of shape couch potatoes, not wanting to do much of anything save perhaps go out to the bar for a few drinks. Yes, I did make a negative comment on my profile. I hate to be the one to tell you, but that lifestyle choice applies to *all* ages, not just those who are older! It simply seems to catch up with and perhaps shows more on those who are over 40 as their metabolism begins to slow down. However, I think the statistics will show that inactivity and obesity is on the rise in the younger generation compared to when we were their age. There are too many of them sitting around playing their PS-2's, X-Boxes, etc., while eating french fries or potatoe chips instead of being actively involved in other things too! [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m23.gif[/image] IMO, it seems you've stereotyped an entire generation without having all the facts. Unhealthy diets and lack of exercise is a national problem in the country for people of all ages; not just those who happen to be your age or mine. Having just turned 50, I still get out and do my best to stay fit so I can continue to enjoy the outdoors along with the many of the other things I enjoyed in my prime. I even coach a team of 5th grade girls in recreational volleyball; something I used to greatly enjoy when I was still limber enough to play (I had 2 back surgeries 3 - 4 years ago because of an accident) and want to pass that on to the younger generation that will follow me. [:)] - pixel

SeeksElvenSlave -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 10:08:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: And as one that dated her share of younger men, it's exhilirating for a time but it grows wearisome to have to explain to them some of the events that I happened to live through. I'm not stuck in the 80s but it is a part of what made me me. And do you really want to date a girl who thinks leg warmers are the cool new trend? Ditto! Or were those Dittos?... He He Yes, I'd rather date a girl who thinks leg warmers are a cool new trend, compared to hearing "Oh no, not leg warmers again." with a cringe upon their face.

OmegaG -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 10:21:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SeeksElvenSlave quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: And as one that dated her share of younger men, it's exhilirating for a time but it grows wearisome to have to explain to them some of the events that I happened to live through. I'm not stuck in the 80s but it is a part of what made me me. And do you really want to date a girl who thinks leg warmers are the cool new trend? Ditto! Or were those Dittos?... He He Yes, I'd rather date a girl who thinks leg warmers are a cool new trend, compared to hearing "Oh no, not leg warmers again." with a cringe upon their face. And of course those are the only two choices. I just laugh and think they look as stupid now as they did then, of course I didn't think they were a cool trend that time either. I just wonder if you are missing out on a woman who shares your life experiences by way of having the generational milestones that you have who also shares your love of activity, spontinaity and living in the moment not in the past. I'm just saying, to compare my daughter (who is a young adult) and me against your preferences, I'd be the better candidate for you. I also have gravitated towards younger men because I preferred their attitude towards life better, in general, but I never excluded men my own age until they proved on an individual basis that they were fuddy-duddies. Delightfully I met someone my own age with the same love for life. (heh-- and I found out that I dig the grey in the hair). I am mostly objecting to being painted with a broad bursh in a color that clashes with me. and I'll stop beating this horse.[sm=horse.gif]

SeeksElvenSlave -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 10:24:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pixelslave ...IMO, it seems you've stereotyped an entire generation without having all the facts. I just am dealing with the fact in my small slice of the universe. Trying to get or find somebody in my age group where I live, to go swimming, camping, hiking is rather difficult. I have no issues with my 20 something friends. I'm just using this as one example. I'm dealing with real time experience with real time people, and not some published paper or journal here. I have 20 something friends that won't think twice about taking a small weedend road trip to do something. The people in my age group appear to be fewer and fewer wanting or willing to do much of anything besides hang out around the house or bars. I'm really not trying to stereotype anybody or write a report explaining why. I just know what is the reality I'm living in. If this makes any sense to you.

juliaoceania -> RE: Is being too specific realistic? An Elven slave (1/16/2008 10:26:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SeeksElvenSlave quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: And as one that dated her share of younger men, it's exhilirating for a time but it grows wearisome to have to explain to them some of the events that I happened to live through. I'm not stuck in the 80s but it is a part of what made me me. And do you really want to date a girl who thinks leg warmers are the cool new trend? Ditto! Or were those Dittos?... He He Yes, I'd rather date a girl who thinks leg warmers are a cool new trend, compared to hearing "Oh no, not leg warmers again." with a cringe upon their face. Well that is a personal choice.... Personally I was glad knee boots are back in. I like wearing them for my Daddy with nothing else on... and I love the fact I look extra hot in them because I am getting a hard body with the hours I spend exercising both in the Great Outdoors and in the gym. I used to date older men primarily, but then I noticed that I had very little in common with them.. My Daddy is 5 years older than me. I have to tell you it is wonderful to have a mate so very near my own cohort. He teaches women's self defense, dances a few times a week before he was injured in an accident. Loves to hike, and is extremely active. He is also extraordinarily intelligent. It was his intellect that appeals to me. I do adore that we grew up in the same era. I love being able to smile and laugh when we spot a trend that comes back again. I suppose I accept the age I am now, want to grow old gracefully, and I would never date another as a "fountain of youth" thinking that their lack of age was going to rub off on me. I am a parent, so I already got the thrill of experiencing the world over again through his eyes while raising him. Younger men squick me, probably because I consider how close in age they are to my own son. I will say that when I did date older men that the ones that wanted to date only younger women turned me off. For one by the time I was 25 I knew I wasn't going to be young forever. As a younger woman I prized the intellect and experience that older men shared with me, and I was not into sharing my "youth" culture with them. I was interested in them sharing their experiences with me. If I had wanted someone that was of my age group, I would have just dated someone from my age group... but that is just me, one woman that used to date men old enough to be her father, and other young women are different from me i am sure.

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