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BlackPhx -> RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? (2/1/2008 12:07:13 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar
His parents made him shut off the computer.
Nope, "She" has replied to a couple of other threads, just not the one she started. Perhaps she didn't get the response she wanted.
That said, there is one other thing that should be brought up regarding the maturity of 21's for entitlement in BDSM. We cannot just talk about the maturity of the middle class 21 year old. There is a great deal of maturity developed at early ages in communities where death by drive by is a consideration on the playground. You mature really quick when death is a constant companion, where gangs and gang violence is something you have to contend with on a daily basis and drughouses abut the home you live in.
Childhood gets snatched away very quickly when you are homeless or a runaway and life on the street can strip away all illusions. The Peace Corp still gets a healthy influx of 18 year olds each year to work in 3rd world countries. You don't come out of that with many illusions left about life either, but you do come out of it knowing yourself and what you are capable of doing.
Maturity can come at any age and in many stages, it doesn't just happen over night. I know 60 year olds who still haven't emerged from childhood, 50 year olds I would trust to take care of a goldfish much less another person or a child and kids as young as 14 who carry the world on their shoulders and don't break beneath the weight. Anyone can learn to swing a whip, bind a body, or do things safely. That is a matter of reading, mentoring, trial, and perserverence.
People mature at different rates, part of it is nature, part nurture, take each of them as they come and discount none until they give you reason to do so. If a 21 yr. old dominant or submissive is not for you, then they are not for you, it doesn't mean they don't exist.
Alexiander the Great died at the age of 33 after ruling Macedonia as Regent at age 16, becoming a senior general of the Army at age 18 and by age 25 had conquer Persia. somehow I doubt any would have considered him too immature to hold slaves (which he did). He's not the only such example.
poenkitten
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