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MissHarlet -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/15/2008 12:46:46 PM)
It goes both ways ... if there is truly a commitment neither will abandon the other .. but will make adjustment in how service is done or what is needed ..

jacksubbie -> RE: Disabilities (2/15/2008 1:55:39 PM)
Ma'am i would be honored to serve a Mistress whether She was in a wheel chair or stilettos; Her command comes from Her mind and control and not from the article she sits on. jacksubbierU

MaamJay -> RE: Disabilities (2/16/2008 4:23:06 AM)
I am 51 and a BBW, and like Mistress Venus I am amazed at the approaches I get from boys in their 20s and 30s! I used to say "too young" but realise there is pleasure to be had for both them and Myself in basic play and introduction to the lifestyle for them, hopefully enabling them to find a permanent Domme. I'm not especially ageist, Master is 15 years younger (hi poenkitten, nice to see someone else in similar situation!) ... W/we figure this gives a good chance that He will be around to share my old age with me! He's already had to push me in a wheelchair when my back was really bad 3 years ago ... not that it was much of a burden to Him, it brought out the Big Kid that i love in Him as W/we did wheelstands and stoppies and made appropriate revving noises! i think He was almost disappointed when the chiropracty worked and got me out of the chair! And should I finally find a 24/7 slave, well hopefully he or she will be able to assist in the future care package! Though for U/us, it's a life partnership thing ... whoever is more capable at the time helps the other, quite apart from roles. My main concern with younger subs is that I feel that people change a lot from 20s to 30s and I wouldn't want one to feel bound to Me yet suddenly desirous of establishing a family for eg as his clock ticks down. I agree that Dominance is much more about authority, control and aura than it is about being able to stand, being dressed in fetish gear or being able to wield a flogger. And as I age, I find I am more and more confident in Myself ... and that is very sexy to most people! Similarly, disabilities needn't be deal breakers, there are many ways to get around these ... though as Master and I both have bad backs, it would be sensible to look for a slave that doesn't also have one! Would be good to have someone capable of sustained yard work! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Disabilities (2/16/2008 11:49:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LotusSong Pixel, It does happen. The other day, slave and I stood in front of a mirror.. he behind me hugging me. As we looked into the mirror, I saw my physical flaws.. I looked at him and noted his changes over the years.. I broke the silence, knowing that was going through his mind also (we are both very self-critical and one does not see the other as we see ourselves) I sighed and said "Slave, we've gotten old together". There was a comfort in that thought. I met him when he was 53 and I was 44.. he is now 63 and I, 54. Ah, lovely Lady, Methinks you are way to hard on yourself. I am of the personal mind that you and your slave are an incredibly attractive couple! You beautiful, he handsome, and both full of dignity and grace. And I know others who agree with that assessment!

chezzy52 -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/17/2008 3:27:39 AM)
Perhaps this needs to be a separate thread but i have diabetes type2 and to be perfectly honest,sometimes i am more flaccid than i wish to be.I am concerned that even if get my sugar down to acceptable levels that i would no longer be wanted as a submissive.My question is would my dysfunction be a deal breaker???

BlackPhx -> RE: Disabilities (2/17/2008 8:46:53 AM)
And a pleasure to meet you as well MaamJay <EG>. Oddly enough Master has also had the pleasure of shoving me around in a wheelchair. He LOVES going to Disney and Universal and other theme parks. Between Diabetic Neuropathy in my feet and legs, and asthma, walking great distances can be a slow and steady but painful process. So we rent a wheelchair for me when we go and he loves seeing just how fast he can bump me down the cobblestones at Disney (great way to discover how long you and your bladder can argue) or pop wheelies at Universal with me. Sometimes I suspect he has more fun doing that than hitting the rides and attractions. I hope to never end up in one permanently and therefore submit (I still want a safeword) to PT each week. As for finding a submissive...I still say wheelchair pony races could be fun...Hitch up them subs and lets GO whip cracking all the way into our 90's..Maybe Master and I can find a matching pair!!! poenkitten I think I was once that age. I believe it was the sixties. I had to go through the sixties to get to the seventies. I remember taking LSD and wearing a great many bad outfits....

BlackPhx -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/17/2008 8:52:38 AM)
I can see no reason why it would be a deal breaker for most. Type 2 can be controlled in many ways, insulin pump, injections( can be kinky when done with imagination), pills, diet and exercise. Side effects of it can be handled as well. IU use an insulin pump, symlin and diet/exercise. One day I may wear something less than an 18W, but, it doesn't stop me from happily serving my Master or in my Domming anyone else. It's just a fact of life, not a defining probem. poenkitten aka Mistress Cat

MissHarlet -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/20/2008 5:53:42 PM)
I cant answer for Every Dominant but it would not be a deal breaker for me as I am not seeking strictly a sexual submissive ...

chezzy52 -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/21/2008 2:30:08 AM)
Miss Harlet,thank You for Your support.A statement like Your makes me feel better about myself and what i would be truly needed for anyways and that of course is my submission not my sex.I appreciate your honesty.

MsCfromMelbourne -> RE: Disabilities (2/21/2008 3:04:24 AM)
My sub and I joke around that one day we will be a pair of totally outrageous old perverts bedridden in the same nursing home....and all our kinky friends will be locked up with us. We will still be having as much fun as our frail old bones can handle. But joking aside, I have met Dommes with incredible physicial disabilities who are still very much Dominant. It can be done - the mind is our greatest tool. My real fear is eventual loss of my wicked mind, not physical deterioration. When that time comes, my sub knows his last act of loving service will be to set my spirit free.

BossyLadyPamela -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/23/2008 6:04:28 PM)
This was an absolutely facinating OP.. great food for thought.. and the replies just as interesting................ getting older a part of life, and we all have to do it.. I find as it keeps happening I am different than I was "last year" seems I get further away from that part of my life where it was so youthful, risk taking was abundant.. so many differences...so many.... I love what someone said here-- we are people first and all though my domme energy is just part of who I am........ getting older as a human being is joyful.. I love to laugh with friends at the process, as we all go through it with humor. I will still be a very lovingly, bossy woman in my 60s. I dont know if I will get the same charges I get today as looking on yesterday that has changed to fit where I am at today... I would like to find a man that has total submissive tendacies that is part of his core..has experience with the details of kink and is a healthy pervert as myself. to get old with-- a man that is my partner to keep my mind engaged with a gazillion types of closeness... gracefully as an aging couple to enjoy life and sit on a porch while getting old.. him possibly in a light cock cage-- tied to a pull that goes up through his arm and over the shoulder for me to pull on as we rock away looking at our beautiful landscape-- giggling at the naughty play that still tickles us both..... I write this as it is something I am closer to than not.. total smiling at this.

LPslittleclip -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/28/2008 9:59:20 AM)
as a male there will always be a part of me that wishes for the days of youth. but i will always remember my M'Lady as i met her and no matter what she is able or unable to do i will still be at her side as long as I'm able to. i am collared by her not to a title i am her boy proudly collared by LadyPact

Cradyn -> RE: Disabilities (2/28/2008 10:41:54 AM)
Although I am a switch, I wanted to address the question posed towards subs/slaves. My response would have to be; Why should I go for a Young Lusting Nubile who has almost no experience and can't really do much for me but expiriment. Yes for now, due to the fact of not having an owner. I will occassionally "play" with someone closer to my age. But I can clearly state that it is a wish of my own to have an owner/partner who is quite considerably older than me(mid 30's +). Not that it's sexually gratifying... Frankly I couldn't care about sex or anything. My main love while in this lifestyle. Is to make others happy within my own limits. Whether that be by spending an entire night with them at a hospital while thier in surgery, cleaning thier home because they either don't have the time or energy, Or the other aspects of the bdsm lifestyle where kinky "play" is involved. Even though I love that sort of play. I realise not everyone can do it. Not every top out there can hit with a paddle(although i'm hoping most of those who can't hit, are okay with ordering others to do it). As in conditions where a top/dom is MUCH older or has disabilities. If i truly like the top as a person, i'll do whatever it takes to keep pleasing them. Frankly, I couldn't care less if your in a wheelchair, or have so bad arthritis(sp) that you can't hold a paddle/flog. I'll most likely speak up and ask if you'd like me to hit myself. Or if you'd like me to call one of the friends over to do it for you. I guess what i'm trying to say is this. I don't want someone young and lusting(although if your older and look a million dollars. More power to you!). I won't automatically go looking for someone in thier mid 80's, because I'm young and still would like someone who can introduce and continue introducing me into various play and aspects. But I also will never leave someone for a disability or age. I hope to one day have someone i can grow old with. Even if thier 30 years older than me. I Still want that and will be with them till they die(god forbid).

Cradyn -> RE: Disabilities (2/28/2008 10:47:39 AM)
I also wanted to add that as they grow old. I will also still be there teasing the hell out of them by shaking my lil ass in thier direction. ^_^ I may be caring..but no lies..i'm an evil lil bastard. :D

BlackPhx -> RE: Disabilities (2/28/2008 3:09:17 PM)
At 105 my grandmother could still swing a mean switch even though she was wheelchair bound. I expect no less of myself even if I have to back my sub into a corner to hit him. poenkitten aka MC

LadyHugs -> RE: Dommes & Disabilities (2/28/2008 10:25:14 PM)
Dear liks2plzif, Ladies and Gentlemen; I do understand the desire for slaves to kneel. I hope you would consider using a low stool, perhaps make one yourself as to sit on the stool and fold your legs aside it--like straddling a saddle on a horse or fence post. You will be sitting but you would be keeping weight off the knees. Another potential remedy would be a 'church' kneeling cushion, where you can rest on the shins--not on the knees themselves. Two bench cushions could raise you up if you have no luck in finding a church kneeling cushion. I would also look at those garden stools that can switch from a kneeling cushion and the legs act as handle bars as to raise yourself up and you can flip it as to sit on it and do your garden work. I have seen such in a catalog called "Home Improvements." Seat cushions from the love seat, couch and or chair will work in a pinch. One can also consider stacking some pillows and tie them together and make a cushion from it. Hopefully, this will spark some creative juices. Perhaps make natural wood stool that can act as art as well as functional. Just some thoughts. Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs

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