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LadyHugs -> RE: Doms/Dommes .. Would you bottom to see what (1/27/2008 1:00:15 PM)
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Dear venusinblu, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In my travels, I have met submissives/slaves that have requested me to mentor them in the art of TOPPING. It took them to a different level and or point of view than being just an observer and or experience just from the bottom side. Taken away from their experiences, they could appreciate what knowledge, experiences and 'feelings' what a Dominant might/could go through. I do say might/could go through, as no one Dominant applys themselves identically, just as no military officer applies their leadership in an identical manner.
If I am 'reading' correctly into your postings -- I believe the question would mirror those within the military ranks. I do believe that the ability to lead, use the lives of their troops wisely, the levels of command, authority, responsibilities and tactical knowledge is gained through personal experiences, to include 'submitting' to a higher authority such as a command structure. For example for the US Military, there is West Point for Army officer canidates. They have to go through their own form of 'boot camp' which is grooming for their future appointments as junior officers. Enlisted go through various training bases and leave as to continue in service.
Junior officers from West Point, just as the Enlisted take what has been given from their instructors and from there make their own way to the best they can be, regardless if an officer, non-commissioned officer and or the soldier.
Respect, especially well documented in the Civil War; was earned by the soldiers they lead. With the high losses of those in the ranks of officers and Generals; leadership by others who were not from West Point and or a professional training ground had first served in the capacity of a soldier and, wisdom and experience transferred into their leadership style.
With belief, that knowing what goes on in the different roles be it military and or in BDSM; cannot hurt but, be of help. And, though many feel that bottoming, submission even briefly is insulting to them personally and immediately go into being a TOP; they hopefully would work very hard as to treat any and all bottoms, submissives and or slaves, with respect, dignity and valuable. I also hope that submissives also invite thoughts on TOPPING and apply their skills in Domination. I say this, as often has been the case--it gives a new appreciation of what responsibilities that come with leadership and authority roles. The old saying 'grass is greener on the other side of the fence.
A lot of slaves and submissive types have asked me, if (in general) do 'these' (in general) Dominants really understand what they ask of them (in general). I understand that some do not have a clue, especially when new --they just see the ability to give orders and someone obey.
They do not see, appreciate and or understand the foundation built by individuals in a D/s and or M/s capacity as to come to that ability to give orders and someone obey. And, as evident as we know it to be via messages to individuals on Collarme.com; there are some who have no idea that D/s and or M/s authority is linked to the title of Master, Mistress and or Dominant, is not an entitled one but; a one earned through respect by someone they wish to be in a relationship with. I do believe personally, that slaves/submissives can/will teach their Dominant many things directly, indirectly as -- communication, resource and educational avenues are easy to gain, via local support and education groups, conventions and workshops.
There are academies that have courses for Master or slave training, which gives a sense of foundation as to what these roles are in general. The rest is up to individuals on their own.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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