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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 8:54:24 PM

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Thank you very much, Sir, for your input. Much appreciated!

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 8:57:35 PM

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Thank you Omega for your feedback.

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 9:04:45 PM

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Thanks to everyone for their feedback and also for some of the wit you put on here. Sometimes you just need to not take things so seriously and laugh, and I got that from a few of you. Cheers!

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/17/2008 4:02:55 AM

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Thank you very much, Sir, for your input. Much appreciated!

My pleasure :)

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Sometimes you just need to not take things so seriously and laugh, and I got that from a few of you. Cheers!

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/17/2008 9:55:22 AM

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I have been speaking with a Master online for several days now, and he has told me that because I am not able to be fully owned property (I have my own house and job and am unable to give all that up), that I need to come up with something to make it worth his while to bother with me. I have offered myself in various ways, and he has told me that all I've offered all revolves around me, not what I can do for him. I'm not sure if he is just wanting to be a Money Dom, or if I am not coming up with the right things to offer him. Help!

it is my preference to discover what we have to offer each other through conversations. those who demand i list my worth (online and right after "what are you into" or "what is your bra size") are not compatible to what i seek and
i am always grateful that they reveal themselves so early into the getting to know process.

i would think being a home owner and having a job would be 2 big things showing what you have to offer. ummm responsibility and stability.
sure beats my "i make a mean sandwich" all to hell.

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/17/2008 10:14:28 AM

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sure beats my "i make a mean sandwich" all to hell.

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Depends how you offer it and how much love you put in it. Small things can be great gifts ;)

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/17/2008 11:25:16 AM

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Well not that this guy knows this or has any clue as to why he's asking, "what do you have to offer me?"
But there is a legitimate school of thought that by asking the prospective slave to tell the prospective Master whatthey have to offer. They force the slave to do the self examination to see their worth. To see their potential, to understand that there are many ways to be a valuable asset to the relationship.

I have the question mentioned in my profile, not because I expect any financial gain but rather because I expect that any slave I take on will be a net asset when ballanced against them not being in my service.

What can you do to enhance my life?
It's a valid question to be asked both directions top down and bottom up.

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/17/2008 11:31:17 AM

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I often ask " How will you enhance my life in non financial and non sexual ways?" to see if the potential submissive has any clue of their self worth as a companion .. conversationalist.....service sub....handyman.... cook...etc.... I am not opposed to answering that question for them either. I happen to think it is a legitimate question.

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/17/2008 11:34:25 AM

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How can you prove your worthy? Dont. Find a master who appreciates you right now, for all you are and all you have to give. If he doesnt, then hes not worth your time.

Another point to think of, if you dont appreciate your own self worth, no one else will either.

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/17/2008 11:39:11 AM

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See I see the two questions as very different questions.

What can you do to enhance my life and how are you worthy to be mine. They ask very different things.
Worthy? well lets see I am a human being with a heart a soul and a body, the heart and soul make me worthy of most anything.
Now as to what can I do to enhance your life? That's a question that requires a bit of knowledge about both myself and the other person. What do they value? vs. What am I capable of doing?

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/17/2008 11:41:25 AM

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ORIGINAL: Archer

Well not that this guy knows this or has any clue as to why he's asking, "what do you have to offer me?"
But there is a legitimate school of thought that by asking the prospective slave to tell the prospective Master whatthey have to offer. They force the slave to do the self examination to see their worth. To see their potential, to understand that there are many ways to be a valuable asset to the relationship.

I have the question mentioned in my profile, not because I expect any financial gain but rather because I expect that any slave I take on will be a net asset when ballanced against them not being in my service.

What can you do to enhance my life?
It's a valid question to be asked both directions top down and bottom up.

mm yes. like that and upfront...that seems honest

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/17/2008 12:11:48 PM

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I often ask " How will you enhance my life in non financial and non sexual ways?" to see if the potential submissive has any clue of their self worth as a companion .. conversationalist.....service sub....handyman.... cook...etc.... I am not opposed to answering that question for them either. I happen to think it is a legitimate question.

I wasn't asked that specifically, but he determined early on that we have some similiar interests that make for great conversations.

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/17/2008 12:29:48 PM

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I have been speaking with a Master online for several days now, and he has told me that because I am not able to be fully owned property (I have my own house and job and am unable to give all that up), that I need to come up with something to make it worth his while to bother with me. I have offered myself in various ways, and he has told me that all I've offered all revolves around me, not what I can do for him. I'm not sure if he is just wanting to be a Money Dom, or if I am not coming up with the right things to offer him. Help!

Ok. My bullshit meter just went through the fucking roof.

You are 32 years old; are you going to tell me that you feel that you are so useless that you would put up with this kind of BULLSHIT?

GEEEEEEEEEEEEZE, get with the fucking program here...if anyone is not worth any time here it's that fuckwad you are talking to.

Get your shit in gear buddy

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/17/2008 12:39:04 PM

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that was cheerfull

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/17/2008 1:08:12 PM

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Not knowing what the man offered nobody here in this post can say for sure that what was offered does not revolve around the submissive. (ie I can give you someone to flog cause I like that, I can give you this that and the other sexually cause that's fun, etc) those things would legitimatly be considered revolving around the submissive/slave.

AS a Dominant I can tell you when I have said something along the lines of "You need to come up with something that makes it worth my time..." It has been because the slave/submissive was comming off as a "DO ME" slave or submissive.

Not saying that this is a case like that, just saying we have heard one side and only a vauge story at that.

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/17/2008 1:24:40 PM

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that was cheerfull

What can I say, it's my calling in life.

~~ Master Archer....You are usually right lol; though I admit, my instincts are screaming someone here is sorely lacking in knowledge of relationships themselves. To steal Synergy's line....Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/17/2008 1:38:57 PM

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The guy is a putz.
Keep browseing

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/18/2008 4:16:15 PM

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Move on, no one in there right mind would ask you to give up anything like a house or job until well after they knew it was going to work long term.

Mike

Aaaagreeesss..

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/18/2008 8:02:25 PM

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Well not that this guy knows this or has any clue as to why he's asking, "what do you have to offer me?"
But there is a legitimate school of thought that by asking the prospective slave to tell the prospective Master whatthey have to offer. They force the slave to do the self examination to see their worth. To see their potential, to understand that there are many ways to be a valuable asset to the relationship.

I have the question mentioned in my profile, not because I expect any financial gain but rather because I expect that any slave I take on will be a net asset when ballanced against them not being in my service.

What can you do to enhance my life?
It's a valid question to be asked both directions top down and bottom up.

Archer I think you would agree that asking a theoretical question about worth is much different than asking the question because the person is unwilling to give up their successes in life for you, wouldn't you?

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/18/2008 8:26:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: DMdogboy

I have been speaking with a Master online for several days now, and he has told me that because I am not able to be fully owned property (I have my own house and job and am unable to give all that up), that I need to come up with something to make it worth his while to bother with me. I have offered myself in various ways, and he has told me that all I've offered all revolves around me, not what I can do for him. I'm not sure if he is just wanting to be a Money Dom, or if I am not coming up with the right things to offer him. Help!

What can you offer more in a new relation then yourself? IF it is so freah and they demand so much, perhaps you shouldn't put more time in it.

You say you "have been speaking with a Master online for several days now," and you are already discussing giving up things of major significance in your life? That's insane. Look at the vanilla world, if you just knew a guy for several days, what would you think if he began to start discussing life-altering changes on your part?

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