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OmegaG -> RE: Can unconditional love exist? (1/16/2008 1:17:52 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark
This isn't a question about being a condition of a relationship, but love in itself.
Is love or can love be in itself - conditional or unconditional?
And does it make a difference in the BDSM relationship, whether it is conditional or not?
I vote that it is never unconditional. I feel the same about domination and submission as well, but that's another thread. Just interested in others thoughts.
the.dark.
Flippantly, I believe in unconditional love until the conditions change.
Seriously, I cheated and pulled up an old blog that I wrote. Short answer, I don't beleive in unconditional love.
I don't believe that romantic love is an actual emotion; I believe that it is a conglomeration of other emotions, caring, compassion, enchantment, safety, security, lust, sexual gratification, possibly a desire for children and a need for companionship. Individual needs for each of these other qualifications will be an unique recipe to that person and that is what will define love to them.
I believe that marriages in the past that were based partially on survival had a better success rate because it was in people's best interest to stay together, now that survival can be achieved individually, people need the majority of the conglomeration of emotions to form a bond with a partner. Hence the higher rate of failed marriages in our age.
It's been my observation that people who continuously "fall in love" are people who are marriage minded. I also find it much easier to fall in love when I am receptive to that mind frame then when I am focusing on other things.
Of course, maybe love is that “it” factor that trumps everything else. That uncommunicatable factor that is as hard to elucidate as a woman’s need for a 10th pair of black shoes as none she already owns goes with the new outfit she just bought. Shoes I get.
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