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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/16/2008 6:43:19 PM

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Methinks that there is "bratty" and there is "playful". Bratty to me is a spoiled, petulant princess type that pouts when she doesn't get her way or, on the other end of the spectrum, pushes limits in order to get punished. Playful-brat is just fun. Like Justme says, it is a sign of being happy and comfortable in the relationship. You can have fun and play around without fear of punishment or overstepping bounds. There are a couple old threads on here about SAM's (smart ass masochists) that give oodles of ideas for playful brattiness. Your Master may or may not want you to look them up. ;)

I agree with you here. To me being bratty is a defiant attitude while being playful is just that. I would never be bratty but enjoy being playful. The two are very different to me.

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/16/2008 6:56:53 PM

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Well my name implies it. I enjoy being bratty & spunky. But i'm also a SAM. So alot of things that I say or do are meant to tease knowing full well im looking for trouble. But there have been those times where I have pushed the envelope so to speak. And had that "oh Shit" look on my face. Like omg what the hell did i just do! For instance biting... You might want to discuss with your Dom/Master prior to trying this. From experience Some dont appreciate it. His reaction literaly threw fear into me, but sure made for some hot, forcefull, spontanious fun in the long run. But I won't ever bite Him again thats for sure!

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/16/2008 6:59:07 PM

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This is such a timely conversation for me. Master has been working with me recently about my 'knowing my place' with him. I wouldn't ever be purposely bratty - it's just not in me, and he wouldn't enjoy it one bit, so we're well matched that way. But I can get carried away when in a conversation with him, and, as someone else said on here, I have to realize I'm not talking to a girlfriend; I'm speaking with my Master. It's a learning curve to even realize when I'm doing this. Fortunately, he's patient.

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/16/2008 7:44:00 PM

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Another one here who brats when I feel happy, loved and content. The absence of that gets obedience but nothing more. No trying to please him, no desire to be with him, no sexual arousal. If I'm feeling unloved and unhappy I do only what I'm told, nothing more or less. I operate best with positive reinforcement.

He figured this out about me pretty early on and has no trouble with it. In fact, he enjoys me starting play. He likes to know he's wanted.

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/16/2008 9:17:43 PM

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I would not have a Dominant that could not relax,laugh,and have a bit of playful fun and enjoy...I tend to be on the side of mischevious, so uber serious Dominant would not be a good fit for me...Tempting

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/16/2008 9:58:02 PM

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I've never been a brat in the sense you've described... and actually, I'm surprised cause I consider myself to be "spirited"

I did have my first punishment for saying something disrespectful, in a kind of smart ass kind of way. I do not want to relive that again... I'd much rather look up at Him and see a smile *wink wink*

Don't get me wrong, He's very playful and allows me to be the same.... I guess I've never crossed the line in the sand so to speak.

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/16/2008 10:01:08 PM

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I am a little surprised by the responses to this thread... I do not find anything unusual about what you have done, and many subs do these things. I like joking around with my Daddy, make bratty smart assed comments, but the difference is that I do not get spanked for saying things. I usually say them to make him laugh, and I do it for his entertainment, not to get what I want. We haven't played the game you and your master/daddy have.

So, no, I have never acted up to get a spanking... I have acted up to have fun with him, get him to laugh... I am just role playing being a brat for a gag. He often will make similar jokes, like telling me he is sending off for the wooden palate that I will be sleeping on. He will make smart assed comments about how submissives should only have thoughts when told to, etc., just to pull my leg too... it is kinda a mutual thing.

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/16/2008 11:44:17 PM

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When i first got to session with Sir and spent the night :-) i was still horny after three hours of cumming so while Sir was trying to sleep i decided to "cock tease" Him and He decided to "get me back" by pulling and twisting my nipples which turns me on. i have really sensitive breasts so i pulled away from Him b/c i was being a brat...i mean, He did ruin my fun of trying to get Him hard but when i pulled away the second time, He pushed me halfway off the bed and spanked me leaving me to pull myself up. :-(
i deserved it and i enjoyed it and it made me realize how much i enjoy His control :-)

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/16/2008 11:53:21 PM

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I smack his bottom or goose Valyraen all the time. We've got a really playful relationship and that's one of my ways of showing affection. Sides... I love his butt.... it's very grabbable.

I don't get punished for it, he just grins. Sometimes he smacks mine harder, sometimes he doesn't.

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/17/2008 12:57:37 PM

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Truly, I don't think my personality is such that I could be with someone who didn't enjoy playfulness. I am not a serious person; I just couldn't be serious about this all the time...

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/17/2008 1:15:05 PM

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[To the tune of "Have You Never Been Mellow"--Olivia Newton John]

have you even been bratty
have you ever tri-i-i-ied
to get your Dom to tan your hide...
have you ever been sammy
just to make him swa-a-a-at
have you ever run just to get caught?

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/17/2008 1:17:51 PM

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I agree with the people who have said there is a diference between bratty and being playful. I have a rather biting sense of humor sometimes but i would never actively defy him and expect him to smile and play along. I might pretend to for a second but only because i know he enjoys my sense of humor. I can usually tell when he's in a mood for jokes and play around accordingly. Also, he can usually tell when i'm joking and when i might be starting to actually try to cross a line and he'll quickly put me back in place.

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/17/2008 1:18:41 PM

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What??? Me, bratty??? Nah!

***Waiting for the laughter to subside***

I'm playful and mischievious, that's all. Unless you count the numerous times I'm kinda mouthy and a bit of a smart ass.

Ok, I tend to be a smart ass a lot! Like someone's sig line says, "I'd rather be a smart ass than a dumb ass." LOL I'm a handful and Mistress found out I'm not for the faint of heart. It's all in good fun, though. She handles me quite nicely!

I'm not an easy one to tame...

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/17/2008 1:33:29 PM

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I have been bratty but not very often at all. I am very playful and love to tease. Master lets me tease. When i get too close to the line or tease too much i get the "look" if i don't stop then i am gonna get a spanking and not the kind i enjoy. Master and i have lots of fun though.

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/17/2008 2:39:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I am a little surprised by the responses to this thread... I do not find anything unusual about what you have done, and many subs do these things. I like joking around with my Daddy, make bratty smart assed comments, but the difference is that I do not get spanked for saying things. I usually say them to make him laugh, and I do it for his entertainment, not to get what I want. We haven't played the game you and your master/daddy have.

So, no, I have never acted up to get a spanking... I have acted up to have fun with him, get him to laugh... I am just role playing being a brat for a gag. He often will make similar jokes, like telling me he is sending off for the wooden palate that I will be sleeping on. He will make smart assed comments about how submissives should only have thoughts when told to, etc., just to pull my leg too... it is kinda a mutual thing.

My Master is a very funny and sarcastic person. So jokes and comments are often smart assed on both sides.The instance we both were goofing around and even though punished it was done in a playful and in a joking way. I would never want someone who took themselves too serously. So we are well matched.

I was with a Dominant for a short time that I was getting to know who had a playspace that was quite well eqipped. I was testing the waters with this Dominant. I didnt know how volatile and unbalanced he was. Anyway, I was suspended between a spreader bar with attached cuffs on tip toes. There was a harness on me. I was in an indoor outdoor playspace. It was heated but there was an unfilled pool behind me that was covered. I was playing with being a SAM. So I pulled away from him when he came toward me. When i did that my wrist slipped out of the cuff and I went flying backward. He caught me by the waist before I went flying.You should have seen the look on my face then. he was like, "see what happens when you goof off".

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/17/2008 2:41:24 PM

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[To the tune of "Have You Never Been Mellow"--Olivia Newton John]

have you even been bratty
have you ever tri-i-i-ied
to get your Dom to tan your hide...
have you ever been sammy
just to make him swa-a-a-at
have you ever run just to get caught?

That was beeeeeuuuuutiful!

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/17/2008 8:33:49 PM

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Being a brat is soemthing that i do once in awhile. i have just figured out that i have to pick the appropriate times. When He is ready to scene is not the time. i just end up getting used and left to have an orgasism the next time He feels like it. Which has taken as long as a month. That was a long, long month. But there are times when a swat to his backside gets me a good wrestling match, the crope comes out and i am pinned against the furniture. It is great. he likes it when i am feisty- it just has to be done at the right times.

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/17/2008 9:17:02 PM

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you make your daddy sound like he has absolutely no sense of humor

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i rarely do it....and when i do he usually fails to see my humor in it...but occasionally i can say something playful or act a wee bit bratty and he will joke with me on it.

The first time i did something a bit off was he was driving and yelled at someone and i responded with a "Reooowwww...Hisss Hiisss.." sounding kinda like a mad cat....he just looked at me and said "Young lady you will save things like that for your girl friends."....so i haven't done that again. lol

Once or twice i accidentally tapped his butt...not as a swat or a spank even... i was totally unaware of it and he pinched my nipples really hard and told me that i was NOT allowed to do that...so i just don't ever even come close to grazing his butt.

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/17/2008 9:20:08 PM

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I am glad my Daddy isn't as up tight as half the doms on here. I'd never be with someone who didn't allow me to be the childish goofy and sometimes brat like me I am.

Daddy and I make it a game me swatting him. He'll be bending over to get a bag packed or something and me on the bed and I'll leap up and swatt him and he'll laugh and say something like I've been got by baby, and he'll turn around and get me when me's not looking.

If he's pretending to be asleep because I've paused tivo or something he hates is on, I'll do things I know tickles his face till he's forced to give up the charade and scratch his face. I love doing that.

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RE: have you ever been bratty? - 1/18/2008 1:13:09 PM

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greetings to all,

What's this "ever been"? *grin* xian is "bratty" constantly (she's a joker, and uses light heartedness to bond with people). That said, if she feels that her joking is out of place, or unappreciated, then she interracts differently.

If Master couldn't handle something done in a joking way, or an innocent grope, or swat, then He would not be good for her, at all. She needs to know that the person will "play along" with her, and through that, that her joking is accepted, because it is just part of her, part of who she is.

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