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RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting - 1/18/2008 7:11:18 AM

Rianne

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If you put "fisting" in the search engine, you'll find all kinds of threads on it with good info.

It was done to me on my birthday last year, and was incredible...but I was way ready, relaxed, turned on and feeling it in a good way with someone willing to be engaged in the activity "with" me ...not doing it "to" me. It worked well for me.

The good part was all the sensations at the opening and the pushing and moving around. He never did get his whole fist inside (very big hands), but I don't know if that would have made it better or not. I was really enjoying the grinding. It was fun.

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RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting - 1/18/2008 7:51:50 AM

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Your vulva is designed to let an entire baby through, which is significantly larger than a hand - as long as he knows what he is doing, you'll be fine. Just don't be all tensed up, have a whiskey or a valium or sumtin', and be turned on.

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RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting - 1/18/2008 2:15:06 PM

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Your vulva is designed to let an entire baby through, which is significantly larger than a hand - as long as he knows what he is doing, you'll be fine. Just don't be all tensed up, have a whiskey or a valium or sumtin', and be turned on.

Yeah, that's why epidurals were invented.

Oh, yeah, and episiotomies.

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RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting - 1/18/2008 3:27:39 PM

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As some one who loves fisting -- i've both received and given fisting -- it's a big job. I wouldn't let just anyone fist me... it takes time and patience. You never force the hand. I'm picky about who fists me because it can either be good pain or bad, bad pain.

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RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting - 1/18/2008 4:09:14 PM

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Fisting, if done right, is amazing. I wouldn't worry about becoming "loose", a babies shoulders are way bigger than a fist, and it's all muscle just keep doing those kegels. of course lube is very importent and I hope you have a good relationship with the "fistor" and trust them to be telling the truth.

Now, I am eagerly awaiting the response to what the bottom has to practice to be prepared for fisting because I must have missed class that day.

Ultra sized dildos can help ;)

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RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting - 1/18/2008 4:34:25 PM

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I'm sort of curious as to what made some people hate A Hand in the Bush. I like it and have found it helpful. Overall, relax and go slowly. Many, if not most, people need to work up to a whole fist. Gloves can help make things smoother. Anything that feels like a burning sensation, which stretching sometimes does, can be calmed a bit by adding more lube. It will keep you comfortable.

As others have mentioned, you don't stay stretched out. Over time you can get your muscles used to stretching and retracting, just like any other muscle. It will get easier to do over time, because your muscles have gotten used to it, but not because you stay open. In fact, I usually feel tighter the day after I've been fisted or used a large toy.

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RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting - 1/18/2008 8:44:42 PM

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i have one experience with this and i was in no way prepared...it just happened. i will say this...it is the only time in my life i have orgasmed so much i had to beg for him to stop...i could not take anymore.

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RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting - 1/18/2008 11:35:48 PM

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I too have been curious about, and leery of, the how-tos of fisting. Never thought to Google it, should have known better, Google knows more than Jeeves. Stupid, useless, butler, go get my lube! I know the whole song and dance about "If a baby can fit...", but as Bound2One, pointed out, modern medicine has blessed laboring moms with the choice of epidurals! God bless 'em!

Here's another question to add to the OP: Is fisting generally a before or after intercourse thing? Or a stand-alone act? I just can't imagine the vagina shrinking back down to size quick enough for a good, tight fuck, but then again, I AM naive!

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RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting - 1/19/2008 6:14:20 AM

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A baby isn't born in an instant, the seperation of the pubic bones normally take place as a result of the pressure of the fetus over several weeks. If a woman's body were just muscle and flesh it would be easy for everyone. What i have experienced personally is pain, having a baby hurt like hell even when my body was ready for it. i am not personally interested in being fisted just to say i did it. As was pointed out in another thread, fisting should not be a goal. Just because i've given birth doesn't mean i will have the best time of my life by reversing the process, as i recall, giving birth did not produce an orgasm. Not all baby's heads are larger than a man's hand and the baby's head squishes.... *shrug*

However, there are so many people who have experienced it as an extremely intimate act and i have never once heard someone say "it ruined me forever!" so i'm guessing it doesn't do any real damage at all. i'm probably addressing my own feelings here but perhaps the fear of it is more damaging than the act itself.

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RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting - 1/19/2008 7:22:30 AM

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So why are you going to be obedient to a play partner who won't even have you in his house?

This is a two way street, if you don't feel able to submit to him then why promise to be obedient and take it. Tell him you aren't ready. Tell him you'll think about it and if and when you want him to do this, then you'll tell him. But that it's off limits until then.

Seconded.
Plus I'm not sure how much experience he really has.
Do a TON of reading on it, (enough that you could write a thesis in your sleep) and innocently ask him some questions regarding fisting. If his answers are wrong, or evasive. No game. If they're right, you still have to ask yourself if you trust him with your most private bits, since you are now just a 'piece' to him.

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RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting - 1/19/2008 7:44:35 AM

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Hi My 2 Cents,

Fisting depends on how big the hand is compared to you on the inside. We all have some flexabitlity to expand, when we are very turned on . I have had partners I was very comfortable with but fisting was a no go because their hand was just too big for me!!! Fisting is an awesome experience. I've never felt so fulfilled and happy to please my Prince and Master.

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