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.Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 6:55:50 AM

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I was reading the news - my daily thang - and there is an article about an experiment on being subjected to the dark in solitary confinement for 48 hours. I read with hundred thoughts whizzing around my head, and thought I may post here.

Has anyone ever gone through a full on sensory deprivation scene and what did it hold for you? How long was it for? What occured. Whether you was the dominant or the s-type. Please don;t be restricted to just these questions - It would be cool to see anything/points you might want to raise.

Has anyone had partial sensory deprivation and the same questions apply.

Lastly, is there anyone who finds this interesting, hot, scarey *insertthoughtshere* and would ask to have one done?

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 7:05:35 AM

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I can't particularly answer this firsthand, but I do have a friend of Mine who is a bottom who has this particular fantasy. The key to it is that he also wants to be totally bound for the experience and gagged as well. To him, it is the ultimate idea for a scene.

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 7:16:09 AM

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I'd read years ago about a type of therapy where you were put into a vat of warm water in the dark - supposedly returned you to the womb. I think it would be great :) but I haven't been in a total sensory deprivation situation like that with zero sound.

Personally, the SIZE would be important for me. In a big room? that might be disconcerning. In a small area? Heaven! But I've always liked small spaces. When I was a kid & got stressed out I'd sit in the bottom of my closet or crawl behind bushes squashed against the house and sit for a few hours, it was very soothing.

So to me it would be very comforting and calming. Recently we've been working under our house and the few times I've been in the crawlspace the zen-like feeling hits me immediately.

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 7:23:20 AM

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I'm not sure what "total" is but bound, gagged, blindfolded, soundproof ear coverings and smell restricted. I was being acted upon by two Doms at the time. I believe the purpose was to see if I could determine which was my Dom still. I could easily. I don't think it lasted for more than an hour. It wasn't really overwhelming, but this was an ltr with someone I loved and a very good friend so I thought it was great fun personally. It was amazingly difficult to move around at all though when I was allowed to, which was suprising to me. If someone does do this I would be forewarned I almost ran myself into the window because I was very disoriented. Much more so than just being blindfolded.

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 7:24:18 AM

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I experienced that therapy several times .. and it was in a small enclosed vat .. not a lot larger than a coffin .. I thought it would be horrid .. but it was wonderful .. very soothing .. and comforting ... the ones I was in were with salt water ... and I would do it again in a heartbeat....and I am not into sensory depravation at all lol at least <EG> not for myself

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 7:27:06 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissHarlet

I experienced that therapy several times .. and it was in a small enclosed vat .. not a lot larger than a coffin .. I thought it would be horrid .. but it was wonderful .. very soothing .. and comforting ... the ones I was in were with salt water ... and I would do it again in a heartbeat....and I am not into sensory depravation at all lol at least <EG> not for myself

How long was a typical session? Mmmm...salt bath ~la sigh~

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 7:27:29 AM

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It is something I have thought about, and it both arouses and frightens me.

Blindfolds come under the heading of partial sensory deprivation, and I like being blindfolded. It heightens the feeling of anticipation - where is he? What is he going to do next? All my other senses are tingling and alert. (Even though I am visually impaired, that blindfold totally cuts off any vestige of sight.)

I have thought about asking for him to add earmuffs to the mix (not the cute furry kind, but the kind that pretty well cut off outside sound). Then I would have to rely on my nerve endings alone - very stimulating.

I have been left alone, blindfolded and restrained, for a period of about an hour. I knew he was coming back, but not when. It was scary, even so. But it was that delicious scary that left me hungering for what would happen when he returned.

I don't know how long I would be able to withstand sensory deprivation and alone-ness. There are practical considerations, especially given my age and physical condition, but I would suppose two or three hours would be my limit.

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 7:31:00 AM

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Mummification is a form of sensory deprivation that I have done multiple times, but I cannot stand the thought of full on sensory dep, for myself. Claustrophobia sets in as well as panic attacks.

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 8:06:39 AM

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Hi Laurell

To clarify, I guess, in this scenario I was thinking in the same way as the 'experiment'. Total being - darkness, no sound, no tastes, no smell, totally immersed - I guess touch is a hard one to remove. There would also be no sense of what time of day or night it was or even not knowing where you might be.

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 8:07:06 AM

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I love blindfolds, gags and rope. But he added headphones one time and I totally freaked out. If he gets very quiet in the room and I can't hear him, I begin to worry. I can't handle total abandonment. Now if all he's doing is standing next to the bed deciding what to do, that's fine as long as he's brushing up against me. It's fine if I can hear him rummaging in the toy bag. If I can't tell that he's still there, I panic.

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 8:08:21 AM

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Each session was an hour to 2 hours

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 8:12:39 AM

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quote:

Lastly, is there anyone who finds this interesting, hot, scarey *insertthoughtshere* and would ask to have one done?

The idea of this used to scare me, but after playing with some sensory dep, I think it would be a good thing for me, perhaps even a spiritual thing. I would be very interested in it, as long as I had a way to signal that it was becoming too much.

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 8:18:04 AM

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36 hours. Hands behind my back held with zipties. Dark room. Facing a corner, only standing when taken to the bathroom or spoken to when fed. It was not a voluntary thing with me and I can say unequivacally (sp) that it was an awful experience. I'd also been isolated with the longest period being 72 hours, 'shunned' for 28 days where no one was permitted to speak to me nor I speak to them. If someone is not prepared for the experience and carefully watched IMO this can be a detrimental thing to go through. However since it was involuntary and I was quite quite young I'm sure that has colored my personal view. I was fifteen at the time.

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 8:31:39 AM

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this is really interesting because i have a kind of before and after set of experiences for this scenario

About 5 years ago I did a scene with my Dom, i had no idea of the time it started (was in the middle of a long weekend of play for which i never got anywhere near a clock. But i was blindfolded, then hooded, hands and ankles tied while i was in a siting position so i couldn't interact with my environment, I was clothed and comfortable and neither hungry nor thirsty nor neading the loo. I was just left, to this day have no idea how long for, i got bored, then uncormfortable, then frustrated and angry .. this soon became fear i had been abandonned .. which turned back to anger .. and yo yoing back and forth between fear and anger until i started crying out to be let go ... eventually i was but i was actually frightened of taking the blindfold off(i have no clue why as minutes before i would have done anything to have it off me)... now i think i was probably left for 3-4 hours ... which then was a huge amount of time.

Between then and now I have been with several Doms one of whom really focussed on giving me serenity and acceptance of environment. It came about because i have a very quick temper and feel my emotions very strongly. His training helped me to control this and even myself out. An example of the results is that i can quiote happily zone out a 7 hour train journey( the distance between me and my family home) which for me passes in what feels like an hour without a book or music or anything.

Anyhow ... recently I did a very similar scene but this time i was naked, and cold, and locked in a cupbaord i KNEW had spiders in, and i could hear the ticking of a clock so had something telling me time was passing. This time i didn't get frightened or stressed or tearful. This was a challenge for me in composure. Composure and being a serene force is hugely important for me in the service i want to give (how much stress and frustration fills everyday of the people we serve, how good to be able to offer them a space of calm) . It was a real challenege to contain myself and cling to the serenity. The degree to which i managed it is up for debate

I find this kind of play the most enjoyable ... i hate pain and would rather never go there though obviously it is to be accepted and expected in submisison. Play that i find direct pleasurable is more along this line ... it fucks with my mind not with my body ... much hotter for me .. much much hotter.

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 8:44:14 AM

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I've never had the experience of sensory deprivation, but I'm interesed in trying it. My work environment is loud, phones ringing and I wear a headset for the radio, so silence to me is a serious blessing! I don't mind the dark, it's actually comforting....I often wander around the house with the lights off....I'm not clausrophobic, so that wouldn't be a problem. When I'm blindfolded, everything is so much clearer, and I can relax and savor the sensations. I'd probably just fall asleep if there was a break of any serious length of activity...but heck, a good hard spanking makes me almost comatose! Even leaving a light on during sessions is distraction enough!

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 8:50:35 AM

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At my prior house I had a block room partition off in the basement with a thick door and believe me if I gaged and blindfolded you, once that heavy door slammed shut you were in your own little world of total darkness and silence,all you hear is your heart thumping..You are in a sitting position your back against the wall, you elbows are by your side tightly bound with duct tape ,from the knees down is also bound with DT,you strain to hear the smallest sound that will tell you if I or any other human is near,you even revert back to ways your of ancestors and sniff the air for the slightest give away but nothing is there,You were told not to panic or struggle,that it would only makes it worst.So you relent and breath slow and deep like instructed,You hear the slighest sound of a portal and yes I am checking on you like promised..See its wasn't all that bad.....

Many can take this so many different ways,It can be your nightmare or like julia said it can be very spritual.I often went there to the silence and blackness to meditate,it tis very peaceful retreat and will soon have a safe secure place here just like that...

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 8:53:20 AM

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oooo total sensory deprivation sounds interesting! Not that last bit including spiders though... errrgg!

There have been a number of psych experiments done with total sensory deprivation (including no access to telling the time and also the opposite - no access to darkness) apparently people can really lose it after a while. I also believe such experiments are no longer able to be conducted due to ethical reasons and potential psychological damage... so I'd be super careful with the preparations / care / aftercare etc.

My girlfriend really likes being bound, blindfolded and with ear plugs in and I really like doing that to her but it works best if she's warm and comfortable. Without earplugs is good too coz I can rustle around and ignite her imagination as to what's coming next. Or having headphones and loud music is good too. The minute she starts getting cold or uncomfortable though she stops enjoying it and loses the buzz... unless it's a cold blade she can feel... he he he

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 8:53:24 AM

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I guess touch is a hard one to remove.

Wearing a pair of thick gloves or oven mitts can remove the sense of touch.

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 9:11:50 AM

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http://www.floatation.com/wheretofloat.html this is the ultimate way of doing sensory deprivation. I have not done it as a scene but it would be nice to put my submissive through it just because it's so intensely relaxing and profoundly cleansing. As for the traditional ways of doing sensory dep i.e. bound, gaged, blindfolded, earplugs and nose plug I've done it to a submissive short term during a scene. She said it was scary at first and it made her hyper aware of everything I was doing to her. Seeing as she had no way of speaking I gave her a bell to ring if she needed to red out. Other than that I'd have to say make sure you have a solid emotional state before hand.

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RE: .Alone in the dark. - 1/21/2008 9:14:16 AM

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I know where your coming from Joy, but I mean total touch loss - as in numbness. You can still feel the gloves hey. Water and flotation is probably the nearest I can think of.

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