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fluffyswitch -> RE: Honesty. That which you've never put out there. (1/22/2008 11:10:16 AM)
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ORIGINAL: JoshuasHeart
I don't find people terribly willing to go beyond convenient truths, and what is fairly politically correct. This is in Life (real-time), and certainly my experience in a short time on CM. Just a few have I found remarkable to offer up head & heart, putting armouring aside, embracing vulnerability, to allow for the deepent revelations. And I certainly understand this. Everyone is interested in keeping the soft underbelly guarded. No one wants to be cast-off, disregarded...or eat bad news.
As a teen, I knew a girl for a summer, adoring her but assuming I could never win her heart. Late that summer she approached me and asked if I disliked her. Aghast I said, "No." I pointed out what I just shared, the truth. She explained she had been hoping I'd say something since she had a bit oif a wild crush on me.
I learned an important lesson that summer. ASK. Mathematically the odds are with you in large numbers. Never let that one who looks sogood get away without saying,"You're really quite pretty. Want to grab lunch sometime?"
A no and you've lost little. A "yes", and anything can be. THEME: Toss a bit of unpoken honesty out here. Honesty on CM? What a concept.
My honest burp? I signed with CM as a hoot. Thought this would be "interesting." After talking to one woman (talking being PMs, then phone), for a week, I was astounded at how she "got me" faster than I can recall in the last several years real-life. I looked so forward to our talks, and was, maybe for ther 1st time in a LONG time, anxious before she'd phone. Then she told me she "thought it possible she could love me..." My mouth went dry. I poured my heart out about how stunned I was at the intensity of my feelings. I 'gushed', if you will...smile.
We said in the next call we'd make plans to fly her to me. I believed her words as I knew I was alive. The time came for the phone call. I was so damned prepared. I told a good friend. He raised a brow, "online?"
The time arrived for the call. It never came. after 3 emails, and no response i let it go. Bitter pill. Did it hurt...good god. I decided to keep the account here open...just to make certain I was not running away.
fine.
honestly? honestly i don't like the implication that because you don't like what's been posted here you have the right to be rude.
honestly? you ARE acting like a punk. for no apparent reason.
honestly? i REALLY don't like the implication that because i post here i'm a lier.
you have NO way of knowing someone is spouting off or not so don't make sweeping generalizations, if you read the boards here awhile you'll find it's a good way to have your ass handed back to you.
oh and my secret? i'm really a raging b*tch but actually like people on these boards so i tend to just *ignore* posts i don't like instead of getting *narky*
which you were.
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