Termyn8or
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summer, I see nothing wrong with your profile. No turnoffs. When you do a profile here there are different sections.I would use them, put in your likes and dislikes.
You re a female lesbian, I am a male straight, maybe never the twain shall meet, but you asked a question. So I have not contacted you, you like girls, I am not a girl. What I am getting at is that the right people are not seeing it.
Another thing, at least on CM, if you fill out the "Actively Seeking" not only do you get someone up on the screen matching that, you also appear on others' screens when they log on. It is no longer random.
I am a male dominant switch, it is not all that easy to find someone for me. I have been contacted by a few, not that it went anywhere, but contacted. I have only contacted one or two due to seeing them on my screen. What made me do that was not looks or other things, it was that their interests seemed to match mine. At least to some degree.
A profile is like "You at a glance", you need to put more specifics in it. I know mine needs some work, but what I am seeking is not easy to get. I would rather those who contact me have some initial atttraction, not just be looking for a roll in the hay and a free dinner.
And there are others who constantly get barraged by mails. Half the time this is based on looks. Sometimes I sign on to CM with friends in the room. They will say "Oh, that ones a hottie" and I will reply "Yup, lessee here, she wants to chain you up and cut you to pieces with a chainsaw". Joking of course, but from over there they can't read the details. The other side of the coin.
You have to be yourself, if you hate dildoes, say so. If you hat diapers, say so, if you hate dilation, say so. But those dislikes are not as important as the likes. You are a lesbian, but that does not mean you spend all day in bed. It does not mean anything, except of course that I probably ain't getting any.
But what do you LIKE ? Surely you have interests, and kinks. Fill it out. And really to say "I'll do anything except....." doesn't cut it.
I think you'll find that alot of people have already been through a bad relationship or two, and are getting picky. Do you blame them ? Hell a bad re,ationship is worse than none at all. And they all end bad, that is a fact of life. If they do not end bad the do not usually end. I had one that ended good, but all in all that was still bad. She had to move away, there was no argument, but there was not much of a commitment.
But the thing is, IMO, anybody any good needs to know more before contacting people. There is more to it than sex. One partner out golfing while the other plays guitar does not make for tight soulmates, and that is what it is getting to.
Speaking from a Man's point of view here, I have no interest in a ditzy bimbo. I don't care how good looking you are, I would prefer a butt ugly fatass with a brain, and maturity. (not too much maturity now) Someone who likes at least some of the things I like. If we have enough in common, the rest can be worked out.
And that, I think is where alot of CM members are. I, for one, am not looking for a quick romp. There has to be something more. Almost everyone has a penis or vagina, so we already know that much. You just don't really say much more.
I dunno about you, but like out on the street, I do not even look anymore. I need someone with common kinks, desires and preferences. That narrows it down quite a bit, so out of who's left is where I would find anyone.
Which reminds me I have to go edit my journal and profile, perhaps you should do the same.
T
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