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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/28/2008 10:31:20 AM   
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There's a very simple solution to this. If the person giving you oral sex isnt so great, just teach them to do things exactly the way you want them. This next comment will probably get me a lot of bashing, but I'll just be honest. I have never enjoyed sucking dick.......EVER. But, when I got with Bam, I wanted very much to please Him, so I decided to learn to enjoy it. At first, He said I had NO clue how to do it (LOL), but now, He says I give the best head in the damn world. Practice makes perfect, so just do it that way.

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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/28/2008 1:16:23 PM   
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My oral sex forays are pretty humerous, looking back. I love to suck cock. And to keep me from sounding like a slut, I just mean my master's. He is the only person I've gotten physical with ever, so it was sort of funny watching me get used to all of that oral stuff that guys love. Luckily for me, I had never given a blow job and he had never recieved one. He was not a virgin, his old girlfriend just would not do that for him (what a bitch!) His lack of experience is probably what makes him feel like I'm really good at it, but I like to think I am just blessed with a naturally wicked tongue.

Anyway, for the longest darn time, I couldn't get him off with my mouth at all. He was dejected, and I was dejected, we were just a pile of unsated party-poopers. I tried everything I could think of, and nothing seemed to really do it for him. But one day, it finally struck me. I was trying to do too many things at once and I never really managed to suck him in too hard, I just could never get the right seal for good suction. Mostly I was deep throating as much of him as I could take, and it just was not enough. So finally, I decided to give it my all and really see if I could do something to get him really going. I had sucked him off for over two hours before to no results, so I wasn't expecting much. Now I know what to do though, and this is my surefire formula to get my master to come in my mouth.

I like to start off nice and slow, sucking lightly and running my tongue over him as I work the base. It helps if he's already really hard, and if not this always makes sure he is. I try and pick it up a little more, I can only suck about six inches of him into my mouth, which considering I am tiny and he is rather well endowed is pretty good. A few minutes of good deep throating sets the stage for the main act. I can take about four inches into my mouth and just suck really hard, the ridge of his penis (he is circumcized) lets me form a tight seal around him with my tongue and the roof of my mouth. I can't take it all when I do this, so I use my hand to jerk him off while I am sucking. I also use my tongue to rub him, to make sure he really is feeling good. I know I am doing it right when he starts to moan and claw at me. I still have scratches from the last time. After a few minutes, doing this desensitizes him a little bit, so I go back to deep throating. I alternate deep throating and my super suction for a while, and it really seems to work as he cannot form actual words. But there's a point where he is close to coming and I don't have to alternate anymore. Mostly then I just hold onto his legs as he fucks my mouth. I don't ever let go until after he has come and has told me that he's got nothing left.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is how I do it. Sorry if it was a bit graphic...


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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/28/2008 2:19:25 PM   
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i am all for full body licking and worship for my Sir.  in all my years with my ex, i never licked any part of him except his penis.  thats all the jerkass wanted (now i dont have to worry about it...lol) as he was one of those in a hurry to get to the finish line in a race where he was the only one with a car...LOL.  sorry, bad analogy.. 

now i get to take my time and for the first time, i got to lick Someone's whole body, front to back!  oh my good gracious almighty!!!  i am a firm believer that the spot behind the balls is a "pleasure patch" that must be attended to for an excellent evening (morning....afternoon) of oral sex!!  And i cannot see why any man in his right mind would not want his prostate rubbed during oral sex if that is the reaction that Yyou can achieve!!  thank goodness i never had to give any of this good stuff to the ex jerkass!! 

i have found that if you close your lips tight, and just give short tugs back and forth right below the head, Tthey wont ejaculate...but there will be alot of wanting to real bad!

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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/28/2008 3:02:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: PrincessEllie

My oral sex forays are pretty humerous, looking back. I love to suck cock. And to keep me from sounding like a slut, I just mean my master's. He is the only person I've gotten physical with ever, so it was sort of funny watching me get used to all of that oral stuff that guys love. Luckily for me, I had never given a blow job and he had never recieved one. He was not a virgin, his old girlfriend just would not do that for him (what a bitch!) His lack of experience is probably what makes him feel like I'm really good at it, but I like to think I am just blessed with a naturally wicked tongue.

Anyway, for the longest darn time, I couldn't get him off with my mouth at all. He was dejected, and I was dejected, we were just a pile of unsated party-poopers. I tried everything I could think of, and nothing seemed to really do it for him. But one day, it finally struck me. I was trying to do too many things at once and I never really managed to suck him in too hard, I just could never get the right seal for good suction. Mostly I was deep throating as much of him as I could take, and it just was not enough. So finally, I decided to give it my all and really see if I could do something to get him really going. I had sucked him off for over two hours before to no results, so I wasn't expecting much. Now I know what to do though, and this is my surefire formula to get my master to come in my mouth.

I like to start off nice and slow, sucking lightly and running my tongue over him as I work the base. It helps if he's already really hard, and if not this always makes sure he is. I try and pick it up a little more, I can only suck about six inches of him into my mouth, which considering I am tiny and he is rather well endowed is pretty good. A few minutes of good deep throating sets the stage for the main act. I can take about four inches into my mouth and just suck really hard, the ridge of his penis (he is circumcized) lets me form a tight seal around him with my tongue and the roof of my mouth. I can't take it all when I do this, so I use my hand to jerk him off while I am sucking. I also use my tongue to rub him, to make sure he really is feeling good. I know I am doing it right when he starts to moan and claw at me. I still have scratches from the last time. After a few minutes, doing this desensitizes him a little bit, so I go back to deep throating. I alternate deep throating and my super suction for a while, and it really seems to work as he cannot form actual words. But there's a point where he is close to coming and I don't have to alternate anymore. Mostly then I just hold onto his legs as he fucks my mouth. I don't ever let go until after he has come and has told me that he's got nothing left.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is how I do it. Sorry if it was a bit graphic...



Wow, 2 hours? That sounds like alot of work.

I just give them the secret butterflysexyred1tongueflickerpornopowersucklick move and it is ALL over for them in a nanosecond.


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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/28/2008 4:18:42 PM   
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Good Lord you guys!  Now I'm feeling all inadequate and stuff over here.  Between flickinglickingpornpops and the deepthroatfuckyspits....sheesh!  But at least I got the prostaterubbyballtickles down pat.  My favourite trick is to just surprise him with a mouthful of warm water and hold there gently sucking, feeling the growthjumpyswellythingies going on.  But yeah....2 hours?!?  Either one or the other ain't doin' somethin' right.  I like the nanosecond part, easier on the jaws and my lips don't go numb.

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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/28/2008 4:23:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littlebitxxx

Good Lord you guys!  Now I'm feeling all inadequate and stuff over here.  Between flickinglickingpornpops and the deepthroatfuckyspits....sheesh!  But at least I got the prostaterubbyballtickles down pat.  My favourite trick is to just surprise him with a mouthful of warm water and hold there gently sucking, feeling the growthjumpyswellythingies going on.  But yeah....2 hours?!?  Either one or the other ain't doin' somethin' right.  I like the nanosecond part, easier on the jaws and my lips don't go numb.


oh! the growthjumpyswellythingies is my favorite part of the whole thing!!!!

I never had a green thumb and all my plants died, but boy I could sure make ONE thing grow whenever I wanted to....

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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/28/2008 4:31:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littlebitxxx

But yeah....2 hours?!?  Either one or the other ain't doin' somethin' right.

It was my second time trying and I wasn't so good yet. But that was only once, now we keep it under half an hour. I don't ever wanna go that long again, my throat hurt so bad later.


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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/28/2008 6:27:26 PM   
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Holy hell!  2 hours?  I would have had lock jaw.     All I can say is wow!  

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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/28/2008 6:32:42 PM   
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I'm dedicated to my cause, what can I say? It might have helped that I'm head over heels for the guy and I don't care if I get lock jaw (though he probably does...)

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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/28/2008 6:36:53 PM   
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lockjaw while you are going down on him really would have sucked... no pun intended....

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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/28/2008 6:53:34 PM   
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Don't forget this post by Bearlee: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1249463/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#

Edited for typo. 

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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/28/2008 7:03:54 PM   
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Who could ever forget that post by Bearlee....I don't think there was a dry eye....er....pussy in the house after that one.

PrincessEllie:  Dedication?  Dedication?!?  That deserves a freakin sainthood!


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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/31/2008 10:01:39 AM   
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my problem is my teeth!!  i have these beautiful, shiney white teeth and they are a pain in the lip!!  tucking my lips around them to save him the pain is making me wake up with a swollen and slightly painful lip in the morning.  The bad part is, He's smiling this morning and saying how sexy my lips look!!.....LOL.

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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/31/2008 10:03:02 AM   
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a good beeswaxing if you can, and got time, but I prolly would agree with him.

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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/31/2008 10:24:05 AM   
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I'm a tongue flicker.  I love to tease and tantalize with just the tip of My tongue.  That's before and during him being in My mouth.  I use it very much the same way I do My fingertips to sensitize the skin.  I always want to heighten the sensitivity before going full in.  Btw, this method helps for those who don't particularly care for the activity, because after a good, proper teasing, they don't last long.  A mere few minutes, if done right. 

Oh, and for those who say Dommes don't give blow jobs, I'd like to say this.  One, I'm the Domme, and if I relish it, I'm going to do it.  Two, there is a huge power trip with a male shuddering with his orgasm, becoming putty in My hand (mouth), and I'm siting there with a huge grin.

Anybody care to guess why My boy is so devoted to Me?


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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/31/2008 11:37:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Phin
I tease the insides of her thighs with my tongue, lips, teeth, hands. My mouth moves up to the pussy, at first concentrating on the lips, nibbling licking, eventually my tongue finds the clit where it will stay close too for quite a while. I go between licking, and biting, based on reaction. I use 1-3 fingers to massage the G-spot, depending on the person. My free hand will explore the body to find places that bring better reactions.


After having cu--come back and thoroughly read this, oh, around 30 or 50 times, I would say that you are ~cough~ spot on...

(anyone have a wet nap?)

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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/31/2008 3:56:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlebitxxx

Aw, c'mon rubberpet....give!  You're just mean not to share.  ;)


Well, I guess I could give you a little info...

It involves a gallon of Crisco, a goat, a duck, two whoopie cushions, a pet rock, a rolled up newspaper, and a stick of gum!  LOL


Yer walkin' a thin line with the TOS here....

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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/31/2008 5:10:36 PM   
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*fans herself*

Well I am just going to post here what I had on another thread about oral.. because of course the technique has not changed. *smiles*

I find that many people do a poor job at it because they do not truely like what they are doing and often rushing through it. Why do it at all if you do not enjoy it?

I think the line in Dangerous Beauty says it all when she is teaching her daugther to be a courtesan.

Use your fingers lightly...like feathers.               
Your tongue, like licking sweets.
Your teeth, with restraint.
Just enough...to keep him wanting more.  It's wanting that keeps us alive.

Most go directly for the head ( or glands) of the penis.. I leave that for very last. Licking and sucking all else for what seems to them to be an eternity. Many times looking as if I will take the whole thing in my mouth but swiftly moving my head to the side with a sly wink and an evil chuckle.. it is the wanting and waiting that undoes them as much as the skill.
The sides of the shaft are almost nearly forgoten to most.. but if you swirl your tounge down the shaft as you move your mouth sealed apon it.. it gives a great amount of pleasure. I also have learned to purr like a cat... even in mid feliacio. That usualy sends them over the brink. I find that most have one spot or two that is most sensitive.. either the rim of the glands or the opening of the urethra it's self.. You have to explore as each person is different just as women are different. I adore to tease and torment personaly... but then that is my controling Domme side. I take my pleasure in controling how they recive thiers. I do not see giving a sub oral as a submissive posture at all... at least not how I do it...

as for women..... ( isnt being bi a lovely thing?)

I adore stroking a womans thighs and hips with my hands.. and trailing my hair across her tummy and legs... kissing from the ankles up the legs to the knees.. along the thighs.. hands circling thier body stroking... parting thier legs and looking into her eyes smiling wickedly... nibling and biting gently on the thighs and hips..pressing my breasts against her warmth.
licking where the thighs join, swirling closer and closer.. missing the clit always... lapping up everything... then finaly when she is wiggling and nice and ready circling the clit and giving it the occasional flick... finger fucking her at the same time as I am licking her.. and when she is really close.. ( depending on the woman) sucking her clit into my mouth and flicking and sucking while fingering her, and holding on to her hip with the one free hand. I usualy end up climaxing when she does.. so both of us end up colasping in a tangle.

Gwyn

it's been a really difficult week so can i just say ditto Gwyn please to both........
especially isn't being bi just so amazing.......


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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/31/2008 6:48:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Gwynvyd

*fans herself*

Well I am just going to post here what I had on another thread about oral.. because of course the technique has not changed. *smiles*

I find that many people do a poor job at it because they do not truely like what they are doing and often rushing through it. Why do it at all if you do not enjoy it?

I think the line in Dangerous Beauty says it all when she is teaching her daugther to be a courtesan.

Use your fingers lightly...like feathers.               
Your tongue, like licking sweets.
Your teeth, with restraint.
Just enough...to keep him wanting more.  It's wanting that keeps us alive.

Most go directly for the head ( or glands) of the penis.. I leave that for very last. Licking and sucking all else for what seems to them to be an eternity. Many times looking as if I will take the whole thing in my mouth but swiftly moving my head to the side with a sly wink and an evil chuckle.. it is the wanting and waiting that undoes them as much as the skill.
The sides of the shaft are almost nearly forgoten to most.. but if you swirl your tounge down the shaft as you move your mouth sealed apon it.. it gives a great amount of pleasure. I also have learned to purr like a cat... even in mid feliacio. That usualy sends them over the brink. I find that most have one spot or two that is most sensitive.. either the rim of the glands or the opening of the urethra it's self.. You have to explore as each person is different just as women are different. I adore to tease and torment personaly... but then that is my controling Domme side. I take my pleasure in controling how they recive thiers. I do not see giving a sub oral as a submissive posture at all... at least not how I do it...

as for women..... ( isnt being bi a lovely thing?)

I adore stroking a womans thighs and hips with my hands.. and trailing my hair across her tummy and legs... kissing from the ankles up the legs to the knees.. along the thighs.. hands circling thier body stroking... parting thier legs and looking into her eyes smiling wickedly... nibling and biting gently on the thighs and hips..pressing my breasts against her warmth.
licking where the thighs join, swirling closer and closer.. missing the clit always... lapping up everything... then finaly when she is wiggling and nice and ready circling the clit and giving it the occasional flick... finger fucking her at the same time as I am licking her.. and when she is really close.. ( depending on the woman) sucking her clit into my mouth and flicking and sucking while fingering her, and holding on to her hip with the one free hand. I usualy end up climaxing when she does.. so both of us end up colasping in a tangle.

Gwyn


*claps*  wonderful. 
I've always said that a good blowjob should last for more than 20 minutes... but hey, its easy for me - I've got an oral fixation and I'm a control freak.. taking them to the brink and then stopping . over and over again.. sounds like fun to me. 
But the one thing I've noticed is that there is no "perfect" blow job.  Each of them is so different and the technique needs to change to fit the sensitivity.  Whats worse is my last two, one was over sensitive and one had diminished sensitivity... *grumbles*

As far as the whole female thing..- That's exactly how I think it should be done.... (who says only the men get teased?) 

Lady Jag

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RE: Best way to give/administer oral sex (for everybody) - 1/31/2008 9:18:58 PM   
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Sorry to be so bookish about the topic, but Mistress is always delighted to see me reading Voilet Blue's book The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus. I found out about this book from listening to her postcast Female Anatomy for Pleasure.

I can safely report one of the suggestions provides a wonderful way to start a session: the ice cream cone lick. With my tongue flat, lick her from bottom to top like one would like a melting ice cream cone. Real slow, you dig? Repeating this gets all the other thoughts out of her mind and lets her know the fun is just getting started. This is also a good move to return to as a intermezzo between more directed applications of the tongue. What sort of directed applications? Funny you should ask. One that has been a recent hit is to "tickle" with the tongue on the side of the clit hood. What sold me on Voilet Blue's book was she wrote that many woman have a preference as to which side is better for this technique. And sure enough, my Mistress let me know that when I lick on the right side of the clit hood, it drives her mad. The left, not so much. I would never have imagined to even ask.

If nothing else, the one thing I learned myself was when you find something that makes your woman moan, stay with it. I think us guys are just sensation crazy. Just as long as your doing something, we're happy. But once I find a sweet spot, I stay with it for awhile. I let the particular sensation build. Not obvious at first, but I take my time.

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