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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 1:36:13 PM   
domiguy


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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Lots of lube and hopefully some nice rimming first! Nothing like an anus tongue bath! ooooooooh



Sounds interesting..She better be fairly flexible so that she can lick her own ass.

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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 1:49:05 PM   
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what can i do to get over my fear?

Anal (as in anal sex) has never had any appeal for me, either.  But that's not to say I don't enjoy giving the girl some attention in those hard to get at places; that's what lubes and toys etc are made for....
 
If it's a fear you wish to overcome, then you do as others have suggested - start slowly with someone you trust and who cares for you.  If you just don't wanna know about it, you make it a hard limit and adhere to it....
 
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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 1:51:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Start slowly, use lots of lube, start with smaller objects and then move up to larger ones.  But if it really, truly just doesn't appeal to you an you have no desire at all to do it, then just don't do it.  You don't have to do anything you don't want.

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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 1:53:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DianeB269

Do a few strapon sessions with me...



Diane




Riiiight. So you can break it off in her and traumatize her for life. The goal is for her to get over her fear, not make it worse.


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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 1:58:14 PM   
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Well the first question is, do you WANT to engage in it? If  not don't feel you have to be forced, you have the right to say no.


I second this advice.

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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 2:04:03 PM   
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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 2:08:04 PM   
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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 2:11:07 PM   
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Lots of lube and hopefully some nice rimming first! Nothing like an anus tongue bath! ooooooooh


see, now you've made me mess up my monitor again!


I am getting the impression that all you Utah people are freally Ferkin Freaky Deaky! You need to move to Chicago!!!

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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 2:11:17 PM   
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You don't have to do anything you don't want.


That sure takes the fun out of it.


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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 2:14:07 PM   
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Daddy likes it.  however, i think he's becoming used to the idea that it quite probably will never happen....cause we have issues with vaginal sex at times.  if he cant get in there, how is he gonna go elsewhere that is even tighter?

oh well.

kitten


Well, stop clamping down.
Dont assume this is so. You just have to relax.

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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 2:22:37 PM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		Geez... not every single person has to engage in every single activity.  Being hung by the vagina by meathooks has not appeal for me, i'm afraid of it, and i doubt anyone would expect me to engage in it.  Just cuz some folks absolutely love an activity doesn't mean everyone has to.

Lets see... the top three questions during an initial chat are:  1) do you like oral?  2) are you bi?  3) do you like anal?

There was a time when i thought the only way i could be a "real" submissive was for me to love oral, at least pretend to be bisexual and be excited about anal penetration.

Well, two out of three ain't bad.

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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 2:33:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		I wholeheartedly second the advice that if you are interested in finding out what all the whoo-ha-ra is about anal stimulation, have a glass of wine and start exploring your body yourself.
If you are nervous about fecal matter, an enema bulb or two is a good place to begin. Then just use some lube and start to feel around. If stimulating the outer rectum feels good, feel free to penetrate. If penetration feels good, then perhaps another finger or a toy is appropriate. Be relaxed and mellow, and if it doesn't feel good, don't do it.

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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 2:47:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		What she said and add some clitoral stimulation to it, you may be surprised.

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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 3:08:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DianeB269

Do a few strapon sessions with me...



Diane




Riiiight. So you can break it off in her and traumatize her for life. The goal is for her to get over her fear, not make it worse.




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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 3:21:02 PM   
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Daddy likes it.  however, i think he's becoming used to the idea that it quite probably will never happen....cause we have issues with vaginal sex at times.  if he cant get in there, how is he gonna go elsewhere that is even tighter?

oh well.

kitten


Well, stop clamping down.
Dont assume this is so. You just have to relax.


that IS with me relaxed and willing for him to try, using a generous amount of lube. 

kitten

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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 4:33:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		The first time for me with anal penetration which was not a toy was being bent over and taken.  It was not a pleasant experience.  If you want to get over your fear of anal then try playing with yourself until it is ok.  If you really are not interested in anal, then make sure any potential partner is aware of that.
Kyst

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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 5:01:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, if you say it has no appeal for you, why exactly do you WANT to get over your fear?

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what can i do to get over my fear?

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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 5:05:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		I was thinking that perhaps it was something she wanted to do, to be pleasing to a dominant.  Not every act of submission has to be enjoyable does it?




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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 6:38:19 PM   
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Have a couple of glasses of wine and smoke a little weed.   That's what I did the first time ( and a lot of times after  ) and I loved it.  Woohoo for butt love!


A similar technique worked for me, as well, minus the weed.  A few glasses of very nice Italian wine and being in an extremely excited sexual state, plus not having a clue as to what was coming, then before i knew it, i was being ass fucked for the very first time and loving every exciting minute of it.  i was hooked!
 
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RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it - 1/20/2008 7:52:41 PM   
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I was thinking that perhaps it was something she wanted to do, to be pleasing to a dominant.  Not every act of submission has to be enjoyable does it?

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