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ORIGINAL: SPOILEDOMINA

As for myself I'd have to say that I do enjoy the power but something I heard once wrung very true. Guys get absolutely addicted to being f*ed up the a** by a woman. Men in general who have had it positively crave it when they don't have it. Once they experience it , it's impossible to get rid of them. If you look at the numbers, it makes sense. Just guestimate how many women actually do strap on play. I'd say it's a very low number. It's not something most people put in a yahoo personals ad or something you see on e harmony or J date. lol. Ultimately you can't "rule" anyone with sexual power but you can most certainly feel that power while in that activity.

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What a strap-on dildo training can bring to a dominate mistress?

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I read an interview with a well known mistress and she said that "nothing works better than strap-on dildo training to remove all the manhood a male sub still feels he has".  Do you mistresses agree with this?  Overall, what fun, excitement, satisfaction, orgasm, etc. can a good strap-on session bring to mistresses themselves?

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Lashra:
No I don't agree with the statement that Mistress made.  I don't want to remove my submales manhood, I happen to really like men a lot.  What I want to do is have my fun with him and send him flying out into subspace.  Part of my fun is taking his ass with a strapon it gives me a feeling of power, power over him, power over his pleasure and power to use him as I will (within our limits).

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I dunno.  A dildo is superior to the majority of human phalli in many respects.  Most of them are larger, thicker, and more durably tumescent than a human penis, regardless of how many orgasms the wielder may have--and if you happen to be a straight man, there's the inestimable benefit of the toy being wielded by a deliciously soft, sweet-smelling, curvaceous yum-yum female. 

A strap-on doesn't have to represent "manhood", in other words--it represents a use of technology to stimulate pleasure/pain.  The power involved doesn't necessarily have to be the assumption of the masculine role.  That can be part of it for some players, but it can also just be the intensity of the stimulation, and the intimacy of penetrating such an extremely sensitive taboo orifice.

Anyway, I think "dildo makes you a man" is a childish point of view.  Saying you shouldn't use a toy to stimulate the nerve bundles of the vagina, prostrate, anus etc. is like saying you shouldn't use an implement to strike people--it isn't "real" power unless you hit with the hand or fist.  BS!  Welcome to Homo sapiens, a species of tool users.  I don't think I'm "pretending to be an eel" if I use electricity, "pretending to be a rabbit" if I use a fur mitt, or "pretending to be a man" if I use a dildo.  I'm just being a human being, and using whatever tool is suited to the job at hand.

This is not to say, of course, that there can't be a lot of potentially amusing emotional freight associated with being penetrated for men, being as how afraid most of them are of the Gay.  There are a lot of other D/S games that can flirt with that homophobic/homoerotic taboo, including forced bi, cuckoldry, etc..  *shrug*  I see nothing wrong with any of it, if it turns you on, but strap-on play doesn't have to go there.

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ORIGINAL: AtlantaMistress


lol - I have heard that a way to a man's heart is not through his stomach, but up his ass

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

No I don't agree with the statement that Mistress made. I don't want to remove my submales manhood, I happen to really like men a lot. What I want to do is have my fun with him and send him flying out into subspace. Part of my fun is taking his ass with a strapon it gives me a feeling of power, power over him, power over his pleasure and power  to use him as I will (within our limits).

~Lashra

Perfectly stated! now, to try to get up to the Baltimore area *thinking*

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A woman can get most male subs to do anything for strapon training...

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ORIGINAL: hands0n0knees

A more interesting dispute is whether female dominants feel that appropriating the male shape in order to feel sexual power contributes to the diminution of their innate power as women.

But I think that's been asked a thousand times as well.

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ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

DianeB269,

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A woman can get most male subs to do anything for strapon training...

Some subs yes, others no.  For many people (myself included), this depends highly on who is on the other end of the strap-on. :-)

Elan.

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DianeB269:
A woman can get most male subs to do anything for strapon training...

ElanSubdued:
Some subs yes, others no.  For many people (myself included), this depends highly on who is on the other end of the strap-on. :-)

solvr70:
True, but it does bring some STRONG incentive.  Particularly if She is skilled and does not go for something 3" thick straight away.

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ORIGINAL: kyang777

Lashra, I like your opinion better.

Here is the original interview note: (I left out th interviewer and mistress's pen name)

Interviewer: Do You offer strap-on training?

Mistress-xxx: Oh yes I truly enjoy having a sissy or a boy bent before me holding his ankles for dear life as I fuck him until he screams for mercy! I feel it is truly important when training male pets who still think they have a little manhood left. Nothing takes that away like being ass raped!

This quote really bothers me.  Just the concept of being raped whether by a man or a woman isn't part of what I feel consensual BDSM is all about. 

Prostate issues aside, the anus contains a very large bundle of nerve endings which can be very pleasurable for either a male or female when properly stimulated.  Anal sex, or strap-on play IMO shouldn't be painful.  If it is, it's potentially causing harm to the recipient.  If anything, I believe it should be pleasurable.

It can also be a very intimate sharing between a Mistress and her submissive.  An alternate way of making love might be one way of describing it.  Yes, it can also be very empowering for the Domme, and I'm pleased to provide that for her.  It also can put me deep into sub-space while providing that sense of empowerment.  Do I feel less of a man?  Absolutely not!  If anything, I sometimes feel like more of one.  I've acknowledged a part of my sexuality that some men erroneously associate with homosexuality, which I view as being their problem with homophobia and denying a part of their body's natural response to anal stimulation.

Yes, there are many variations on what strap-on play can look like according to your particular dynamic and within the same dynamic of each couple depending on their mood.  It's something that taps deep into both my sexuality and the core of my submissive being.  What exactly is touched and released during our play, depends on how it's done.  There's no doubt a Domme can turn me into her complete and total slut if she wants to and knows how to.  Regardless, at the end of the day, I still feel like a man and a human being who hasn't been diminished as a person.  If I didn't, I wouldn't be with that woman as my Domme.