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dirtygirlT -> not sure (1/22/2008 4:04:38 PM)
ok well Master has given me a task to find him a sub that is willing to start out online then move in to part time RT. i am having a hard time with this because i dont know what to look for in a sub.Have any of you had to do this and if so what did you look for in the sub.

CalifChick -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 4:08:02 PM)
Maybe you meant to put this in "ask a Master". If you're asking me as a submissive, I would tell you I don't take requests from submissives of "Masters" that are too lazy to find someone on their own. Next you're going to tell us there is a deadline. Cali

Shawn1066 -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 4:10:17 PM)
I will never understand why some Masters seem to have this fixation with having their submissive get another submissive. It just doesn't make any sense to me. Maybe it's some sort of kink within itself. Sometimes the cynic in me just thinks it's an ill-adviced attempt at arranging a threesome. That being said, there's a reason I leave my cynic in the shoebox under my bed. He's not very nice. :-p That being said, are you going to interact with this submissive at all? If so, then perhaps you could look for somethings you find good in a person, eh? Along with the tastes of your Master. If you're going to serve your Master seperately, then why don't you ask him what he wants?

MollyTroubletail -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 4:28:18 PM)
Sorry to add trouble to trouble, but I think you're going to have a very hard (or impossible) time trying to find a girl to do that. I don't know any sub who'd go off into a threesome by being propositioned by the sub to do it, when she is being forced to.

TreasureKY -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 4:35:42 PM)
Maybe it's just me, but if I was given the task to find a second sub for my dominant, I'd make sure she was as dull and unattractive as possible, and strongly reminded me of Alex. [;)] Oh... then I'd find a new dominant. But good luck to you! Treasure (who never said she was a good submissive) Note: The subtle humor of my comment might pass you by if you don't check the link. [:D]

CalifChick -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 4:41:10 PM)
Rabbit stew. Yum Yum. Cali

mhawk -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 5:28:23 PM)
well as a slave, even if my Lord asked me to find another slave or sub i wouldn't. that's His place to do that. as He did in the case of things here at home. His wife/my Mistress is more of a switch and submits to Him, She could not be the slave He needed.He through understanding and B/both of them wanting a slave took it upon Himself to look for one. in my opinion that is how a search for a second should be

MrKite -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 5:36:11 PM)
I would never ask a sub to find another for me. I'll do my onw looking and find someone who was compatible with my desires first. The whole idea of asking a sub to perform that task is ludicrist.

TreasureKY -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 5:55:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MrKite I would never ask a sub to find another for me. I'll do my onw looking and find someone who was compatible with my desires first. The whole idea of asking a sub to perform that task is ludicrist. Yeah... and it's ludicrous, too. [;)]

SimplySubmissive -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 5:56:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Shawn1066 I will never understand why some Masters seem to have this fixation with having their submissive get another submissive. It just doesn't make any sense to me. Maybe it's some sort of kink within itself. It keeps them busy and out of Master's hair while he looks too. online. doubles his chances!

bostoy -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 6:30:42 PM)
well, I'm not as opposed to this as everyone else seems to be. If I were tasked with this, I would find someone I liked...a lot. Because if she is going to be my SIS and share my Dom, I want to make sure I like her and we get along well. My Dom did not have me help him find my SIS however he did make sure we met before he invited them to join our family. We met two subs that I could not see sharing my Dom with. Thank God that the one who joined us is the one I did like. We are a lot alike, and have fun together both with and without him. BTW, we are not bi. toy

Bound2One -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 6:48:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dirtygirlT ok well Master has given me a task to find him a sub that is willing to start out online then move in to part time RT. i am having a hard time with this because i dont know what to look for in a sub.Have any of you had to do this and if so what did you look for in the sub. Have you had an in-depth conversation with your Master about what he wishes? I'd think while he would be certainly keeping your needs in mind if the relationship is to be poly, he would be concerned about your finding someone who meets his expectations and needs.

KatyLied -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 7:13:30 PM)
How long have you been with master? We are dying to know.

OmegaG -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 7:15:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dirtygirlT ok well Master has given me a task to find him a sub that is willing to start out online then move in to part time RT. i am having a hard time with this because i dont know what to look for in a sub.Have any of you had to do this and if so what did you look for in the sub. I've had a few men not in the lifestyle ask me to find another woman for a 3 some. All they got out of me is the most passive/agressive behaviour I've ever displayed. I grabbed the bull by the horns with Master and told him that it would be damned near impossible for me to do something like that, luckily he'd rather do it himself anyway.

AquaticSub -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 7:55:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dirtygirlT ok well Master has given me a task to find him a sub that is willing to start out online then move in to part time RT. i am having a hard time with this because i dont know what to look for in a sub.Have any of you had to do this and if so what did you look for in the sub. Ask him what he wants in a sub. Different people have completely different tastes. Or better yet: Ask him why the hell he sent you off to do this task without providing any basic instruction!

BitaTruble -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 8:53:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dirtygirlT ok well Master has given me a task to find him a sub that is willing to start out online then move in to part time RT. i am having a hard time with this because i dont know what to look for in a sub.Have any of you had to do this and if so what did you look for in the sub. Given this thread posted just a bit over 6 weeks ago, I think you and your Master are making a big mistake. Celeste

dirtygirlT -> RE: not sure (1/22/2008 9:06:35 PM)
Master and i have bine together 9 years. yes i have talked to him about this and he said he wanted to make sure i liked them to since i was sharing my Master with them. i do have another Dom that is on here.

tricia -> RE: not sure (1/23/2008 2:58:03 AM)
As someone who is ‘shared’ and has joined other couples – there is nothing worse then realizing during or afterwards that their were huge jealousy issues that hadn’t been work out beforehand. Ironically, these were submissives I had spoken with, went to lunch with and spent time with. I imagine if only the dominant half of the relationship had contacted me and I wasn’t given the opportunity to know the submissive half – this would have been much, much worse. My Owner and I don’t attend munches, play parties, or lifestyle events. So, unlike many of you, our contact with people who ‘practice’ the same way of living as us is quite limited. My profile clearly states I’m looking for a third. This is a collective effort on both our parts. But, even if it were not, I would see it as my assisting him/serving him as I do in many other ways. To the op -- I would never, ever knowingly join a couple or even think about embarking on a relationship with anyone where the submissive was ‘instructed’ to find another without it being a desire on both their parts to do so. As, AquaticSub said, he should have at least given you some basic information of what he wants. And if he didn’t and I was unsure – I would have definitely asked him before coming here. And finally, what do I look for? Well, a slightly cheaper version of myself, of course : )

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: not sure (1/23/2008 5:51:00 AM)
i had a former who was into lazy domming when he told me to find him another submissive to join his stable. since you don't what to look for in another submissive perhaps you should ask him what he was seeking when he found you. that should give you some idea. good luck - not too many submissives would be interested in being part of a lazy dominant/submissive dynamic

DesFIP -> RE: not sure (1/23/2008 6:48:18 AM)
Honestly, my response to this would be to pack my bags and give him the name of an escort service on the way out. They'd chat with him online and come by for real as long as he could pay for it. He's set you up to fail. Nobody with an IQ over 10 would agree to become a sub to some schlemiel she hadn't met and who was so afraid of rejection he made his present g/f go pimping for him. You deserve better than this.

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