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RE: Vanilla friends who fancy themselves kinky but don'... - 1/29/2008 8:30:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

I was involved in a game of "Who is kinky?" a game a friend of mine made up and we played at a dinner party at their house.Basically they went around the room asking whats the kiniest thing you've ever done. I listened with a sort of a smile on my face I heard lots of I tie him/her up, I bite them, I spank them etc..When I got to my turn I stated it pretty matter of factly..I dress him up like a whore, tie him to the bed and force him to suck my 8 inch strap on and then I give it to him up the ass. The room went quiet and I heard one of the husbands say in a rather breathless excited tone "Oh damnnnnn"

~Lashra

ROFLMAO!! That shut `em up!!

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RE: Vanilla friends who fancy themselves kinky but don'... - 1/29/2008 8:39:47 AM

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REminds me of a recent conversation I had with an ex and close friend. "Rob" has always know what I was into, since he and I lived in NY together. We dated briefly and figured friends was better since we both had very dominant personalities. He, however, was very very vanilla.
Recently, he was telling me that he is getting into 'the stuff you liked, you know' He spanked his girlfriend, ans she seemed to like it. He held her down by the back of the neck while they had sex, and then he even ordered her not to go clean up afterwards until he was ready to get up!
I resisted the urge to "awww, thats cute" at him. His next comment nearly made me spit my coffee though. 'I see what you get out of this, but it was a little aggressive for me. Maybe I'll try it your way next time.'
"My way? Im a sadist!"
"Your a what?"
"A Sadist. I whip Fox, I tie him to the bed, I do things to him you could never even consider doing to your girlfriend. What part of my way were you thinking?"
HE looked sheepishly at me and replied "The fuzzy cuffs I got you as a going away gift..."

Its the thought that counts, I suppose.
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RE: Vanilla friends who fancy themselves kinky but don'... - 1/29/2008 8:48:01 AM

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Well considering my family knows of my lifestyle choices and while they don't approve they accept and just ask it be kept out of their perview so those discussions never come up. I do know my kid sister has apparently gotten into the kink arena but lucky she and I live in different states and again just not a topic that's broached.

Most of our friends have also usually been more kink that 'nilla which makes it easy. Although I'd be curious how a game of "who's kinkier" would end up with some of the 'nillas I do speak with would turn out.. I suspect a few drop'd jaws if they only knew.

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RE: Vanilla friends who fancy themselves kinky but don'... - 1/29/2008 8:55:03 AM

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ORIGINAL: junecleaver

The few vanilla friends I have who know about my kinks really only understand the physical aspect. They get why it's hot when he holds me down and roughs me up. They can't seem to wrap their mind around my boyfriend bossing me around though. I don't think they understand how important the mental dynamic is to me because they are prone to poke fun at it. But I'm glad they are open minded to the sex part at least.

Yup! I lost two close friends who could handle the concept of me being bound and whipped, etc.... but the idea of me submitting to Him and deferring to His authority was too much. I got tired of their comments and armchair psych analysis of me.

As to the other, I work mostly with men and last year I worked a job with a new guy who flirted constantly with me, even though I told him I was involved and not interested. One day he says to me, "you're kinky aren't you?" My eyebrow went up and I just looked at him and said, "what do mean by kinky?" He gets this 'knowing' look on his face and says, "you use a vibrator and some of those flavored oils and stuff, don't you!"

I just smiled and said, "you got me!" After that, he would give me that 'we share a secret' look when he passed by.

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RE: Vanilla friends who fancy themselves kinky but don'... - 1/30/2008 2:09:06 AM

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My relationships don't start out vanilla. We start out with clearly defined roles, we go into it as he's the dom I am the sub to him who switches to others. course there's a learning curve and everything and we get to know each other but the relationship type is in place from the start.

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There's nothing wrong with being a little vanilla actually shouldn't BDSM involvements start out somewhat vanilla leading in to the lifestyle after you trust each other and learn limits and such.

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