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winterlight -> Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 10:27:28 AM)
what can i do to get over my fear?

AMaster -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 10:34:37 AM)
Start slow and work your way up to your goal.

Phin -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 10:41:17 AM)
dont even start unless you totally trust the person you are with. The trust will help aleviate the fear and anxiety. Relax when you start up, being tense will only make it unplesent or even painful. I would not use anything along the lines of Anal Eeze, because the pain tells you when something is wrong.

LadyHathor -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 10:44:50 AM)
*Well the first question is, do you WANT to engage in it? If not don't feel you have to be forced, you have the right to say no.*

sexyred1 -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 10:47:06 AM)
What are you afraid of? Pain? Embarrassment? Not liking it? Liking it too much? Do you even have an interest in it?

SunnyTawse -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 10:59:25 AM)
If it appeals to you, start with some pleasureable preliminaries with a firm understanding that penetration will NOT occur even if you're begging for it. The top needs to honor that committment rather than thinking this would be the time to go ahead. When you feel you're ready after several sessions of tongue or finger massage with lots of warm oil, you may agree to the insertion of just a finger tip at some point... but still the top should hold off until they're certain the time is right. Never should the top exceed agreed-upon limits; as a matter of fact, it's preferable that the top stay well under what the bottom desires in order to always leave the bottom wanting more. But if it doesn't appeal to you... "Just say no!" <g> Sunny Tawse Sadien DOmina Archon of Rings http://AthenorLodge.com

AbsitInvidia -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 10:59:52 AM)
Ugh I know the feeling. My Master put a pen up there just to start off slowly and it felt so awful. It took all my self control not to try to push it out. Fortunately (?) he's really large in certain areas...so when he tried to do it with me it literally wouldn't go in [:D] unfortunately that might mean that he will try to do it anyway through using smaller things and working up to it and I'm seriously not looking forward to that.

bipolarber -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 11:13:06 AM)
Like most things involving penetration, it's usually best to experiment on your own, in a masturbatory fashion, until you get some idea if it's really something you can enjoy, or at least tolerate. I'd say go to your local sex toy emporium, find a selection of small, long thing anal plugs, and try using those first. (Use plenty of lube, obviously.) Get used to the idea of having something entrer your body there... if it's no too terrible, you might just learn to like it. Of course, sharing such a sexual experience with someone you like and trust will be far better than just lone experimentation. But, if you find you really just don't like it at all, don't worry about it. Lots of people don't find anal sex enjoyable. At least you can say you tried. :)

Aileen1968 -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 11:33:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: winterlight what can i do to get over my fear? Have a couple of glasses of wine and smoke a little weed. That's what I did the first time ( and a lot of times after ) and I loved it. Woohoo for butt love!

tulitukka -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 11:39:29 AM)
Don't start with somebody else. Start with playing yourself. Take a nice bath, relax and get acquinted with your body. Don't worry about putting things inside, just play with the soft tissue on the outside and find out if they can give you good vibes. Anything that contains putting things into the hole - lots, and lots of lube.

MsStarlett -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 11:40:30 AM)
For me, starting out it was 2 beers, lots of KY and a thumb. Then you let the penis follow the thumb in SLOWLY! When it hurts, he has to back out. The next time, it's a little nicer... Now, I'm the one who ASKS for it. Some things just take a little practice. With this, you have to practice relaxing the muscles.

venusinblu -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 12:17:51 PM)
if you don't want to do it, don't do it! .. It's as simple as that. However, and i can't believe i am mentioning this here .. a good thing to play with when training for anal is a skinny (frozen obviously) ice popsicle .. and loads of lube .. sounds odd but ... it feels great and gets you in touch with your inner tingly, meltly 'f*ck me now, Master, please!' ass play feelings ... [8\|]

adoracat -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 12:22:20 PM)
Daddy likes it. however, i think he's becoming used to the idea that it quite probably will never happen....cause we have issues with vaginal sex at times. if he cant get in there, how is he gonna go elsewhere that is even tighter? oh well. kitten

DianeB269 -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 12:24:05 PM)
Do a few strapon sessions with me... Diane

proudsub -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 1:15:02 PM)
quote: My Master put a pen up there Personally, i wouldn't put anything objects up there that aren't made for that, they can get enveloped and stuck, or cause damage.[:o]

Aileen1968 -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 1:16:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: proudsub Personally, i wouldn't put anything objects up there that aren't made for that, they can get enveloped and stuck, or cause damage.[:o] Does that include a tongue?

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 1:20:33 PM)
is there not any training before hand to stretch out your ass with plugs??? having a plug in for a few hours a day can help quite alot.

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 1:22:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: proudsub Personally, i wouldn't put anything objects up there that aren't made for that, they can get enveloped and stuck, or cause damage.[:o] Does that include a tongue? are you attempting to cheat on me already??? [sm=lol.gif][sm=lol.gif][sm=lol.gif]

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 1:23:11 PM)
Lots of lube and hopefully some nice rimming first! Nothing like an anus tongue bath! ooooooooh

christine1 -> RE: Anal has no appeal for me and i am afraid of it (1/20/2008 1:28:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 Lots of lube and hopefully some nice rimming first! Nothing like an anus tongue bath! ooooooooh see, now you've made me mess up my monitor again!

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