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Araven -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/12/2008 2:21:22 AM)

Until the very day that I pass from this realm and onto the next, I will be her boy and she my Mistress. I always joked around with her that if I somehow had lost my arms and legs, and was wheelchair bound I would offer her my neck to bite and body to torment.

I have a feeling we will be in this lifestyle even far past our senior years, and I look foward to growing old with my Mistress. She gets excited about the idea of crows feet on me :)



brightspot -> RE: Disabilities (2/12/2008 9:11:05 AM)

I prefer a Domina my age or slightly older.
 
When I am devoted to someone, I am devoted
in every sense of the word, regardless of extenuating
circumstance.
 
Missy.



WalterRego -> RE: Disabilities (2/12/2008 10:56:27 AM)

My mother recently went to an assisted living situation and so I’ve had a lot of unexpected exposure to Older Ladies in this situation. The real problem for many of You Dommes, Mistresses and Ladies who have male subs is that we will likely be the ones to decline or go first. There are comparatively few men in assisted living compared to women. So a more realistic question is what You will do with us when we are no longer able to serve as well as we were before. Will You find younger men to take care of You?

Right now I’m just trying to keep myself in the best health and condition I possibly can so that I will be able to keep on doing this and serving as long as possible. I’m 59 now and thank god, I’m still fit to be tied. Literally. And not just tied, but still able to get down on and then up off my knees, get flogged and.....whoo hoo... can still get it up. Sadly I find that I am more fit and trim than most of the Dominant Women my age, but I still choose to remain with and serve women closer to my age. I fully expect before long to find myself

Affixing handy whip and flogger hooks to the side of a walker. And perhaps studded leather grips?

Assisting a Lady in and out of the car and acting as Her chauffeur;

Walking two steps behind a Mistress pushing Her wheelchair;

Running errands for Her and cooking for Her. Reading to Her;

Keeping track of and laying out her meds and making sure I am there to offer them to Her at the prescribed times of day (with Her favorite beverage);

Massaging Her feet for circulation as well as pleasure;

Sliding her feet into opaque elastic hose and as lovingly helping put on and lace up Her orthopedic shoes as I used to help with stiletto boots;

Taking Her cane shopping as often as whip and flogger shopping;

Finding new bondage uses for furniture with guard rails.

And frankly, I don't think I will be any less eager than I am now.



LadyHugs -> RE: Disabilities (2/12/2008 1:40:05 PM)

Dear LadyHathor, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Really depends on the bonds of the Dominant and slave/submissive.  I've seen some cases where one left the other when they were not so active, able and or attractive.  Yet, I've seen the total opposite.  It really depends on the individuals and their intentions.
 
I have arthritis and I know its slowly imprisoning me.  I took it upon myself a long while back to learn how to do what I do standing, from a sitting position. I found that there were few guides in the BDSM world that addresses those with disabilities and or imparements. We (in general) can suffer temporary disabilities, from accidents, injuries and or medical surgery/procedures.  So, it wouldn't be a bad idea as to form some techniques from the chair, the various other positions.
 
I haven't a slave at the moment.  I'm busy being care giver/care taker of an elderly relative.  I just hope someone would like me to be their Master/Mistress--even though I have seen better days. I just won't grow moss by waiting for that slave to come along when I am available. [Smiles]
 
Just some thoughts.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs



MissSCD -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/13/2008 7:40:18 AM)

I am partially-disabled.  It is just a matter of time before I become disabled with my hearing impairment.  It keeps getting worse.
I don't want sympathy or hand outs, but I want respect because before I got sick, I was a very active woman in the community and made a deceant salary.
Fortunately, my slave is understanding.   He has been with me for three years. 
What it comes down to is this:  love is never ending.   As long as I have him, I  will continue in the lifestyle.
I have no interest in pursing anyone else.
I hope that makes sence.
 
Regards, MissSCD



BossySSBBW -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/13/2008 11:55:03 AM)

My experience is, I was diagnosed with severe osteo-arthritis at age 20 in both knees.  Doctor said I would be in a wheelchair by 30.  I suppose I have a hard head and a high pain threshold since I didn't sit down until I was 47.  Having been in my chair now 4 years has made me no less bossy or micro-managing.  I still wonder why someone wants to experience pain since I have for 30 years now, but I also know that BDSM pain is a different kind of pain.
I am a 51yo, very fat woman who still bosses people around in my home, tells them their left....looks then has to say your other left you idiot....lol.  [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m26.gif[/image]

The people who approach me know all because leaving out facts in my profile just gets me more unacceptable offers.  Some people like the fact that someone in a wheelchair is bossing them around.  Needless to say I like those people...[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m11.gif[/image]



LaMistressa -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/13/2008 10:21:30 PM)

These are all great replies -- living with a disability can happen at any age, and it doesn't mean you can't be active in society (including bdsm.) One of the coolest Dommes I know in this area has a disability and uses a cane, and she has lots of eager subby boys falling at her feet.

My interests won't stop just because my abilities change.



chezzy52 -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/14/2008 4:34:10 AM)

As one who has a disability and from the submissive side of things,there is truly nothing i can't do within reason for my Mistress.An example would be having me kneel for a time whether i am bound or not.I am carrying some extra weight which doesn't help but i am focused on fixing that.The bottom line is i can clean,cook,do laundry,perform minor repairs and even do some yard work.I think it is important that i as a submissive be totally honest with my Domme.I believe in my heart whether a woman is dominant or not that every single one of Y/you relish honesty and integrity above all else.Once the parameters are discussed and perhaps viable options are put forth to help with service there is no reason why a Domme and Her submissive cannot be a team and work together for their common good and goals.I know that wasn't quite the question asked but i wanted to share my feelings regarding disability.As for growing old..well i am loving it even with the aches and pains.A certain spiritualism overcomes you and you are at peace with the world..at least that is how i feel.The only thing missing of course is myself serving a wonderful Domme.



LadyHathor -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/14/2008 4:59:56 AM)

Yes, Dear chezzy, I too feel a kind of peace, not a slowing down, but a new energy, one from wisdom, experience and a clearly defined sense of Moi---
 
Sometimes though not near, serving in the heart is the greatest one can do.



liks2plzlf -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/14/2008 9:39:51 AM)

I think it is worse for subs since we are expected to make the dominants life easier, and more enjoyable. If we suddenly have a disability that makes us less useful, for me it would be depressing to say the least. So far I can't stay on my knees as long or get as low as I used to and like to



BlackPhx -> RE: Disabilities (2/14/2008 11:07:18 AM)

Hello; my name is poenkitten and I am not only a slave I am a sado-masochist. Master is 15 years younger than I. So far he has absolutely no intention of giving me up when I am wheelchair bound ( a distinct possiblity given health issues) nor am I about to give up tormenting any slave we find/own together. I am 55 years young currently and the years are passing. While I am not as spry as I was at 25, I have learned a great deal through the years that can sustain BDSM until I am in my 90's. My grandmother lived to be 105 and was still the ironhanded ruler and matriarch of our family. I see no reason for that to change for any Domina since it is force of personality, wisdom and skill that matters most, not how well you can swing a whip. One professional Dominatrix I knew was 55 when I lost contact with her. She was still going strong, had subs, clients and a slave who danced to her tune happily at that time. The woman in this video looks an awful lot like she would now http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NO8jr2qJ_dU&feature=related and reminds me a great deal of her.

So, if that leather corset does double duty to hold me upright in my chair and the heels are changed for orthopedic Doc Martens..I will still be with my Master and with my slave. Age is relative, and 85 doesn't look so old to a 65 year old Sub.

poenkitten aka Mistress Cat 



BlackPhx -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/14/2008 11:10:09 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BossySSBBW

The people who approach me know all because leaving out facts in my profile just gets me more unacceptable offers.  Some people like the fact that someone in a wheelchair is bossing them around.  Needless to say I like those people...[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m11.gif[/image]


I have to make note..once in wheelchair make sure sub is strong enough to pull it [:D] care to go for chariot races then?

poenkitten



MsBearlee -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/14/2008 3:14:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: liks2plzlf

I think it is worse for subs since we are expected to make the dominants life easier, and more enjoyable. If we suddenly have a disability that makes us less useful, for me it would be depressing to say the least. So far I can't stay on my knees as long or get as low as I used to and like to 


Perhaps you can come to love your Lady telling you to "Go get your pillow and sit at my feet".  I love the feeling of someone leaning against me, my hand in his hair; perhaps with one of my feet in his lap...while he gives it lots of attention, as we watch a movie together.  Perhaps 'quiet time' needn't be all about kneeling.
 
MsB



liks2plzlf -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/14/2008 5:40:50 PM)

That would be great Miss B, I just like the idea of kneeling better. More humbling I guess. Of course it is what the Domina desires.



MsBearlee -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/14/2008 6:08:36 PM)

My point was, liks2plz...is that there are ways around disabilities.  Perhaps I do like one who kneels for me...but as we age, it might be smart to let him sit on a pillow at my feet.  He might want to kneel, and I might prefer it, too…but if he cannot...then what?  Rather than quit or let a D/s relationship fade away...why not figure out ways to compensate?
 
What we want, dream and fantasize about is not always what we get, now is it?
 
MsB



liks2plzlf -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/15/2008 9:22:12 AM)

I agree with you on that. I will have to make adjustments, and hopefully it will be with someone who understands, like yourself. Its just that there is something extremely appealing about being on my knees before someone. I love the idea of serving you a hot drink on my knees much better that just handing it to you standing. Just relish the idea of men kneeling before women.



mhawk -> RE: Disabilities (2/15/2008 11:26:05 AM)

for myself as a slave. for my Mistress as She already knows, despite what happens with Her health in later years i will still be here for Her no matter what. we are in this for the long haul and an illness wouldn't drive either of us away. as She also knows i would do the same for our Lord in addition should something like death happen to either of them at any time i will remian for the survivor. i am as devoted as both my Mistress and our Lord is to take care of eachother for the rest of our lives in sickness and in health.



Wheldrake -> RE: Disabilities (2/15/2008 12:36:36 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

Subs/Slaves: are you really going to seek the young lusting nubiles??



In a word, no. Aside from devotion and emotional attachment - the importance of which is obvious - there's something inspiring, as well as deeply erotic, about the idea of a frail octagenarian who gives cruel, unprintable instructions to obedient naked men from the comfort of her chair by the fireplace. Precisely because society dictates that she ought to be sexually passive, and certainly not kinky, her dominance would have a transgressive, even defiant element that would make it all the more magnificent. And it's always wonderful to see a strong, sharp mind overcome physical limitations, in any field of human endeavour. Last but not least, surrendering to a sadist with a few decades of accumulated experience and expertise would be a scary prospect - in the best possible way, of course.

No lusting young nubiles for me, then. I expect the woman in my life to only get more interesting as she ages.



PanthersMom -> RE: Disabilities (2/15/2008 12:40:21 PM)

i am who i have grown to be, and like every human being, as i experience more in life i learn more about myself and incorporate those experiences into my life.  i continue to grow and expand my knowledge as long as i am alive, therefore why should i be anything less than i am already?  time and deterioration may force me to curtail some of the things i do, but i will still be the person i am.
PM



MissHarlet -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/15/2008 12:41:13 PM)

You can always tell her you would be delighted to move there and serve in any way needed <smile>



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