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greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/25/2008 10:32:06 PM   
evanenne


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Status: offline 		lets say you've been chatting with a Lady for a small amount of time and She decides it's time to met for the first time....coffee in a public place.  my question is would it be considered too presumpuous to greet Her with a respectful peck on the cheek, or would this be frouned upon making the sub seem a little too argogant.
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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/25/2008 10:34:58 PM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		Ask her how she prefers to be greeted. can't hurt

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/25/2008 10:49:20 PM   
ProlificNeeds


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Status: offline 		Ask, when in doubt, treat her as you would any stranger you just met for the first time.

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/25/2008 11:21:57 PM   
KnOcala


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Status: offline 		I would likewise greet her like a new friend.  Hi, I'm ------ and i am so glad to meet you. 
or
I'm so glad you actually showed up and didn't decide to be a no show - no wait, don't say that, sarcasm, just think it

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/26/2008 4:26:00 AM   
MsCfromMelbourne


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quote:

ORIGINAL: evanenne

would it be considered too presumpuous to greet Her with a respectful peck on the cheek, or would this be frowned upon making the sub seem a little too argogant.



Follow her lead.

She holds out her hand - you shake it

She leans in for a kiss on the cheek - you kiss it

She holds her hand out palm down - you pick it up and kiss the back of it

She smiles with her hands by her sides - you smile, DON'T TOUCH HER and watch to see what she wants you to do next.  Sit down?  Take her bags?  Pull out her chair?

I had a blind date once with a guy who insisted on grabbing my hands.  It was horrible. And he kissed me hello and goodbye. He was Italian

Being German, I bloody hated it and never called him back.  I am not tactile at the best of times and never with strangers.  I prefer people not to touch me.

But another Mistress might love the whole kissy kissy thing and think you are a cold fish if you don't kiss her hello.

So take your cues from the Mistress.  Follow her lead.




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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/26/2008 7:30:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would say DO NOT kiss her unless she makes that move first.  I would DIE if someone I just met tried to kiss Me, that would be the end of the meeting, within minutes.

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/26/2008 9:13:41 AM   
rubberpet


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Status: offline 		Bring her a nice, big tribute because that's what most dommes want! 

Seriously, ask her ahead of time about what she feels is proper greeting protocol and follow her lead.  The advice the ladies have given here is the best you are going to receive.  Everything they've said is true to the letter.  Good luck with your new lady!

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/26/2008 9:21:14 AM   
MissHarlet


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Status: offline 		Nice Big Tribute ???? Only if she is a financial Domme !!!!! I would be horrified if anyone did that ... However, I have been impressed by someone bringing me flowers or a flower .. but not for gawds sake NOT a single red rose .. .. or if we have talked long enough for them to know I love to read,  for them to bring me a bookmark that is pretty ....... but NOTHING expensive ... As for greeting her .. follow her lead .. or ask her before hand .. dont assume ......

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/26/2008 2:57:16 PM   
PairOfDimes


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Status: offline 		I would not like that level of physical affection, and I would find it presumptuous, especially at a first meeting. Your new friend may be different from me, of course. I prefer handshakes. If you don't know what she looks like, it can be good to say, "Hello, I'm Evanenne. Are you [her name]?" Then you can make sure you have the right woman--you really, really don't want to surprise someone who isn't your 'date.'

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/26/2008 4:07:35 PM   
Najakcharmer


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Status: offline 		If a total stranger kissed me on a first meeting, I'd be completely freaked out to the point of terminating the meeting and leaving.  I understand that some people come from cultures where cheek-kissing is a normal, nonsexual greeting even between men, but that's not my culture and I would be extremely uncomfortable.

The only way someone would maybe get a pass on that kind of behavior is if they literally had just emigrated from a foreign country where that was the custom, and even then I'd explain that it doesn't go over well in America to just haul off and kiss strange women. 

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/26/2008 4:09:31 PM   
MzStripes


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Status: offline 		I've always been more comfortable with Ma'am but then again I was raised in the South. Polite manners are expected just as they would be in a vanilla setting. When the meeting is over - allow the Dom/me to take the lead if there should be a handshake, hug or kiss. Pay attention to the Domme. Listen attentively. The rest should fall in place.

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/27/2008 12:32:35 AM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		All good advice here. I'm a bit of a huggy and kissy type ... I usually tell the sub what is acceptable before the meeting. My usual advice is that a kiss (not a slobber!) on the back of My hand will be well received on greeting ... and if W/we seem to connect well, a shy request to kiss Me on the cheek when parting may well receive an affirmative! And if I want a hug I'll take one LOL!
Good luck!
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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/27/2008 7:46:47 AM   
LaTigresse


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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/27/2008 8:11:06 AM   
chiaThePet


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Status: offline 		Well, once the preliminary ass-kissing has subsided, a peck on the cheek does
seem in order, followed by the required, "So, come here often?"

chia* (the pet)

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/27/2008 1:02:47 PM   
rubberpet


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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

Well, once the preliminary ass-kissing has subsided, a peck on the cheek does
seem in order, followed by the required, "So, come here often?"

chia* (the pet)


Not a lot of second meetings with that line, huh, chia?  LOL

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/27/2008 8:00:45 PM   
chiaThePet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: rubberpet

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

Well, once the preliminary ass-kissing has subsided, a peck on the cheek does
seem in order, followed by the required, "So, come here often?"

chia* (the pet)


Not a lot of second meetings with that line, huh, chia?  LOL


People have second meetings?

Son of a switch!

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/27/2008 9:25:58 PM   
LadyLolly


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Status: offline 		Oh yeah, that tounge massaging my naval from the inside followed by a swat on my ass will definately get a second meet - once hell freezes over...

Follow her lead guy, after all, that's exactly why you're meeting in the first place now isn't it? 

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/27/2008 9:29:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Having met the OP, I'd suggest not turning up over an hour late because you got lost, not going on and on about your CB3000 and not telling her about all the things that you DON'T want to do.

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/27/2008 9:35:46 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Id say a kiss on the cheek is overkill for the greeting. See how the meeting goes and see if it is appropriate as a farewell, but I know myself something like that would be seen as a major invasion. If you really arent sure, I'd say ask her how she prefers to be greeted, if not play it safe and stick to a handshake or no touching at all.

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/27/2008 9:35:50 PM   
chiaThePet


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Status: offline 		Brrrrrrr, it's cold in here.

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