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MadRabbit -> RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? (1/31/2008 2:19:26 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
Actually when you think about it, the same question applies to a 21 year old sub. How can a person who has not yet gotten any personal power transfer something they don't have to another? How can they choose a partner carefully and well when they have insufficient life experience to help them know what characteristics they need in a partner and what characteristics they cannot tolerate?
I am not sure how you were when you were 21, but I think a lot of people are making some serious stretches here. Maybe if we are talking about a teenager around 17-18, but come on.
I'm 24 and I work two jobs, have a very well developed resume of education and experience in culinary arts, a landlord who is responsible for the maintence and bills of a peice of property that I rent rooms out to for profit, and am preparing to go into buisness for myself next summer.
Now...at the same time, there is a distinct difference between me and the average college kid. I was on my own at 17 with no support from parents.
But...still...even with that, there is a large gap from the clueless, naive, idiotic 20 year olds people are depicting here.
Everyone going "Well, how can a 21 year old be a dominant or submissive, when they don't have the experience to do it right?" is missing the point.
How do I have the experience and knowledge and confidence to be able to start my own buisness at 24? How am I able to very successfully manage a property occuppied by some tenants who are twice my age at 24?
The only way you gain experience and confidence in something is by challenging yourself and attempting to do all the things you have never done.
You don't learn what characteristics and traits to avoid in partners until you've had some relationships and made some mistakes. (My response to your other question is that it's silly and I find the idea of trying to imply that a 21 year old has no personal power to be offensive and insulting).
Maybe 21 year olds shouldn't enter into any kind of sexual relationship, because they might lack the life experience to know who is a good guy and who is the one who wants to fuck you, get you pregnant and stick you with a kid. Maybe they shouldn't own appartments and have bills since their lack of experience with managing such things can result in them going into debt. Maybe they shouldn't drink because they have no experience with drinking and might drink too much.
Unfortanely, the only way you get all this life and BDSM experience that all everybody wants to Oooo and Aaaahhh about is by attempting to do the things you have no experience with, screwing up, and learning.
If I had listened to everyone said "Oh you can't handle this because your too young", I won't be anywhere close to the person I am now.
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