Gwynvyd
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To put it simply: the joys of fucking someone, or the joys of being fucked, really don't have much to do with gender. If you really think that those thousands of strap-on harnesses being sold in shops across the country are only going to lesbians, well, you need to do some more research! (I remember coming across a sales figure from a company that was running a booth at AAE this year, and they alone stated that they had sold over 10,000 harnesses in 2006, and dildoes to go with them. They are only one of hundreds of manufacturers world wide, I'm sure.)
It sounds to me from the quoted interview, that the Domme in question might not know exactly what she's doing. I've been taken that way by at least a half a dozen women over the years, some in rather brutal style, and I've never felt the urge to scream... unless she wasn't using enough lube. Typical newbie mistake: when it comes to strap ons and fisting "a little dab will do ya" is definitely NOT the creedo to have. Slather that sucker up like the Exxon Valdeez!
Anyway, in my experiences, being taken with a strap on is NOT something that makes me feel like my manhood is being taken away. Rather, it makes me feel like I am the center of attention, and that I'm giving myself up to my dominant partner. Not the same thing as emasculation at all! It's a more intense version of subspace, sure, but it doesn't really screw with my identity as a male. And to answer you question about what the Domme gets out of it? The partners that I've had have told me that it gives them a sense of control over me, or anyone that they are penetrating. It's a very powerful act, to enter someone else's body. (Something that women understand inately, while men tend to take the act of doing so as a matter of privlidge.)
The other thing that it seems this thread hasn't realy recognized is, that males can wear these things too. Does that make them somehow "super-male?" Hardly. (With me, it just means I want to keep going after the third round that night...)
Might I suggest picking up a copy of "The Strapon Book?" (A.H. Dion, Greenery Press) It deals with your questions far more completely than anyone could on this thread. Available at most upscale adult palaces and slightly disreputable bookshops everywhere.
Very good points.. and the Exxon comment was hillarious. Always buy the huge bottle of lube folks. Non silicone if you are using silicone toys. (forplay tends to be the most hypoallergenic)
With one of my males it is about emasculating him because it is what he enjoys... with the other it really is not.. it sends him further into subspace.. and he simply loves it just as much as my other boy for the usual reasons. With my girl it is about bonding and our closeness as a couple.
Mentioning that males can use strap ons is very useful! Not every male is trained to go 6-8 rounds a night. Not to mention the double penitation aspects.
I just got my happy little package containing the new Feeldoe Stout (of course I *had* to try it out that night) and since it is so flexible and has no harness.. it is perfect for a man to use the one bulb portion analy, and use for double penitration. (says so on the box, I havent tried it that way yet.. none of my males are about) It might be interesting to find that out.. *smiles* in either case.. I would diffantly reconmend the feeldoe stout. *eyes glaze over*
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