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Rover -> RE: is there a protocolfor leaving a Master (1/30/2008 4:36:40 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx
In this instance you are making assumptions that are entirely not the case.
I make no assumption in this case. You live your life and your relationships in a very public manner here at this community, and that is an undeniable fact.
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The internet is and never has been a substitute. I have very dear and long lasting friendships, of a kind that are unconditional and meaningful and dare i say it perfect...
As perfect as this now rotten relationship was proclaimed to be on several occasions? Do you talk about your relationships like this with your real time friends and family? If you do, then why the need to do it here? You have every right to do so, and I'm not complaining. I'm just askin, ya know?
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i do real-time bdsm intensely so and i don't feel the need tp prove it to you...
This has nothing to do with real time BDSM or your need to prove it to me or anyone else. Particularly so when I haven't called it into question. What I have questioned is why you are using such a public forum on an electronic box in which to bare your soul. It's the functional equivalent of shouting about your relationship and emotional roller coaster ride to a few friends in a restaurant such that everyone (including the strangers) can hear you.
It's inappropriate at the least.
And don't give me some BS about your friends being here. If you wanted to share with your friends you'd do so in private email. Nope, there's something about doing it in a very public fashion that appeals to you... kinda like the public wailing one sees at certain ethnic funerals. You crave the public attention.
Cripes, it even gives rise to the question of whether you intentionally sabotage your relationship in order to access the public trough of sympathy. Particularly so when the latest event is a week long trip out of town that is portrayed as "abandonment". You're a therapist... think about it.
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indeed the intensity of my reality is one of the reasons i am not afraid to post here, on collarme, as opppsed to other sites because it is not a substitute but a very intelligent and well meaning forum, where i have made exceptional real life and cyber friendships.
As previously noted, people do not act like this in real life. They simply do not live their lives in such a public fashion. And if they do, I'd be willing to bet that as a therapist you might consider that symptomatic of some problem.
It's simply not accurate to compare what you do here with what people do in real life.
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And actually it does give me many of the tools i need to support me; web links, prior postings, turns and twists of disclosures that sustain me and i wouldn't want to go back to the world of scarcity that i experienced before the internet brcame another form of communication in my life.
.Read that passage again. Read it a hundred times if you have to. If you don't see replacement of real life in those words, I'll eat my hat. If you don't see a lonely woman who is lost without the internet, I'll eat my shorts along with the hat. Turn off the box and get out there and force yourself to make the connections with real life that you've replaced with online connections.
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If you don't like my spew and feel the need to throw a wet towel over it then please please do. And i don't have the energy to hate anyone right now.
John centred universe as i said before just is not supportive.....
perhaps you might need advice one day...who knows.
It may not seem like it right now, but this advice is for your own good. Certainly not for my benefit. In fact, I'll take a lot of crap for saying it (including yours). But then, staying quiet wouldn't do you any good. And in that respect, I consider this very caring and supportive. Often times the "right" thing to do (yeah, as I see it but that has to be my guide) isn't the easy thing to do.
Perhaps one day you may thank me for it.
John
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