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RE: Is the bottom really in charge after all? - 9/2/2005 9:40:31 PM

FLButtSlut

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It may have been poorly stated, and Hitler WAS a psychopath. You are equating "emotional investment" with love or adoration. Our emotions certainly range way beyond that. Most pyschopaths have a very stronge emotional investment in their victims. This emotion is just not always love or love as we perceive it. But it is an emotional investment none the less.

Our emotions and actions in our relationship do not wholly shape our lives. Certainly they play some part. While we may carry the love we feel and share with another always through our day, for most people it does not control them in places like their job. Society as a whole (Hitlers and Stalins and pyschopaths of the world naturally excluded) performs their job in society outside the emotions of their personal relationships. Trying to connect the emotional investment between a couple in a relationship to how the entire world functions just doesn't work. For example, a woman who is a submissive at home, completely deferring to her dominant may have a very powerful position in society. At home she is ruled by her emotional need to serve, but in her career, she maybe a powerful litigator, a very aggressive negotiator. She may be making decisions that effect hundreds of people or more. If she carried her emotional investment from home to work with her she could not be effective at her job.

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RE: Is the bottom really in charge after all? - 9/3/2005 2:26:28 AM

mastermmike

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Power is only experienced when it is exercised via actions. Inherently no individual has more power than the next, but when one acts with free will over another then I would consider them to be using the power. If a sub/slave has the right to act, then of course you are right in saying they "have" (more correctly they are using) the power.

Which brings me to another question. What about the force? well, may the force be with you. ;) I'm sorry I just had to. This started out serious enough.

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