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MsPurrmeow -> RE: Submissive 24/7 (9/2/2005 10:04:15 AM)
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ORIGINAL: pandoravampire
I find it interesting that Dom's underestimate the deference shown 24 hrs a day by a submissive. Even when the Dom is in sleep mode, its on the side of the bed that used to be mine, under his favourite quilt, not my feather one, where i sleep naked even when its freezing because he said so in Dom mode once, when i dont turn the light on to read so as not to wake my Sir at night. And this is just when it not D/s???
He may not request things of me in sleep/rest mode, but im still submitting, serving drink, food, fetching stuff. Perhaps its pampering thats 24/7 then? lol
This is what I believe a D/s RELATIONSHIP is about. It may not have the adrenaline surges of 24/7D/s "play" but it IS D/s. There were orders given and choices made because of that dynamic, and they live on. It's a real test of dedication, not merely a short exchange session. (I kneel and serve you coffee, you pat my head) When it goes long-term, sometimes to the point of forgetting that what has become habit was once an order and compliance, that's the beauty of it. It shouldn't be taken for granted.
That being said, it's good to refresh that dynamic from time to time. Remind the Dominant of why you do certain things. Sometimes habits can be changed, stretched, or modified as a reminder of their purpose. The dynamic should never be taken for granted, even after a few years. This is why occasional protocol and certain types of address are fun. They can be subtle reminders of where you are and how you got there. Overuse is a bit much, but to bring an action to the forefront and into the verbal arena is good for relationships, and for me, the most important part of a D/s relationship, is the word "relationship."
Purr
(Oh yeah, I've got a "tiger-on-my-lap" picture, too. Two tigers, in fact! You are a lucky girl.)
(See my profile and look at "Additional Photo #2")
*silly kitty-lovin' grin*
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