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RE: Dealing with distance - 1/22/2008 5:19:23 PM

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Write a combined book of your relationship experiences and how you relate to each other on a daily basis.....he gets to write a 'chapter' and mails it to you.....you get to make ONE edited change only and then add your entry back to him....he gets to make ONE edited change to yours and adds his addition and so on.....
discuss and mind map what might put into it that might be of interest to other young ones in the lifestyle.....
explorations of emotions, fetishes, instructions, fantasies, poetry and prose levels of writing, random thoughts, plans for the future, tasks and assignments could all go in or indeed images, pjoto ideas, montahes etc.....make it a plan to write something for each other at least once a day and call it something original(?) like: a year in the life of young long distance bdsm or ........
any ideas for their title?
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RE: Dealing with distance - 1/22/2008 5:33:01 PM

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I like your title prinsexx...

Another could be Our (however long it ends up being...a year...6 months...) long distance BDSM story:

A boyfriend and I had a kind of continueing sex book one time, I'd write in it about what I wanted to do to him, what we would do etc, and he would write back either continuing on it if I left it open, or starting his own. You could also do this, detailing what your everyday life (even outside the bedroom) would be were you togther.

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RE: Dealing with distance - 1/22/2008 6:16:35 PM

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MasterFireMaam - wow, those are some neat ideas and I doubt I would have thought of them myself. I'll be mentioning the calendar one to him when I talk to him next. (The others are going to need a little more planning.)

NP, I've had experience with LDRs, both vanilla and lifestyle. It all began when I was a Navy wife....

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RE: Dealing with distance - 1/22/2008 6:37:41 PM

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1. Many tasks can still be completed and monitored via webcam - appropriate greeting, sexual intimacy, eating, dress codes, seating positions, chores, punishments.

2. Organizing your affairs/daily calendar - shopping, appointments, vet visits, birthdays, etc. If you have cell phones, setting up reminders for your appointments so that they are sent to you via text.

3. Helping you with anything involving research or upcoming tasks. Have to do your taxes? Have your sub look for a suitable program. That sort of thing. Almost any purchase can be researched by the sub - like tv's (brands, type of screen, etc), or books (reading reviews).

4. A ritual way of answering your phone calls. Such as, your sub may always have to greet you with "Good morning/afternoon/evening, Master"

5. A daily e-mail letting you know his/her state of mind, current thoughts, schedule for the day and anything s/he'd like to talk about. This can also include the outfit for the day and just about anything else. I usually write a daily email that starts from bedtime up until that moment.

6. A blog. You can assign tasks such as "Write in this daily" or "write about x topic"

7. If you are both on the same cell phone carrier, you can be "together" and on the phone. You don't have to engage in conversation the entire time - you could cook together, watch TV, watch DVD's.

8. Your sub can search your local circulars (supermarket, Walgreens, CVS, etc.) and help you with shopping lists.

9. Real, handwritten letters.

This was just off the top of my head. These are some of the things that I do.

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RE: Dealing with distance - 1/23/2008 5:52:26 AM

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These are all such great ideas.

I may have to get pet a present in the form of a decent webcam

Side note: I think one of the people replying to this thread thought I was female; I'm not, if it's at all relevant. Probably not, but thought it was worth noting.

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RE: Dealing with distance - 1/23/2008 2:57:29 PM

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I won't lie, I thought you were a chick.

Where does it say otherwise?

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RE: Dealing with distance - 1/23/2008 3:02:59 PM

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I won't lie, I thought you were a chick.

Where does it say otherwise?

On his profile. Perhaps you assumed it was a hetero couple because he referred to his pet as a "he".

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RE: Dealing with distance - 1/23/2008 5:20:53 PM

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I am liking these ideas. Oh, I'm the pet in reference by the way. I thought I'd give my appreciation as well. Master needs to hurry up and turn 20, I feel so very awkward dating a teen and being 22 myself!
More on topic: I enjoy the journal idea and work out routines. Both things I have a very hard time keeping up with and need some guidance on. Letting myself down feels alright with me, but letting my Master down carries a lot more weight. Should be interesting.

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